#Purposeful Living

What To Do When You Feel Useless

Happy New week blog hearts!

I must apologize for publishing posts late(I always try to get them up by 10am)

But I was engaged with INEC stuff throughout the weekend and I almost didn’t post this post today till I got a check in my heart. Why should I hold my gift of writing so loosely? Where do I get off just saying that I won’t post anything on a certain day – for no reason at all. And then I’ll say that I’m using my writing to glorify God?

Well, here am I, I hope today’s words will help someone in one way or the other, since I couldn’t rest easy without putting it up.


I have not gotten around to writing the post about when I was posted to my PPA State for NYSC.(will do so soon)
I had always wanted to be posted to Lagos for NYSC and actually had(have) a jotter of prayer points where I asked God for it and for a big firm that will pay me big money.lol
I figured it would happen if I got my first class (and you all know what happened to the first class, read this post here if you don’t)

And I actually felt “led” that I will be in Lagos.(I still do, somehow)

Before I left law School though, I relegated my own desires and wants(notice that I didn’t say needs) changed my prayer to let God’s will be done for my NYSC year(and my life), but I still really felt like it would be Lagos.(See this post on the will of God here)
I don’t believe in sorting posting for NYSC because I believe all my days were set before the Lord before I was born and if He wants me to be somewhere for NYSC, He would fix me there Himself.I would write on this soon too) and I basically just left it all to God.


The list came out and it was Ekiti state, not Lagos. I told God ok. No problem(actually, a little problem of the flesh wanting what it wants) but I knew that I had settled it all in prayer and God is in charge of anywhere I get sent to/anywhere that I am.
But I certainly didn’t feel that way last week thursday.
I saw a DP of a friend working at a firm in Lagos and I just felt like I was useless.
Because courts have been on strike here in Ekiti, I haven’t even announced appearance in court yet, and my boss doesn’t take me out for any other runs(eg police station and all) that he does.
I looked at myself, hunched at my laptop at work, and I felt like an empty brained lawyer who doesn’t know a thing.
If not for the fact that I have learnt to control my thoughts, I would have been buried deep in depression.



I had to remember that I was hunched up at my laptop trying to set up a website for someone (yes, side hustle announcement, I set up my website myself, design and all, and I can do same for you – for a small price)
And then I forgot the fact that I had a blog that God was using to touch lives.
I forgot the fact that my being in Ekiti has advanced a part of my purpose on earth – speaking in girls secondary schools.
I forgot the fact that that would have been impossible in Lagos what with the  busy schedule I’d have had there.
I forgot the fact that God was(is) in charge of it all.
And I forgot the fact that the 13 years of seeming slavery are actually the years God uses to prepare us for the years as prime ministers, cue Joseph.
Joseph wasn’t where he wanted to be while he was in the prison, but God used his administration skills at prison when He became a prime minister.

He proved himself faithful as administrator of Potiphar’s household before God elevated him.
He must have felt useless then(what with his big dreams), but God was building him.
Same with Moses.

Moses tended sheeps before he guided the entire Israelites to the promised land.
The 13 years of seeming slavery aren’t really slavery, it’s God building us up for something more.
My being at Ekiti right now, not advancing career wise(seemingly) is God building me up for more which I may not see now.
And to be honest with you all, this whole wig and gown thing isn’t so much a part of where I feel God is leading me to, yes it’s a profession but it’s not pressed in my heart as much as writing is(for example)
I can live without going to the court, but I can’t rest easy without spreading forth the news to young girls that they have a purpose in Christ.
I only felt useless because I compared my path to another’s path.
But I got back on track when I REMEMBERED the fact that God is still working even in the seemingly silent years.
My path and another’s isn’t the same and your path and another’s path isn’t the same.
Wherever you are right now, is where you are meant to be.

God knows all about it.
You should be using your 13 years of slavery for what it’s meant for, building stamina for the prime minister years.
Keep doing what you are doing, Pharoah will come for you soon and when he comes, it will be what you learnt in the silent years that you will need to use to help the nations.
I got some messages from some persons  after my recent article on Bellanaija - messages saying that this blog and my gift of writing is touching lives and I just was blown away again.
See everyone, I won’t hype myself, if you see me physically, I’m just one small girl with a shady past.


I am simply just awed at how God raised a girl who used to date an igbo smoker and had no self esteem or sense of purpose at all, to this girl brimming with Christ in her eyes.
I am as simple as they come, nothing at all, but still people say their lives are blessed through me. Only God could have done that, He used the years when I felt useless to bring me to this point where I am mow.
I may not feel as useless as I did then when I was in the world but last thursday, I felt useless nonetheless but God still works through the seemingly useless days.
He uses them all for good.


What we should do when we feel useless is to simply REMEMBER.
This is a call to reminder for me and you, your 13years of slavery aren’t useless.
The years of silence aren’t useless.
The years in one quiet town isn’t useless, God uses them all for good.
He uses them all in the grand scheme of things.
Keep working and moving forward even in those times, compare your path to no one else’s and know this with all your heart, God is still working through the seemingly useless years.
He turns it all around and when He does, even you will be in awe of what He will wrought through it.


When you feel useless, remember, you may not see the threads that God is weaving through your life right now, but He is making all things into something glorious in your life all the same.
God bless us all.
You are loved.
You are valuable.
You are made for a purpose and even the season you are in right now will be used to fulfil that purpose in Christ Jesus.


