Sit Back And Relax!

I was supposed to see someone yesterday. But then something happened and it just didn’t work out. We had to reschedule for another time.

But the above is not the essence of this post, it just got me thinking of the times before now when I liked someone and became so eager for us to see each other that I actually took the bull by the horns and went out to meet them-mistake number 1, signaling desperation to the man, signaling me pursuing him.

This time, things are different.
I read

Ruth’s story in the Bible today… after laying the cards on the table for Boaz when she went to meet him at the threshing floor, she told Naomi what happened and Naomi told her to “sit back and relax”, that Boaz will do all it takes that day. And I just smiled when I read that. The mistake I made in the past was that I refused to sit down and relax. The man should work it all out, he is the pursuer, he is the one going after what he wants.
You know, after Ruth told Boaz to redeem her and marry her, he felt so honored, he said she was a prize and he swore to do all it took to marry her if the closest relative before him refused. And that’s how it should be.

Ladies, we’ve given the man green light, we’ve been open, we’ve talked, then “sit back and relax”, if that man sees you as a prize, he will pursue you as he should, yes he will.
Why? Because we know what men like Boaz do when they want a woman…Like Boaz they say “as God lives, I will do it”
They do not drag their feet when they know what a prize they have, they do not let you slip away.
Like Naomi said, when a man who is as serious as Boaz comes around, “he wont fool around, he will get everything wrapped up”.(msg version, Ruth 3:18)
Know your worth.
Take Naomi’s advice as I did yesterday- “sit still, be patient, sit back and relax”
If the man is serious about you, as God lives, he will do all it takes to have you.
If he is not serious about you, then as God lives, another man that is serious about you will come around, yes, as God lives, God will bring him around.
Yes he will.

Please read the whole of Ruth in the message version if you have not read it yet, it is just four chapters and full of lessons!. If I had time I would have run the series on lessons I got from it like I did with lessons from my favourite love story here- …maybe after bar exams. *fingers crossed*

Have you guys missed me? It’s 12:57am on Sunday morning and I was writing this as a draft on my phone but decided to just post it on the blog…
I’ve missed you all, I’ve missed the “high” that comes from writing, I’ve missed the adrenaline rush that comes from typing just as soon as inspiration hits…I’ve missed you all.

And please just a quick info, My entry just got into “Okadabooks Writers Association contest” and I need your help.
Follow these steps:

(1) Download okadabooks from google play store (if you have it already, all the better=-d)
(2) Sign in/ sign up if you do not have an account (or easily use Facebook option)
(3) scroll down… Click on, buy and download “how writers can save the world by Frances Okoro”.
(4) PLEASE read it and give a review (5stars would be OK.. lol)
Please do not write just “nice” or “good job” as a review, Pretty please The final entries will be selected by QUALITY REVIEWS.I NEED YOU!
Thank you very much!
And please spread the word, share/bc/tweet this, thank you!

Remember, “sit still, be patient, sit back and relax”, as surely as God lives, he will do right by you.

Have a great time at church today and have a blessed week ahead.
*kiss kiss*

(Visited 266 times, 1 visits today)

You Might Also Like


  • Reply
    Chinomnso Precious
    July 6, 2014 at 2:30 am

    Sit back and Relax….. Lovely and rereshing piece from the norm of ladies doing the pursuing. Ruth’s example will always be a perfect one for ladies, no matter how people try to twist it to fit the ‘Lady pursuing norm’. The man is to do the pursing; the bible says ‘he who finds….’, that means the man is to be pursuing/search; not ‘she who finds’, I just pray we ladies will understand we are more precious than rubies and take our place in being ‘findable’…..I can see you are a lover of the MSG version [I could be wrong about this]. But the MSG version drives ‘the message’ to the heart. All the best with your bar exam!

