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Thanking The Lord For Almost Relationships that Never Saw The Light Of Day

Dear single ladies and gentlemen,
I’m so sorry that today’s letter’s coming to you a bit late, I have had a whirlwind of a day today.
I wanted to spend my day on the hill alone but ended up having 3fellow corpers coming along for the ride.
Talk about a total burst of the “alone bubble” but it’s been fun.

I had lots of lessons on relationships that God has been teaching me to write to you about today but as usual, I always love to write about the one that’s really impressed on my heart to write about.
I was walking down my street a few days ago when I just started thinking about the “almost relationships” that I have had this year alone.
Relationships that for one reason or the other never saw the light of day.
I couldn’t help but see God through it all.
Like, there were just some so-called friendships that I had clear warnings about. eg, “don’t go there Frances, it’s the same trap, different person”
They have been some that I felt I had go -ahead about, then something just happens to show that the go-ahead was from my own thoughts, and not from God.
I mean, how awesome is it that God directs my footsteps marital wise?
That He doesn’t want me to make mistakes?

I do not regret the day I made the decision to let God take charge of my love story, it’s been awesome so far.
I haven’t had to waste time in a relationship that’s not for me, it literally feels like God is preserving me for His own chosen son…
And as I thought about it that day, I just had to say “thank You Lord”
I see you Lord, through all the so-called disappointments, I see You.
And that’s what I want us to do today.
Stop all the complaints about the man/woman not being here yet.
Stop the worries about the relationship you thought was “it” not working out AGAIN.
Stop the sadness at 2015 passing you by without a man/woman to call your own.
Just take a moment with me and thank God for every “almost relationship” that never saw the light of day.
Thank God for all the “No” He told you.
Thank God for all the stuff that happened that made you see that that guy/girl isn’t the one for you.
Thank God for the direction He has been giving to you in the area of relationships.
Just say “Father thank You for every relationship that hasn’t worked out so far.
I see You through it all still Lord.
I see You through it all, thank You Lord!”


It’s been days since I thought about this but I have gratitude in my heart as I type this, I have immense gratitude in my heart.
It’s awesome to know that God takes interest in everything that happens in our lives – including our love life.
And we may not know who He has for us yet, but lets thank Him for everyone that He has shown us isn’t for us.
He is awesome and this our soul knows well.


Till my next Love letter,
Much Love,

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  • Reply
    May 16, 2015 at 1:14 pm

    “And we may not know who He has for us yet, but lets thank Him for everyone that He has shown us isn’t for us.” Very profound, Frances!

    I love how real you come across in your posts. Only when you have tasted a sour apple can you appreciate the preciousness of the sweet one. I had an epiphany the other day and almost asked God, “what if I didn’t have to make all those mistakes for me to learn? Couldn’t I be just like every other normal human being who learns without getting burned? What if there is something wrong with me?”

    These thoughts are very fleeting but when they come they bear a heavy weight.

    But here it is: thanksgiving. Gratitude for lessons learned and troubles averted. I could read this again and find a million reasons to thank Him again!

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      May 16, 2015 at 6:44 pm

      Oh Maggie…
      But you know sha, you aren’t a normal person, you are special, filled with a lot with which to touch the world positively and it turns out that God builds such treasures – His special people through the experiences that they have to go through… the end result is always gold – you.

      There’s nothing else we can do but thank God even for the lessons learnt..yes, even in those lessons, I(we) see HIM.

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        May 17, 2015 at 1:14 pm

        Awww Frances!!! Your reply….sniff sniff! 🙂

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    Tope BANKS
    May 16, 2015 at 10:05 pm

    Frances dearie,God bless you! Personally everyday I give God praise for the almost relationships,those that said I wasn’t good enough for them and walked out of my life. Yes it was very painful but ALL things do work together for good!

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      Frances Okoro
      May 17, 2015 at 12:01 am

      ALL things work together for our good, not some things, ALL things!
      Thanks Tope for this reminder

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    May 17, 2015 at 9:43 pm

    Sometimes i think back and am just like thank you Lord. I don’t know where i would be but for your guidance. It hard when you have to walk away but often “we live our lives forward, but only understand it backwards” by looking back and seeing what God saved us from.
    Be blessed.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      May 18, 2015 at 8:04 am

      “We live our lives forward, but only understand it backwards….l
      Oh so true Keke.
      Some things make no sense till God brings the whole picture into view and most times the past then becomes as clear as day, why we had to go through it and let some people go, it all becomes clear.

      Thanks sis

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