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Where Are the Men Series || Spiritual Authority

I have been working on my soon to be released book “Prayers for your future husband (Spirit led prayers for the one whose name you don’t know)”.

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I woke up on Saturday with the words “Spiritual authority” ringing in my head.

And during prayers, I remembered something the Bible says that Job did and I went down there.

“When the parties were over, Job would get up early in the morning and sacrifice a burnt offering for each of his children, thinking, “Maybe one of them sinned by defying God inwardly.” Job made a habit of this sacrificial atonement, just in case they’d sinned.”

Job 1:5, MSG

See, Job wasn’t just concerned about his spiritual health alone, he interceded for the spiritual lives of his children too.

And he didn’t just do that once in a while, he “made a habit of this sacrificial atonement”. It was a regular habit with him. A way of life. It was inbred in him, a default mode.

Here was a man who understood that he wasn’t just meant to be a financial provider to his children, but that he was meant to also stand in the gap for the offspring that God has given to him.

And so when he was worried about whether they had sinned against God, He would stand in the gap and plead for their lives before God.

For him to be able to do that, he also had to have right standing with God.


And I prayed for my future husband, my brothers and  my father for their eyes to be open to the spiritual authority that God wants them to wield in their homes.


The truth is that our men have limited understanding about what roles they are meant to play in their families.

We appreciate the fact that we have men who provide materially for their families but why is it that they do not have a right understanding of who they are in Christ Jesus?

Men have limited understanding about what roles they are meant to play in their families. Click To Tweet


My dear brothers, you are the head. And that head isn’t for throwing your weight around and acting like a dictator.

But you have spiritual authority over your home, an authority that God has given to you.

There are cracks that are left in your home when you do not fulfill this God-given role.


Why should it be your wife who goes to Church and holds vigil for the family?

Why is it that your pastor has more spiritual authority over your home than you do?

Why are your children going hay wire and you cannot stand and declare over their lives?

Oh that the eyes of men would be open to the truth.


It is not all about business and money.

And being spiritual is not for women alone.


Why should it be your wife who goes to Church and holds vigil for the family? Click To Tweet


Most wives nag their men and resent them because the role they should play spiritually, they are not fulfilling it.

So the woman resents having to be the only one who organizes family devotion, bundles the children into the car on Sunday morning and forces the man to go to Church weekly.


But nagging is not the solution.


Dear men,

We pray for God to open your eyes to what really matters.

On what your role really is. On the true role of a man in a home.


In the  months since my brother have been born again, I have seen him step up into places that have been void before now in my family.

the authority God has given him as the first son over our home is immense and God keeps showing him what it is.

Do you know that as a man you can command satan to take his hands off your kids and release their souls to Jesus?

Do you know that you can order their paths with the words of your mouth declared to God?

Do you know that you can speak blessings over your wife”s life and it will come to pass?

You wield so much as a man and satan wants to rob you of all God wants you to be for Him and in Him.


Please pray the prayers below for yourself (insert your name, your brother’s name, etc where you see future husband) I prayed them for my future husband as I was writing my book

  • Lord, I thank you that my future husband is saved. I thank you that his heart is hidden in your hands.

  • I ask that you teach him your ways; teach him how to wield spiritual authority under you as a husband and father.

  • Let him be able to teach our children the way of the Lord both with his words, attitude and character.

  • Let him learn true fatherhood from you God. He is taught by you and leads our kids right by his behaviour, attitude and words.

  • Fill him up with the grace that comes from you, to be able to be the spiritual leader over our household in Jesus Name, amen.

-Excerpts from my book “Prayers For Your Future Husband”


We pray for God’s own kind of men to arise in Jesus name, amen.


Till next week on the series,




My dear brothers, you are the head. And that head isn't for acting like a dictator. Click To Tweet


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  • Reply
    January 11, 2017 at 12:43 pm

    Thanks for this, the men needs to hear cos it breaks my heart when a guy would tell me that he wants to marry a good christian woman who can pray over him and the kids, a woman who would be able to lead the family spiritually and I hear it a lot and I don’t blame them cos that is what they see in their homes. God help the men – our husbands, fathers, brothers, male friends and relatives to understand their spiritual authority in the home and not just financial or !material authority. God bless you Fran.

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      Frances Okoro
      January 14, 2017 at 1:36 pm

      Amen and amen To that prayer Goodness. God give them eyes to SEE…oh AMEN!

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