How’s your week being?
Kai! Mine has been crazily busy,stressful and everyting Lagos law school is known for!
NLS Lagos really ready for us.Abeg expect my post on Saturday on NLS,you’ll get the full gist then.
Today I want to share with you all (esp the Ladies) something I wrote a while back.People wonder how I am so fufilled(or working towards getting fufilled) in my singlehood and how I dont stress about boyfriend stuffs or marriage.
Well,I don’t even know how o,na God.
The truth is I am so busy inculcating all the virtues in the post below that I hardly have time to lament about a relationship/the lack of one thereof.
I realised like Mummy Faith Oyedepo said,that being single is a phase in Life,its a season in my life and just like all seasons are meant for something,singlehood is meant for a lot too.
I assume you know Michelle Hammond?(Pls Check her out if you don’t,you can’t be a lady aspiring for more if you haven’t read one of her books yet,so pls read one up oo)
Ehen,she said that you can be content(in singlehood),despite your longing(for relationship or marriage).
And while you are doing “the waiting game,your life can be still so full and vibrating with purpose!”
I don’t know about you,but that’s where I want to be.
I want to get so lost in what I am meant to do while I wait that I can become a complete lady that my future man will be proud of.
Remember,the bible says 1+1= 1.
So have to bring a lot to the table too and guess what?
Thats what your singlehood is meant for.
Like Mummy Faith Oyedepo says,your singlehood is a stage in your life that if maximised to the fullest,brings out the best in the next phase of your life.that is the double phase(you get ba?)
So sorry for the Long talk,here’s the post below,unedited,and posted just like I wrote it back then.
I pray and hope it speaks to you.
WHILE YOU WAIT::
The bible says in Proverbs 18:22 that-
“he who findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtaineth favour from the Lord”
Meaning,it is the man that findeth the woman He wants as a wife.
Whats a woman to do then while she waits for the man to find her?
I am very certain the virtous woman in proverbs 31 didn’t learn all the attributes for which her husband praised her while in the marriage.It must have been before she got married that she trained herslf to be an excellent woman.
You can do the same.
Everything you know your man will be glad to have in you while in the marriage can be imbibed while you wait for him to come.
You want to love him like crazy when he comes?
Love urself like crazy first.
You want to care for him?
care for yourself first.
You want to manage your family finances well in the future?
learn to manage yours first.
You want to cook for him?
cook for yourself first.
You want to be a wife with wisdom in her words when she speaks to her husband? Speak to yourself with wisdom first.
You want to have a fit body when you are married?
Start exercising and eating healthy right now.
You want to have a career and a job that your man will be proud of you for?
Start working on dat career right now,start working on your credentials,start working on ur job skills…
Finally,when he finds you,he finds favour also,so you may also want to start seeking that favour from God upon you right now before He comes.
There’s no need to pine and bemoan d the fact that he hasn’t come while you wait.
Put the time into good use,become a certified,bonified and authentic Daughter Of Zion while you wait.
When He comes indeed,he will have no option but to say-;
“You are indeed more valuable than rubies and though he has seen other wonderful women,you surpass them all”
You can be all this WHILE U WAIT!
Chi ChiOctober 23, 2013 at 8:31 am
Wonder wonder wonder!!! Wish all ladies think like this, God and man would ve rested after creating the woman. Seriously…. Wish all mothers advice their daughters thia way… Every man will indeed be blessed. God bless the writer.
imperfectlyperfect92October 23, 2013 at 8:49 am
Thanks Chi Chi.unfortunately,the desperado craze 4a man has taken over most women 2day,forgetting d fact dat d season 4singlehood is just passing by wt nothing being achieved and by d time they go into d marriage “kpa kpa”,they go in half baked.
I wish too that Ladies will turn their thinkn around.
Thanks 4stopping by
E'October 23, 2013 at 1:34 pm
I can’t even explain how good it feels to see that this is coming from a single lady cos when I talk it will look like I am NOT in their shoes so I can’t feel it.
Just work on being the very best taht you can. Loneliness is not an absence of affection, it is an absence of direction and purpose so I always say, Get a vision first for your life before you look for a patner for life. simples.
And yes Hammond, ah I read her books plenty eh. For a single woman she sure has a lot of wisdom for even married people. o live her. Nice post hon
imperfectlyperfect92October 23, 2013 at 5:37 pm
“Loneliness is not an absence of
affection, it is an absence of direction
and purpose so I always say, Get a vision
first for your life before you look for a
patner for life. simples”….on point E!
I go steal wetin u write so,nor surprise 2see am somewhere with my name on it.true talk!
