If you are a regular follower of this blog/are on my BBM, then it’s no secret to you that I’ve lost a whole lot of weight and I feel great!
My fitness level is off the rooftop, great shape and all… and I am mighty glad about it.
But I still remember those days when I used to weigh almost a 100kg (I started my weight loss journey at 98kg in 2013 and I weigh 72kg right now)
I remember those days of feeling like a balloon, blown up and all over the place.
I even had one friend who wanted to fix me up with someone (I didn’t ask her to oh) and then said the man said I was too fat (babes if you are reading this, I love you, but you know say you and the man nor try for this matter, but let me not go into the issue of a man saying that the reason why he can’t date a lady is that she is too fat – it’s another discussion on it’s own)
Yes, I felt like I had confidence in myself then, especially when I gave my life to God and started knowing who I am, but I must admit that there is a mighty difference between the way I used to feel about myself then and now that I have lost the weight (and still on the journey to my goal weight)
So as I read this Eziaha’s post, though she was talking about pregnancy weight gain, I could relate.
I know the deal about terrible comments aimed at you just because you added a ton of weight.
But I have tasted both sides of the coin – weight gain and weight loss – and I now know this to be true…
Your loosing the weight will never make you feel good about yourself if you don’t get it right at whatever weight range you are at right now.
Sometimes, I think that women place too much emphasis on beauty being about their body shape, facial features, etc.
When the truth is that true beauty isn’t based on all those outer stuff and we will never feel beautiful if we don’t get our mentality on beauty right.
Now, let me explain what I am trying to say using myself as an example.
Last year this truth came to me at a time when I felt like I had a “fat mentality”.
Here’s the way it worked.
If I missed it and didn’t eat right for like 3-5days, I felt like I was fat.
I felt bloated, like I added a ton of weight and I hated that feeling.
And here’s the deal, my weight was still the same but I felt fat and could absolutely not get myself to say anything good about myself/my body.
I’d still turn heads when I walk on the street and even get a few toasters, but inside me, I would be feeling fat and ugly.
I had to do some deep thinking about this, and as I did so, these words came to mind.
“It’s not what people see – yes, they turn around when you walk past, they say you are attractive and beautiful BUT what do you say about yourself? What do you see when you stand in front of the mirror?”
You can lose all the weight and look great but if you don’t deal with loving who you are inside, you will NEVER see the great body outside.
If you don’t love who you are even while you are “overweight”, you cannot love who you are when you are at your “ideal weight”.
Because it starts from your inside, who you truly are is who you are inside.
God recognizes this and you have to recognize it too.
The self-hatred of your body would fizzle out when you get your mentality straightened out.
You should love who you are at whatever size that you are at.
The problem with this self-love most times is just that some of us love ourselves the wrong way.
We think that just because we love who we are when we are at 100kg, we don’t have to do what we need to do to get healthier and better.
But no, even God doesn’t love us that way.
He loves us as we are and still prunes us to be better in Him. (Read this post on the right way to love ourselves)
So yes, the extra weight isn’t good for you, so do what you have to do to get healthy but also make sure that you have a balanced view about what true beauty is.
True beauty is of your heart, your spirit and it radiates from the inside out – and your body is just a container that will go to dust when you leave the earth.
But your spirit – if you develop it rightly, will last forever.
Get active if you need to, let that container that houses the real you be healthy and fit to take care of her home, family and purpose for which God has created her.
But never get it twisted that your beauty is reliant on your physical body/ whatever weight you are at.
You are beautiful whether you weigh an 10kg extra or more.
Let this truth sink into you.
You can read this article I wrote on beauty for Bella Naija – Imperfectly Perfect here. (It would explain better what I’m trying to say)
And speaking of Bella Naija, have you read my recent article?
Read “Save us from the “come to my house syndrome” here. (the comments has a lot of wisdom and truth in them)
Happy new week everyone.
You are worthy.
You are beautiful.
You are loved.
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