Have a glorious week ahead,

Much Love,




P:S – Like I announced in this previous post, expect the post on “A Nigerian youth corper’s experience during the 2015 General elections” this thursday. Plenty story to tell!

Yep, I’m putting out there so I don’t wriggle my way out of it 🙂


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  • Reply
    Tessa Doghor
    April 13, 2015 at 12:14 pm

    Just keep serving there
    The throne room is up ahead
    In my spiritual life, so much is going on
    I have to keep encouraging myself that I will make it
    because God is so certain even though I am not.

    Hang in there and keep serving.
    If Joseph was able to keep at it even in prison, I know I can too.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      April 13, 2015 at 12:49 pm

      @Tessa…this — “Because God is certain even if I am not
      that statement is soothing, more so because it’s true.
      God knows it all, and He knows that it will all work out for good, so even if we are not certain about it, we can rest on His assurance.

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    Mobolaji Olorisade
    April 13, 2015 at 3:17 pm

    I needed this sooo much Frances! You don’t know how much this post has blessed me. I’ve been feeling so uselessly useless lately, i’m sure my post today will give you a hint. Like I’m just whiling away time and doing nothing.
    This has encouraged me again.
    I love you girl! I thank God for the day I first read your blog. I really do.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      April 13, 2015 at 6:55 pm

      Emphasis on word “feeling” Bolaji.
      Just like I too “felt” useless…thank God feelings aren’t always right, as a matter of fact, we can’t go by them at all.
      I thank God that this encouraged you, your post today also strung at my heart.
      I’m mega glad I found you(+ your blog), Infact, you!
      God bless you bigly sis!

  • Reply
    April 13, 2015 at 4:11 pm

    A beautiful life and destiny are made up of uncertainties, ugliness, bad experiences, sometimes feeling useless and so much more. The beauty in them is they are part of what makes you grow and what makes you vulnerable enough for God to fix you. Not everyone uses those experiences to beautify their lives though cause they dwell on them and don’t see tomorrow. But you my darling, are a courageous lady who hasn’t forgotten that ‘we can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps’ (Proverbs 16: 9). Nothing good and right that we do is ever useless. Our lives even if they are not what we think they should be are not useless. The potter has the power to mold the clay into a beautiful pot, but it takes a process.

    Go through the process and learn everything you can because they will surely come handy someday.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      April 13, 2015 at 7:01 pm

      The potter and the process stood out for me Mayowa.
      Reminds me..i should read the passage in isaiah that talks abt the potter molding the clay.
      God never makes anything useless and it’s amazing that even what we think is bad, He uses for good.
      Thank you so much for your encouraging words babes. Thank you

  • Reply
    April 14, 2015 at 7:03 am

    Thank you, Frances. Thank you!

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    Princess Okechukwu
    April 14, 2015 at 4:18 pm

    Even on the days when I feel I am useless, God reminds me that in the ‘useless’, I am even more useful. The world may not see it, but I [the only one who should count] sees it all.

    God bless you for this reminder, Frances! I will always remember.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      April 14, 2015 at 9:24 pm

      “In the useless, I am even moreuseful”
      that should ring in my(our) heads more and more!
      thanks Princess!

  • Reply
    April 14, 2015 at 8:37 pm

    Thank you thank you. You make it sound so simple and better. I am not useless!!

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      April 14, 2015 at 9:28 pm

      I actually think that its that simple to God Keke, its our minds that just complicates things.
      I pray we adopt God’s simple style to this which is “look, you aren’t useless! the end”
      Actually not the end, He goes on to say I’m working in and through you, even now!
      I(we) need to always remember this.
      God help us all.

      have a great week ahead sis 🙂

  • Reply
    April 15, 2015 at 7:55 pm

    You should be using your 13 years of slavery for what it’s meant for, building stamina for the prime minister years. So on point girl! We have all experienced days and times when God seems nonexistent but then he is closer than we think.May God grant you more grace to keep on. The future is much more awesome than you can imagine . Remember the thoughs God has towards you are those of peace to give you an expected end.cheers and see you at the top

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      April 16, 2015 at 9:29 am

      Thanks so much Tosin!

      Great to see your break light with awesome words here! *hugs*

  • Reply
    April 17, 2015 at 8:47 pm

    Thanks for sharing this post, it was an interesting read!

  • Reply
    April 21, 2015 at 9:19 pm

    Like you know!!! It’s not easy o especially when you hear gist of your colleagues in other places but I believe in something. As children of God, everywhere we are, everything we go through doesn’t pass by God at all. He definitely knows what He’s doing and like you said, it’s all a training process for us as we never know where God is taking us into our next level. All we need do is trust Him to give us the best. He’s not the kind of God that will give us one-thing we don’t like. If our earthly father knows how to give good gifts, then how much more our father gan gan.

    It’s not easy but we just have to remind ourselves that ‘We know that all things work together for good for those that Love God and have been called according to his purpose..

    God bless Frances. xo!

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      April 25, 2015 at 1:47 am

      “All things work together for good…”
      Definitely a mantra never to be forgotten.
      tis not easy but knowing the truth-God’s Word helps indeed…

      Thank you Itunu!

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