    • Reply
      July 6, 2014 at 7:30 pm

      You are not wrong Chinomsom, I LOVE the message version..its got me smiling each and everytime I read a passage with it, it’s so real and easily relatable..the Bible is rich abeg.
      And yes, it’s high time we ladies learnt how to chill, “gra gra” does nothing for us relationship wise…
      And thank you thank you for your wishes,God bless you

  • Reply
    July 6, 2014 at 3:53 pm

    Red lips? Sister! To be carnally minded…….. (tongue in cheek).lol

  • Reply
    Temitope Ogunyinka
    July 6, 2014 at 4:18 pm

    Lovely Frances……enjoyed this piece. I’ve been in the same situation of just wanting to take the bull by the horn. Lesson from Ruth is so true. I’ll just sit back and relax. Hope you had a great time @ church.

    • Reply
      July 6, 2014 at 7:32 pm

      Thank you Temi…I did have an awesome time in church and lesson learnt from Ruth rings so true, taking the bull by the horn isn’t always guaranteed to bring results or the ring…I chose to sit and relax…as surely as God lives, He knows it all.
      Have a great week ahead

  • Reply
    July 6, 2014 at 7:04 pm

    This encouraged me and at the same time was soothing 🙂
    Permission to repost mademoiselle?

  • Reply
    Nonye Uhegwu
    July 7, 2014 at 7:17 am

    Red lips? well if he does hve red lips den totally refreshing piece are a great one should let u slip away…

  • Reply
    July 7, 2014 at 8:02 am

    Great Post!
    “Sit Back and Relax” I can relate this to many more things than just relationships. The Anxiety disorder we have these days makes waiting such a chore. We live in a microwave generation where we would rather not wait, but God wants us to WAIT and relax in Him whilst we are at it! That is the test of faith for many of us, just sitting back and waiting. what if he/it doesn’t come? then he/ it wasn’t for me, but trusting God always involves waiting and Sit Back and Relax we must. No helping God abeg, me I don’t want no Ishmael circumstance around me biko.
    Thank you Frances, God bless you.

  • Reply
    Ugochi Jolomi (@Ugojoloms)
    July 9, 2014 at 4:11 pm

    Waiting for the conclusion on this true story. As The Lord Leads…

    • Reply
      July 9, 2014 at 10:37 pm

      Yes aunty Jolomi, as God leads, I am following..

      Uhm, my browser crashed anytime I open your site, I don’t know why. Haven’t been able to read any of your post for a while…

  • Reply
    July 10, 2014 at 7:52 am


    Great post, as always!

    Miss you darl, miss your beautifull posts.

    All the best in your exams. I will def check out okadabooks.


    • Reply
      July 13, 2014 at 9:44 pm

      Awww, thanks Buquie dear, just remember you owe me my Francine Rivers book when exams is over. Hehe.
      Thanks for stopping by

      • Reply
        July 13, 2014 at 9:59 pm

        I owe you yeah?
        Last I checked, you said you were not gonna write till August. Oya admit, you can’t help it shey?

        Great week dear!

    • Reply
      July 13, 2014 at 10:57 pm

      Ermmm, I can help it jor. Not writing till August except you count posts on my draft as writing

  • Reply
    July 10, 2014 at 11:38 am

    This is so true Frances – Relax and in no time your own Boaz will locate you. Thanks so very much Nne

    • Reply
      July 13, 2014 at 9:45 pm

      Yourstruly!! How body?
      Yes oh, that’s the truth as you stated it, Naomi knew it and we should let it sink too.

  • Reply
    Peace Itimi
    July 30, 2014 at 6:52 pm

    Absolutely lovely…. We need to sit back and allow the guy’s pursue, if he doesn’t then he doesn’t like us as much.
    Thanks 4 this post and goodluck with bar exams

  • Reply
    Beautiful Mussy Blog
    July 31, 2014 at 7:45 pm

    Thanks dear for this post.. Let’s keep relaxing! I’ve missed you o chai! I wish u all the success in ur bar exams. I will check out the entry…good luck.

Leave a Reply

CommentLuv badge

%d bloggers like this: