Dear single lady,
Today I want to tell you a story and I hope that we all learn a bit from it.
I would have gotten married about 3years ago if I had agreed for a certain banker.
He was nice, kind and didn’t drink alcohol.
He said he liked me.
I was young, fresh, had a beautiful smile and a free spirit.
We met in a Bank.
He told me he wasn’t playing games, he didn’t want me for wanting sake, he wanted to settle down and even had plans to move into his own house, ofcourse with his wife – me(if I would agree)
I thought about it for a bit, I didn’t really pray about it because… well, because I didn’t really know that God was so interested in my marital story then.
But still, I said no, I felt like I still had a lot to know and learn in my single life and 3years later, I seeÂ that I was indeed right. I still have a lot to learn in this single life. God hasn’t released me into the next phase yet, He is still working in me and teaching me certain things.
What things you ask?
Well, He only showed me last year that every marriage is actually meant to show forth His purpose for both of the couples, #Ministry
He only just showed me that my relationship with my spouse is only a reflection of my marriage with Him.
And He is also just showing me that I don’t have to look all sunken and depressed because I don’t have a man.
I can learn from Him, build my character, develop myself, engage in things I love and milk dry this single phase of all He has for me.
Last year, I did this post where I talked about my visit to Olumo Rock.
It was a goal I had for myself for 2014 to go somewhere alone as a single lady and start seeing places.
Well, this year, it is also a goal but I took it a bit farther when I saw a post talking about how to travel in 2015.
I am taking a challenge of seeing 12 places I have never been to before in 2015.
One for each month and I am throwing it open to everyone of the single ladies who said that they “wished they could be that adventurous… Well, this is an opportunity for you to turn the “wishes” intoÂ “I can”.
You want to make something of your life as a single lady?
See places? Travel? Here is a chance for us to do it together.
Now, you don’t have to break a bank to do this, I googled Ekiti State where I am right now and saw close to 10 tourist centres.
Same with Ibadan that is close to me.
So if you don’t have too much, look around you where you are right now.
And some of us will say that we don’t have time but one day during the weekend in one month isn’t too much is it?
I thought to throw this open to us all.
I am going to do it and of course feature each of my trip on the blog.
If you want to share your trip and pictures with us here on the blog too, you are welcome, I will publish them.
The goal of this is to debunk every claim that a single lady must definitely be a miserable lady.
You don’t have to cry at the lack of a man in your life.
Let’s use this time for some things we can look back at and smile fondly at shall we?
Yes we can do it!
Give me a high five in the comment section below if you are in… 🙂
Just A Few Things…
Nkykate didn’t get to me so we’ve got our new blog giveaway winner of the ankara diary as announced in the last post.
There were 6persons eligible for the diary – Vicky, Grace Efezokhae, Mark Efe, Sheila, Rita Awuru and Theresa M.
I used random.org as usual
Congrats Rita Awuru.
I will get in touch with you via email on how you can get it.
I wrote my goals for 2015 on Olatoxic’s blog here Â and I want my writing on this blog to be with purpose for the year 2015 so I just took some time off to brainstorm and all.The blog plans will be up tomorrow. Stay tuned! 🙂
Subscribe below and let’s be real blog fam indeed yes?
Don’t miss any of the great plans for this blog… for you and me in 2015.
Believe me, you won’t regret it.
See this post for some tips on taking trips/sightseeing/adventure and please, do share this post below and give other single ladies a chance to be part of this.
CynthiaJanuary 10, 2015 at 6:51 am
*High five Frances* lol!! This is so cool!. I also wanna travel a lot this yr(one of my many resolutions). But this 12trip challenge is just taking it to a whole new level and I love it!! I am soo in!!!
Btw can I just add that I love your blog. From your blog posts and the little pieces I’ve put together, we just might be age mates but I am so impressed by your level of wisdom and knowledge girl!! Just keep’em coming girl u’ve got mad fans like me in the UK and I do hope I get to meet u someday sha. Cheers:)
Frances OkoroJanuary 10, 2015 at 11:28 am
Many many high fives coming back at you!
