Preparation On How To Be A Wife 101 Series|| A Wife As A Lover

Hello ladies!

Welcome to another episode on our “Preparation On How To Be A Wife 101 Series”.. and before you run away, today’s going to be both a video and words episode.

Yes, I will try to write what was discussed in the video…

****BUT  I am a bit distracted from reading our Bible Study on “The Women At The Well” for this weekend, and you would not believe that we are talking about “Love” right now, the topic is on “Preventing Divorce” sha but somehow it delved into love because lets just agree that the only thing that would keep a marriage is basically the God kind of love. Yes, forgiveness, patience, etc but they are all imbeded in Love too right?

And if you are wondering about what “The Women At The Well” is about, we are just a single ladies group who desire to be filled in and with Jesus… and the good news is yes you can join us after our upcoming meet on Saturday July 30th In Lagos which is just next week!!!

You can read up on any details you need HERE and do us a mail at 4thewomenatthewell@gmail.com to confirm your attendance :-)****

 

Okay, let’s go on..

If you are just joining us, we have been on this series for a while now and this is the second to last episode on the series.

 

We have defined who a wife is inclusive of a single woman…

Dealt with “what every single woman should know about marriage”…

And then “a wife as a nurturer”…

And “a hospitable wife”.

And then a wife as an intercessor, and a wife as a home maker.

You can watch the videos and download the audio HERE.

 

Today we are talking about “walking in the 1st Corinthians kind of love as a wife”

And now for those who can stream the video, please do so below or on my youtube channel HERE

 

For everyone reading, please lets go on 🙂

So I can safely say that the two things God has dealt with me mostly on this preparation to be a wife deal has been on LOVE and being a HOME MAKER.

On being a home maker, its obvious because well, like I said in that episode, I really didn’t like house chores or kitchen duties.

But the one on love…I really couldn’t place my finger on why God kept stretching me in this regard.

The week I was meant to film this video was a pretty rough one on lessons on love for me. I first of all stumbled on a reply to me that I felt absolutely sad at, I thought of reaching the person to talk and God was like “Love shuts up” and takes no record of wrongs.

I was still processing that when same day, my brother suddenly comes up with some discussion that was hurtful to me and I am like “how come you say this after seeing all the things I do?’. Lol, how we always think of me, me and me.

Same day I go to Church and the only words that stuck to my head was “love never fails”.

In the entire almost one hour of service, that was God’s message to me.

 

You know the love walk is so practical and thats why for every of my post here on love, I try to just relate to you all on where I am and what God uses to teach me these things in order for His love in me to be exercised and grow.

 

Still in line with God teaching me on the love deal, sometimes I wake up, see plates in the sink and in my head I am like “wash the one plate you use na’, or I get mad inside and wonder why no one says “thank you” and then the next thing in my heart is ‘we love as unto the Lord. Jesus serves us in love and I don’t think that He expects a thank you. I do something and I just want appreciation. Am I serving as unto men or unto the Lord?’

I get a lot of answers while I am at the kitchen sink each day.

I can even call it my love teaching ground.

There I see God telling me so if this was in marriage nko?

 

For example, I go out and come back home maybe by 10pm, and then my brother asks me if I can make oats for him, first thing is “I am tired” and then my brother says “okay” and love takes it up from there.

Love sacrifices…

What if he was your husband?

 

Or I itch so bad and want to give a sharp response to a word that was said to me and then Love comes and says ‘LOVE is kind” and God’s favorite words to me ‘LOVE SHUTS UP” (this isn’t in the Bible by the way, but God is just trying to teach me to control my tongue and fingers).

 

And so I have found that everything we have been learning on this series is essentially nothing if it doesn’t have the foundation of love.

 

Lets see if we can translate 1st Corinthians 13 for wives…

“IF I [can] speak in the tongues of men and [even] of angels, but have not love (that reasoning, intentional, spiritual devotion such as is inspired by God’s love for and in us), I am only a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.

And if I have prophetic powers (the gift of interpreting the divine will and purpose), and understand all the secret truths and mysteries and possess all knowledge, and if I have [sufficient] faith so that I can remove mountains, but have not love (God’s love in me) I am nothing (a useless nobody).

Even if I dole out all that I have [to the poor in providing] food, and if I surrender my body to be burned or in order that I may glory , but have not love (God’s love in me), I gain nothing.”

 

In the video, I tried to translate what this means for wives and I said, so if you are a wife who wakes up at night, prays in tongues for your husband and children, you are even a serious intercessor, but then you have not love for your husband, according to the passage above, you are nothing?

What if you give him all he needs, even give him sex when he wants, sell your gold for him when he is broke… but then have no love, according to the word, you are nothing?

What if you are a prophetess, you pray for his job/ministry/business and things shift, miracles happen… and then you have no love… you are nothing?

 

What then really matters then?
“Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily. It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly.
Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong]. It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail. Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening].
Love never fails [never fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end]. As for prophecy (the gift of interpreting the divine will and purpose), it will be fulfilled and pass away; as for tongues, they will be destroyed and cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away [it will lose its value and be superseded by truth].”
-1 Corinthians 13:1-13

 

*sIgh*.

This is a hard topic for me to write on because I am also being drilled on it.

The love God requires of us in that passage above can only be done in the Spirit.

 

They look like mere words till your husband offends you and God says “love takes no record of offenses’.

And thats why we are learning this now and even being trained in it by our relationship with family, friends, coworkers, etc.

 

Is it an easy walk?

NO.

It is easier to take some one’s hand and prophesy over them than to be patient towards them, especially when they are just *arrrrrggggh*.

What God spells out in 1 Corinthians 13 actually runs deep and if anyone would walk in them, they would need the help of the Spirit.

 

I thank God for trainings, in that He kept me in this place where I stand with family and has been using that to teach me the rudiments of love in practicality.

So also dear ladies, let God teach you how to love, using family, friends, strangers, etc.

It is hard training but this LOVE, is the foundation for every other thing we would do as wives of God’s chosen son to us.

 

I pray that we would have hearts willing for the Spirit of God to work in us, constraining us in love and allowing Him to work love into our hearts for everyone in Jesus name, amen.

 

And so we have just one more episode to go on the series.

Thank you for sticking around so far.

If you’ve missed any episode, you can watch all the videos on my Youtube channel HERE

 

And do please share to single ladies around you.

Someone out there just may need this.. Just so they aren’t waiting on God, when God is waiting on them to learn some things.

 

Till next time on here,

Love,

Frances.