Michelle Hammond isn’t alone in d wisdom thing,u also have much wisdom bcuz u r walking in God’s purpose for ur life.dats wat happens when we maximise the essence of the season we r in and work on being d very best we can.
Thanks a lot for stopping by and commenting.body dey do me tinini tenene.lols
E'October 23, 2013 at 5:43 pm
uchennaOctober 24, 2013 at 12:42 am
girl you said it very well, we should try and develop our self. thanks for the encouragement.
imperfectlyperfect92October 24, 2013 at 6:21 am
Thanks Uchenna.dis also encouraged me like it did to u.
Thanks 4visiting my blog*smiles*
LizzieebunoluwaOctober 24, 2013 at 1:10 pm
Oh my word!…This is too real!..dripping with thought-provoking wisdom…this post rocks on many counts Frances.
I feel like copying and pasting it on the brains,hearts and minds of every lady created by God….it would solve many challenges in more ways than one…
This is my thrust; know it or not,the God-ordained place of the woman (either in the world or a man’s life) is both indisputable and indispensable….The need for conscious,committed preparation for that place/role can thus not be over-emphasized.
May God help us
Thanks for sharing dear…
Looking out for the post on NLS….pele dear…God’s got you…and He is enough!
imperfectlyperfect92October 24, 2013 at 4:58 pm
Post on NLs is coming up and oncoming.its loading.hehe.
Thanks for ur comment Lizziee,u can’t imagine how happy I was to see dis comment.u’ll understand when u see d NLS post.
thanks again,u said it all as usual with ur comment.I also wonder how u get 2b on point all d time.I guess its cuz u r also making ur singlehood season count.God help us all to maximise dis wonderful period in our lives and like E said,may we learn 2function in our purpose b4 bringing in another,IJN amen!.
LizzieebunoluwaOctober 24, 2013 at 7:05 pm
Am I?…hehehe…sÌ¶oÌ¶mÌ¶eÌ¶bÌ¶oÌ¶dÌ¶yÌ¶’Ì¶sÌ¶ Ì¶hÌ¶eÌ¶aÌ¶dÌ¶ Ì¶bÌ¶eÌ¶ Ì¶sÌ¶wÌ¶eÌ¶lÌ¶lÌ¶iÌ¶nÌ¶gÌ¶ Ì¶
Lol..I kid…I think i’m just blessed with access to the most awesome sources of wisdom resource.(The Bible and other materials)…plus being an old soul seals the deal..*grins*
So wonder no more my dear…
I’m glad you were glad@my comment…lol..i’m still here..aren’t I?@upcoming NLS post …
Amen to your prayer…
P.s;this your compliment eh, is the best thing since malt&plantain chips…hehehe…(consumer discretion is advised)
That’s my caveat right there..don’t try it Frances…you’ve been warned…lol…I should frame this compliment .its an apt self-worth reminder.
imperfectlyperfect92October 24, 2013 at 8:33 pm
Lmao! At ur malt and plantain chips! I won’t try it sha o,it will do nothing for my weightloss plans and I can’t have that at all o…
TosinOctober 24, 2013 at 9:50 pm
Gosh! I am so happy I found this blog. Being wondering if there were young Christian women who blogged about their faith and daily life. Now that I found you ,I am not alone. You are so on point girl! you can never give what you don’t have. More grease. I blog at http://www.chavivas.blogspot.com
PS: I love Michelle Hammond
imperfectlyperfect92October 24, 2013 at 10:37 pm
Yay!! Tosin,I am dancing around too.I am sure glad to know that we are not alone.may God continue to grant us greater grace to live and walk in Him,Amen!
Thank u,thank u for coming on here,definitely going right now to check out yours.
TosinOctober 25, 2013 at 11:26 am
Hey frances,stopping over again. I really appreciate the gracious comments on my blog. God bless you plenty. http://www.chavivas.blogspot.com
PS: I followed you on twitter
imperfectlyperfect92October 25, 2013 at 9:24 pm
Thanks,I’ll sure ff back.
worshipandswagDecember 8, 2013 at 9:19 am
Wow I am smiling in Chinese over here o! This is a lovely post and everything you wrote speaks to our generation. God bless you and please continue to write for God! 🙂
imperfectlyperfect92December 8, 2013 at 4:23 pm
Thanks a lot worship and Swag.I smiled in Japanese when I saw ur comment.
imperfectlyperfect92December 14, 2013 at 10:08 am
And yes,I pray for greater grace to continue,to keep on repping God with the words he has deposited in me,Amen.thanks a lot
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