Thank you soooo much for your encouragement and yesss, we shall see one day..soon 🙂
I am as excited as you are, yes, we can do this… yes!
Theresa DoghorJanuary 10, 2015 at 9:14 am
You know you are such a wonder to me.
I would like to make a proposition to you.
Send me your number, let’s chat.
It would benefit both of us and bless others.
Frances OkoroJanuary 10, 2015 at 11:31 am
Ok Theresa, will send you a mail with my number.
MobolajiJanuary 10, 2015 at 9:36 am
Haha! Do you know I added going to 2 new places this year because of you, but 12! I love the idea and pray allowee can be enough, but if not 12, then maybe i’d do more than the 2 I intended. Adventure time!
Frances OkoroJanuary 10, 2015 at 11:34 am
Adventure time 🙂
Somehow somehow, allowee will be enough…make use of places around you that you don’t have to break a bank to see..
It will be fun 🙂
Agnes AuduJanuary 10, 2015 at 11:52 am
Ten high fives coming from me Frances!! I wud love to participate in dis challenge u knw…but 12 though! I still dey tink abt am sha since na house madam I be(smiles),God will surely give me d grace I nid and d opportunity to do dis..lots of luv,kiss kiss
Frances OkoroJanuary 10, 2015 at 11:56 am
You wey dey Lagos Agnes, nor even complain.
If na when I dey lagos, places boku…
When you say 12, it’s much, just say 1 for each month.
Love you too dearie..plenty plenty 🙂
OlawumiJanuary 10, 2015 at 11:52 am
Ok den! lets try this. Maybe not 12 but ill stop pouting about kaduna and explore.
saw your post on olatoxic’s 30days of hope and visited this site and I’ve been trying to catch up on your previous posts. nice writing i must say especially the one about cooking not defining women. Also nice that this is christian blog, don’t usually follow blogs like this but with my new year resolution being getting closer to God i said ok then ill need all the help i can get, if i can spend hours on circular blogs sure i can start somewhere with christian blogs.
Frances OkoroJanuary 10, 2015 at 12:00 pm
Welcome, welcome Olawumi! 🙂
And I agree with you about starting somewhere with Christian blogs..on days when I don’t even feel like spending time with God, the emails I get of blog notifications and stuff on my timeline always spur me on, it’s important.
I pray you experience a great relationship with God this year and if God will use my blog to help, then it’s all great…
And yes oh, no more pouting..explore we will 🙂
glowingscenesJanuary 10, 2015 at 12:54 pm
I think someway somehow, you’re trying to push me out of my comfort zone thing about traveling…hehe. It has been a childhood dream to travel far and wide but I get so scared sometimes wondering if I can do it. It’s almost like jumping off a cliff or something which is dangerously exciting..lool. But like you mentioned, start with somewhere close to you. Even if it’s once a month. But how do I check up places in lagos that I can go? I do hope I have time though since I was posted to a hospital.
Thanks for the travel site too. It’s something to bookmark. I like it already 🙂
And I read your post on Ola’s blog too. 😉 Wow so much to do. Bonne chance cherie. Thanks the ginger.
Frances OkoroJanuary 11, 2015 at 1:47 pm
And for places to go to in Lagos, google “tourist centre’s in Lagos” and you can check this link – http://www.cometonigeria.com/search-by-region/south-west/lagos-state/
kekeJanuary 10, 2015 at 2:26 pm
I am loving your blog and I don’t want to leave. You write so well with passion and love for the message you are passing across. I have to study but I am stuck just camping and catching up on all the posts I have missed. Before I read this particular post, something stirred in my heart and it is my hope that when I am in Nigeria next. I will love to meet you in person, a road trip to Ekiti doesn’t sound like a bad
Frances OkoroJanuary 11, 2015 at 1:44 pm
Keke…I read your comment and I was just praying..why? God is awesome..#thats all.
