Dear single ladies and men,
How was your week?
Well, today’s saturday, you can chillax by starting out with Frances’s love letters 🙂
Something happened to me on Valentine’s day when I went for the dinner at church and I didn’t tell you about it in my last letter.
I saw someone and started analyzing the person(nor be say he approach me oh, what a laugh)
I thought to myself – “no, he can’t be the one na, he is too skinny, he looks too soft, he doesn’t look like “the one”
I was on a bike on my way home when I started having those real conversations in my mind… you know, the type where you are called to order.
I remembered the programme that we had with Mr Tobi of www.ijustmetme.com last year and how he had spoke about “The List”.
Yes, the almighty list to which we hold up and measure potential spouses with.
He said, “Who gave you that list?
Who wrote that list for you?
Be careful that you are not putting stuff on your list that do not align with God’s purposes for you(Paraphrased)
As much as most of us may say that we want God’s will for us maritally, we also have physical list and wills that are a mile long.
I personally don’t have anything written down but God Himself knows that I like fine men and that I don’t like pot belly.
Ah, I am very honest about such things with Him but then, when my real conversation with myself was going on, I was asking myself- “who wrote that list for me?
Does it align with God’s will for me?
(Isn’t it funny how I was only analyzing the physical attributes, I’m so vain *covers face*
But God’s will for me covers both the physical and inner attributes but I’m digressing here)
I felt the urge to pray on tuesday about the whole marriage thing and at first, I didn’t even know what to pray about so I started telling God about what happened in Church on Saturday(I was reporting myself.lol)
I told Him what I felt and how I was holding people to my own standards and I said with my whole heart, “Let your will be done in my marital life, not mine”
Pastor Nathaniel Bassey did a study on the will of God which I transcribed here last year(do read it if you haven’t yet) and he said something…
He said that some of us, we tell God “the man I will marry, he must be this, and he must live here”
And that God will just be looking at us like “when you finish eh, you will come”
He said no, you should pray “Lord, every list I have, I lay it down at your altar.
I take up your will for me.
Where do you want me to be?
Who do you want my spouse to be…
I surrender my will and I take up your will for me”.
And that was what I was reminded of on Saturday.
Some of us pray that with our hearts and believe differently in our minds.
Or we are so scared that God will relegate all our wishes to the background and dump them.
But everyone who has done this and prayed this prayer for God’s will for their lives maritally has never regretted it.
I know for a fact that Pastor Nat who preached that message to us and who went the path of God’s will for his marriage has an awesome marriage right now.
So God doesn’t just give us what we want, He gives us what we need and more.
I think a deeper part of this issue is trust in God.
Do you trust that God knows what you want and He wants the best for you too?
Do you trust that He knows your thoughts and mind set and He doesn’t disregard them?(He isn’t that wicked)
Do you trust that He will give you a spouse tailor made for you?
I chose to trust Him in this, so today, I’m giving God a blank list.
My own list and qualities can only go so far, I don’t see the end from the beginning do I?
So I am giving God a blank list with my signature binding me at the bottom.
Lord, write your own words and qualities needed in my future man in that list.
I trust that you know what is best for me.
You please work on that list and work on that man.
I am chilling.
When you are done with him and with me, wake up my Adam.
I know we will both see what we want and need in each other.
So, I am just gonna chill Lord.
Call me up when you are done with it all 🙂
So I’m sure you’ve gotten the gist of today’s letter already dears?
Did you say my prayers with me?
Are you chilling too or busy trying to work out what you don’t have the power to do?
Your own mind can only go so far.
You aren’t all knowing are you?
Let God work it out.
He knows your thoughts, knows you inside and outside.
He knows what will suit you to a “T”.
No one that I know who trusted God in this have ever come back heart broken.
So please, rely on God and rely on the testimonies of those who have gone before you.
You chill and #REST.
Let God work things out.
Till my next love letter to you,
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