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Tips On How You Can Stay Sane As A Single Lady/Guy In This Season Of Celebration Of Marriages

Dear single ladies and men,

How una dey?
It’s been a while I penned down a live love letter to you all.
Life has been happening but I will be settled soon and back on a regular roll with you all…


We are in the ’ember months right now, and in case you haven’t noticed, it’s the month of marriages and budding new families.
I scrolled through my facebook time line and almost every post was celebrating a newly wedded couple or a first child of a couple who got married last year.


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Ah! Time to eat free rice and chicken but still, it was a tad bit overwhelming…
Please allow me to be sincere on behalf of myself and you all and let me say the truth and nothing but the truth…
You know that feeling…
I was happy and celebrated with them but still, it can be a tad bit overwhelming like I am sure you can also relate with.
As strange as it may seem, it is through happy moments like these that satan tries to steal into our minds.
We see a picture of our friend’s bridal shower and satan tells us that we are still single, all our friends are getting married, but we are just running around in circles, achieving nothing…
satan tells us a lot of things through just a simple picture of a newly wedded bride and groom and if we are not careful, we may fall for his lies and an occasion for joy turns into a moment of depression for us.
So what’s a simple, lovely single girl and guy like you and I to do?
How do we survive this season of bouquets being thrown around every saturday?


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Well, here’s what I do and what I hope can help you too…

I celebrate and congratulate the couple from the depth of my heart, and then I say a deliberate prayer for them, lifting them unto more blessings from God.
And in the same vein, I say “Lord thank you.
Thank you for where I am right now.
Thank you for placing me at this stage of life that I am at right now.
Thank you because I know you are in charge of all that goes on in my life.
Thank you because I know that if I have not moved to the next stage of my life right now, then it can only be because of the fact that you are still working in me in this present stage.
I am not going to run ahead of you and mess things up.
No, I am simply full of gratitude to you.
I rejoice with those who rejoice and I rejoice in you who knows what is best for me.
I love you Lord.
I really do love you Lord.
Thank you for this stage of life that you have placed me right now.
I love you my Father. I love you my King”.


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I say all the above words to God, converse with Him, smile and go on my merry way.
We should all try this sometime.
Let these ember months of celebration of new marriages not send you into a spiral bind of frustration and depression… Rather, let it send you into a season of joyful praise and thanksgiving to the one – to our heavenly Father who’s working out all the details of our lives.
If you can do the above then you just will be killing several birds with one stone…
(1) Growing in your Spirit by rejoicing with those who rejoice despite what you might feel.
(2) Praising and pleasing our Heavenly Father.
(3) Winning the battle in your mind against the enemy.
(4) Staying sane in a situation that sends others into a bout of tears and depression.
(5) Trusting… trusting… having faith in our God that He is in charge of your life and this pleases Him to no end.


You can survive and stay sane in this season of celebration of new marriages with your spiritual life and mind in top shape.
Simply praise, smile, laugh your heart out and win the battle in your mind.
Because its all in your mind baby…
The thoughts, all the silly thoughts, they are all in your mind.
Win the battle with praise, win it with prayers, win it with joy bubbling in you through the Holy Ghost!
Survive this ember months season of marriages wahala, and come out even stronger spiritually, in faith in God and confidence in where He is taking you to.



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Notice how this write up is filled with pictures of couples? Start practicing what we just discussed. Thank God for them and for yourself. And REJOICE!


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Till my next love letter,

With lots of love,

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  • Reply
    Dr. N
    November 29, 2014 at 6:53 pm

    Bia Frances, u r only 22 n u r…….? Take ya time. Wetin u want d 40 yr olds to do? *stickstongueoutnrunsaway*
    Congrats tho on your call to bar.
    Great article

  • Reply
    Frances Okoro
    November 29, 2014 at 11:25 pm

    Only 22? Ah Dr N, I am not in any hurry or desperate for anything.
    It’s just amazing what our thoughts/minds roll onto and how satan can plant lies in it except we nip it at the bud.
    That’s what I am trying to bring out here in sincerity.

    And 40year Olds? We will walk with this advice together…lol.
    Thanks Dr N 🙂

  • Reply
    December 1, 2014 at 8:20 pm

    Waooo, dats a lifting write up. I pray for more grace n spirit inspired concepts n ideals. Ur source will never run dry as u continually to stand for God.

  • Reply
    Frances Okoro
    December 1, 2014 at 10:56 pm

    Amen and amen.
    Thank you Kings…
    God bless you for your kind words and prayers.

  • Reply
    Temitope Banks
    December 2, 2014 at 10:44 am

    When one is happy for others it means your own miracle is on the way. We all have our times and seasons with God and must not compare ourselves with others…my 1 cent

    tope recently wrote….Book review:How to succeed at being yourself by Joyce Meyer

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      December 3, 2014 at 10:26 pm

      I totally agree with you Temitope.
      We should all fixour eyes on the path that God takes us on personally.
      No matter how tempting it might be to covert another’s journey, we should stick to ours and ofcourse, be happy for others.

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