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Why I Need A Husband

Dear Daddy,
My heart almost stopped when I got the message from the proposed chief launcher of my book yesterday…
He said he won’t be able to attend the book launch and for a few minutes, I was confused.
Like what would happen now?
Who do I ask to fill in?
I experienced discouragement on another level last night and a bit of fear.
As I sat down to collect myself and my thoughts and speak to you, I realized, hey Lord, here’s one of the reasons why I actually need a husband!
I’m serious Lord.

As I walk on this path of purpose, I get to understand more and more your real purpose for marriage even before I step into the wonderful institution.
As I walked home with a heavy heart yesterday, I thought “it sure would be nice to be able to call “him” and tell him what just happened, draw strength from him and plan a plan B together…”
And then Ecclesiastes 4:9 kept ringing in my heart…
Two people are better off than one for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble…”


Lord, I am not trying to hasten you up but I’m just saying that I am understanding better your reason for giving the gift of a husband/wife.
I have always known – at least from last year when you taught me – that the first reason why you bring a man and woman together is to fulfil your purposes and reap lives for you even with their union…
But now, I am even gaining deeper insight into the reason why I can’t marry a man who doesn’t advance your purposes along with me.
How would he understand the path you’ve sent me on?
How would he understand when I say that you have laid something on my heart to do?
And even worse, how would he encourage me in disappointing situations like the one that happened yesterday?
When I need someone to hold my hands and help me draw strength through prayers, how would a man who doesn’t understand purpose do that for me?
When I call him with fear threatening to overwhelm me while I go out with what you want me to do, how would a man who doesn’t understand purpose help me find my faith in you again?
When I just need an additional encouragement in the Lord, how would the man who I am supposed to be one flesh with who doesn’t understand purpose do that for me?


I see now Lord.
More and more I see why I can only marry your chosen son for me.
One with whom we can lift your name on high together.
One with whom we can run the race on fulfilling purpose together… nothing less would do Lord.
I see that more than ever before now.


So Daddy, I know that you have graciously added love and sex and kids in the mix as benefits of marriage and that’s wonderful (I imagine I would know just how wonderful these benefits are when I get there).
But I am getting to understand that I don’t need a husband primarily for those additional benefits.
I need a husband because “two are better than one and they have a greater reward for their labour”.
I need a husband because “two can better help each other succeed on the path God has called them on”.
I need a husband because “when one person falls and is discouraged, the other can better reach out and help”.


I am so thankful for the helpers of destiny you have placed in my path, but nights like last night, I yearn for one who I can call who just gets it because we are one flesh.
One whose my success is his success and his success is my success.
One who my purpose is wrapped up in his own purpose and we cannot help but run the path together because that’s the way it’s meant to be.


Again I am not hastening you up Lord because I believe that you make all things beautiful in Your time not mine.
But I am just saying that I understand one of the most important reasons why you’ll give me a husband.
I’m just saying that I am thankful that you are teaching me this now so I don’t get drawn away with the lovey-dovey that me and him will do when he comes and forget the truth that you first of all brought us together to advance your kingdom here on earth.
I’m just saying that I love how you’ve drawn my entire life into living for you and your purposes – and yes, even my future marriage, you’ve drawn it all into your original plan that it was meant for from the beginning of time.
I know you already know this but let me say it anyway.
I don’t get agitated over marriage but I channel my thoughts about it into praying for your man for me.
I haven’t seen him yet but I pray for him when my heart gets tugged on to do so… and I would love to do that today.
Lord, I pray for your chosen son for me… teach him these things about marriage even as you do same for me right now.
Give him grace to be an encourager with your Word springing forth in him.
Give him clarity on your vision and purpose for his life and our joint vision and purpose in our union also.
Help him to indeed be my head and lead me in the way that you want both of us to go when we come together.
And for now, I am thankful for the helpers of destiny you’ve given to him even before I come his way.
Thank you Lord Jesus. Thank you.


So Daddy, I’m just sprinkling a bit of my heart to you as I always do.
Till my next love letter to you,
Your daughter,
Hopefully, my letter to Daddy above looks like someone else’s letter/heart call who’s been getting these lessons from God.
I think it’s beautiful the way God teaches us His way of doing things.
If you are sold out to Him in all ways including maritally, He just drops these sprinkle of lessons in your heart, even before you get married… its amazing really.
And if you haven’t read anything about purposeful marriages before, you can read the posts below…

Building A Kingdom Marriage

The Real Power Couples

Let’s Talk About Purposeful Relationships


And oh, the book – “10 Steps To Walking In Purpose” – my current walk in purpose that spurred this lesson will be unveiled on thursday, October 22nd, next week at a book launch/seminar.
Helpers of destiny, please pray along with me for grace and for everything to go smoothly.
You can like the book page here for more details/virtual book tour, sneak peeks from the book, giveaways..etc.
Click here to like the book page.
And do share and spread the news even with the flyer below. And via the social media buttons below.

Stepping out and letting my net out to catch a draught...come October 22nd

Stepping out and letting my net out to catch a draught…come October 22nd

Details and everything are on the flyer, my number too, if you need to call me up and make inquiries.
Thank you.

Have an ama-mazing weekend ahead.


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  • Reply
    Cassandra Ikegbune
    October 17, 2015 at 10:28 am


    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      October 17, 2015 at 11:32 am

      Lol Cassie…that doesn’t say nothing oh..dont know what to decipher from *sigh*..but eh, thank you.

  • Reply
    Nguchiyaga Nakanga
    October 17, 2015 at 3:45 pm

    Two are better than one indeed. Its amazing how God talks to us as we walk with Him. Amazing article Frances.

    Love you always

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      October 19, 2015 at 9:44 am

      It’s amazing Nguchiyaga, I looove these lessons!
      And love you lots 🙂

  • Reply
    October 17, 2015 at 5:51 pm

    ThIs post had me nodding my head seriously in agreement. It is a wonferful feeling to find that person that pushes you towards the purpose God has called you for. That person that stands up for you in prayers and actions when you can’t stand up for yourself.

    Yes, indeed. Two are better than one. Better still, three are better than two. YOu, that chosen person and the Holy Spirit. A three fold cord that cannot be easily broken.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      October 19, 2015 at 10:07 am

      Mayowa… it definitely is thrilling to find a hand that holds yours through walking in purpose.. God Himself told us that and even better 3 with Him in the centre achieves much!
      Didn’t add that cuz that wasn’t my emphasis but it’s all the more needed and essential.

  • Reply
    Tope Ogunyinka
    October 19, 2015 at 4:37 pm

    Beautiful beautiful article Frances! God bless you. God give you the man he has planned for you.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      October 19, 2015 at 5:47 pm

      Amen and amen for us all Tope…
      Thank you

  • Reply
    November 7, 2015 at 7:59 am

    Hi Frances.

    What insight you have revealed and you are so right. Thanks for sharing.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      November 8, 2015 at 4:20 am

      Always glad to share Ikechi and good to have you back here 🙂

  • Reply
    December 30, 2015 at 8:13 pm

    Couldn’t agree more.
    Sooooo happy that he will send a purpose aligned man my way.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      December 31, 2015 at 4:20 pm

      He will Esther, He definitely will… #faith!

  • Reply
    October 18, 2016 at 8:33 pm

    A great article… I so agreed to everything u said

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      October 25, 2016 at 4:56 pm

      Thanks Kess for stopping by.
      Would have loved to hear your thoughts though… I wanna learn too 🙂

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