Road trip to Ekiti? No wahala, I will be here 🙂
We will go for an adventure together 🙂
Oya, pls go and study ohhhh.
This blog will still be here.
Frances OkoroJanuary 10, 2015 at 6:48 pm
you can do it jare…yes, you can..
all what you wrote, just small small excuses that a little tweak here and there can overcome…
I look forward to reading/seeing the first of your going all out on this 🙂
GabbyJanuary 10, 2015 at 8:00 pm
am so into this challenge.. Nice one Frances… Am not so much of an outgoing person, so this will bring me out of my comfort zone. U rock girl!!! plenty Hi Fives for you..
Frances OkoroJanuary 11, 2015 at 1:49 pm
Yes oh Gabby..thats the idea..we are fishing out ALL the home bodies.
God speed girl… 🙂
abisolaJanuary 10, 2015 at 8:49 pm
Frances i’m loving this. Let’s see how it goes. Wink#
Frances OkoroJanuary 11, 2015 at 1:51 pm
It will go fine Abisola..oya make up your mind and #commit.
Janet BlessingJanuary 11, 2015 at 7:59 am
Hello frances, Happy new year and may the Lord grant us all enviable success this year. Amen.
Have Fun travelling touring Nigeria. The lord be with you.
Frances OkoroJanuary 11, 2015 at 3:10 pm
Happy New Year to you too Janet!
Amen and amen… I hope you join us in this oh? maybe not 12, but something.. 🙂
vickyJanuary 11, 2015 at 7:05 pm
high five, I’ve googled some places already. again, grace awuru lol will not contct you o lol
Frances OkoroJanuary 11, 2015 at 7:41 pm
I thought about you sef Vicky..if she doesn’t contact me by Friday, it just might go unto you..maybe this jotter is meant to be yours..maybe 🙂
And that’s the spirit! Yep, google those places, select ya choice and go and explore. High high five babes!
DammyJanuary 12, 2015 at 12:07 pm
I’m so down for this. Challenge accepted. Let’s do it!
Frances OkoroJanuary 12, 2015 at 2:54 pm
@Dammy, yes! 🙂
GloriaJanuary 17, 2015 at 2:05 pm
I am sooooo down for this challenge! I love traveling and I totally agree that our single years should be enjoyed and not endured. I’m going to share the 12 trip challenge with my readers 🙂
God bless girl
Frances OkoroJanuary 17, 2015 at 5:05 pm
First time comment, yes, Gloria? 🙂
Welcome, pls stay on this side of the fence.
I totally agree with you, this single phase can be used to learn lots of things and ofcourse revel in the fun stuff like travelling..
Thanks for sharing this with your readers..
UjuAugust 3, 2015 at 8:36 am
Oh really this is nice, I guess the travelling might just be a great idea, never too late to start, although I am one who invests time in work and more work.
Guess I should give this challenge a try.
obxAugust 26, 2015 at 6:11 pm
Hi, I’m new to your blog and been loving it so far. Just saw this post…Hmmm let’s see if I can get to 12 places before the end of the year…..
Frances OkoroAugust 29, 2015 at 7:47 am
Hey Obx! You can do it, with a little bit and plans and determination, yes, you can!
Frances OkoroAugust 29, 2015 at 7:49 am
And welcome to the blog! Thank you for coming over to the commenter’s fence.lol
bookieOctober 26, 2015 at 10:54 am
okay, i know i am late but i guess i can still see 2 or 3 places bfor dis year runs out. one more thing pls, i would so much love to tag along with u.
Frances OkoroOctober 29, 2015 at 9:09 am
You can still go ahead and visit someplace before the year runs out!
Have fun and share pictures ohh.
And I already mailed you on your words to tag along with me 🙂