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Thank God I Am Not Yet Married…

We’ll Get Into Today’s Letter, But First A Reminder:
Today’s the D-day!
Join us for an amazing time at my book reading/discussion on purpose today at The Oasis, 3 Keystone Bank Crescent Off Adeyemo Alakija Street, VI, Lagos.
Come, let’s sit, share and leave with more clarity as regards God’s path of purpose for your life.

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Dear Single Ladies and Gentlemen,
It’s been an amazing week and year.
God has been so amazing in my life, I can’t lie.
So many things/ideas/ministry guidelines/character traits have been ingrained into me by God and I’m so so grateful!


Yesterday was our discussion night on TWTW (the women at the well group) arising from our singles hangout.
We’ve been studying some love stories in the Bible in order to revamp our minds on “the list” we have on our future spouse and get God’s own list for us in our heart.
And it’s been so insightful and Spirit filled!
We’ve seen all 9 of us chipping in “rhema” from these love stories in the Bible… things even us as women have to ask for grace to imbibe and prepare to be the great women that God would someday gift to His chosen son.
Yesterday while discussing David and Abigail’s love story and lessons from it, Amaka suddenly broke in with “I just whispered, “thank God I’m not married!”
And oh, the Spirit is one… that was to be my letter for today.


I was going out during the week and as has been a normal occurrence of recent, I was hit by a thanksgiving moment from my heart to God.
I thought about the past, thought about this man that wanted to marry me… thought about all the wrong relationships I almost entered into… thought about just how big of a mistake I would have made if I had married anyone in the years gone by and I couldn’t help but thank God that He didn’t allow me to get married to anyone!
Oh my!
I had no inkling of my purpose in those years…
I didn’t even know who I was in Christ… it would have been a disaster if two years down into that kind of marriage I got to know that God has more for me and then my husband didn’t fit into the purpose I saw…
A total disaster… quarrels, dissatisfaction, and then taking it out on the man…
Ah, Lord I thank You! Thank you that you didn’t allow me to get married then, and thank You that You have not allowed me to get married now.
Thank You because you will not allow me to get married till you are done preparing me and working in me.
Infact, thank You that I am not yet married!


I really want us all single ladies and gentlemen to lay aside the dissatisfaction that just seems to trail the world(not us) from our not yet being married…
Can you please look beyond you and see the good that God is doing in your life right now?
Look back at the years gone by… some things you know now, you never knew them before.
And if you are still in God now, then right at this moment, He is still building things in you that will make you thank Him for this season you are in later…
But we don’t have to wait till later to thank Him…

I would just want you, wherever you are reading this right now, take a moment to thank God for the fact that you’re still single.
Thank Him that He didn’t allow you to get married prematurely…
Thank Him for the fact that He is working in you and your future spouse right this minute and you would both meet each other when you’re ready.
Thank Him for the fact that in this season right now, He is still opening up more of your path in purpose to you.
Thank him and tell Him you trust His plans for your marital destiny.
Let dissatisfaction, murmuring and grumbling have no root in you.
And say with all sincerity, “Father I thank you that I am not yet married!”


I pray that God will open our eyes to see what He is doing in our lives even right now, in this single season.
And that we will be responsive to His leading and lessons as He drills them into us in Jesus name, amen!
And oh, and at just the right time, he/she that cometh shall come and not delay… rest in that assurance and let your heart be open to God’s work in you, right now and right here.


I have got to run now for my book reading/discussion on purpose (another reason why I am grateful to God that I didn’t rush ahead of him in relationships without knowing His purpose for my life).


Till our next love letter,
Stay Grateful,


P:S: I’m sorry that I there was no post on the blog during the week… NEPA struck us badly. lol.
But I put up the chronicles of my last two months trips as I earlier promised and you can read them here and here


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  • Reply
    Cassie Daves
    December 19, 2015 at 11:08 am

    I really want to come to the book discussion but nobody to ride with that heading that way 🙁

    All the best today! Keep doing a great job

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      December 19, 2015 at 11:24 am

      🙂 thanks Cassie… ride…yours..soon is coming.. so you can waka according to your own schedule 🙂

  • Reply
    December 19, 2015 at 12:26 pm

    The Spirit really is one. My devotion today was on accomplishing missions n during my prayer for spouse all I could ask was for God to perfect us individually before we meet. I really thank God I am not yet married cos the one thing I dread almost as much as hell is marrying outside the will of God.
    God bless you Frances.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      December 22, 2015 at 12:34 am

      God bless you too Olawumi!
      So glad the spirit is redirecting our prayers and helping us to pray aright as regards our marital destinies..may we always yield, listen and pray as needed in Jesus name, amen!

  • Reply
    Princess Okechukwu
    December 21, 2015 at 2:50 am

    I am so blessed by this post..

    Well done, dear! Remember, there’s still more….

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      December 21, 2015 at 3:42 pm

      Right Princess…there’s still more and that blows my mind away..!

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