Our First Husband + The Convo

It’s 10:38pm, it’s late, pretty late but I can’t sleep. Even after the hectic day I had, I still can’t sleep so I’ve decided to write.
Friday’s Love Letters is supposed to be up today anyway so let me use this as a therapy.
Why can’t I sleep? What am I thinking about?

Most of those who read my posts always have an urge to pray for my marital life. Some say “don’t worry, the right one is coming for you”… I love the prayers and all and I am really touched that people care enough to put me in their prayers but let me be real with you for a bit… contrary to what misconceptions there are, I don’t worry about my marital future. I know God’s got it in control. I write about relationships because I simply have an interest in doing relationships God’s way. I write mostly to share the word to others and also to me as God opens my eyes to see…
I confess that I rarely even think about mushy love and at Akikitan last sunday, I prayed more for two of my friends to be with their “the one” this time next year than I did for myself…

But this night however, I am thinking about love. I can’t sleep and of all things, I am thinking about how “he” would have sung me a lullaby with his deep voice(yeah I love deep voices,lol) if he were here and it’s all well and good… I know others feel like this too.
And here’s what I just did- I took advantage of my relationship with my Father.
No, I am not been overly spiritual, but I spoke to God about the way I am feeling-actually I did more of telling Him not to awaken love in me before it’s time and telling Him to stop whatever is coming on if it’s not time.

I love the fact that I can paddy with God like this, that He knows me inside and out, that I can feel Him smiling at me, that I can feel His hands around me, that I talk to Him about what I feel as He is my first husband indeed.
Why don’t you try it?
Why don’t we all try it?
You are human to want someone to sing you to sleep…
You are human to think about love and it doesn’t mean that you are not born again…
Why don’t we all just turn those feelings back to God, bridge the gap in our relationship with Him and feel Him as our first husband indeed.
Stop feeling “somehow”, stop feeling like something’s wrong.
Build your marriage with God, bridge the communication gap, let Him know that you will put Him first even when the feelings threaten to over flood you.
And this isn’t cheesy, this isn’t magic. It does work. A real relationship with God that is as tight as this does exist.
Build it.
Work on it.
Talk to Him.
He is our first Husband.
Isaiah 54:5-For your Maker is your husband– the LORD Almighty is his name– the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth”

And uhm, in line with my love for godly relationships, your very own Imperfectlyperfect partnered with Tobi Atte of IJustMetMe to bring something really earth shattering to us youths.
The CONVO by IJustMetMe comes to Lagos!

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IJustMetMe will hold the first Lagos installment of The CONVO on saturday august 23rd 2014. It will be just after my bar exams and absolutely perfect for me!
The CONVO is part of the Relationship Discovery Series currently hosted in New York.
Tobi Atte (Founder of IJustMetMe) truly weaves and breaks down relationships in practical, relatable and applicable ways. He is a certified Christian Relationship, Life, Motivational and Faith coach and the host of the GPS Me! Radio show on in New York.
And remember that trending article on the blogosphere? “10ways to make your man go gaga over you?” It was written by Tobi.

I sincerely feel that we even if we know some stuffs, we can never know all. Its great to drink from the wisdom God has deposited in people He has placed around us. Eziaha of wrote about how inthe’s blog posts help her even in marriage right now… Them nor dey prepare finish but you can fill your mind with the right things right now. Most youths need a re orientation of their mind sets as regards relationships and IJustMetMe merges the spiritual aspect into practical everyday relationships. Great mind shifts occurred in the convos held in New York previously and I am sure it will be the same thing here.

I will be giving away some free tickets on this blog though not right now-you can indicate now anyways so you can reserve your space before the giveaway time and we can make it a mini meeting of people I havent seen before right? Great stuff to look forward to for me. lol.
In the meantime, because I am a partnering sponsor of the event, you get to have an input in what is covered at the event and tell Tobi Atte about what you want to hear more about and the issues you are facing, so that he can make the event even more tailored to what you are going through.
So IJustMetMe has created a VERY short custom (anonymous) survey. Take a second to take the survey and save the date. Here it is:

The CONVO – Lagos Edition Survey

Seriously, I am not joking about the quality and depth of content at IJustMetMe. I follow his blog, you can take a peek too just visit and take a look, or watch some videos on the IJustMetMe YouTube Channel HERE

And errh, I may not post anything again till August, even though I have something I really wanted to share for monday’s inspirational drive even as I write now.
Or I may post something again before then… but if I don’t resurface on this blog till August, I leave you with this- “BUILD YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD”
Yes, you can get to the point where instead of feeling sorry for yourself, you talk to Him.
You take those feelings of wanting love or feeling tempted, or anything at all about your emotional life to Him.
You can have a date with Him, in your room, on your bed, just like you will have a date with “the one” when God brings him to you.
No time to feel sorry for yourself.
God is our first husband… lets treat Him like He is indeed.

Please do take the survey above, PLEASE share this post for it to get to all and indicate if you want in on the free tickets I will have to giveaway. Its in August sha oh, but first to come gets preference yeah?

*I Love you all, for real.
#Enjoy your weekend and ohh, please do like my facebook page on this link
We can keep in touch via my facebook page(I think)

*kiss kiss*

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    June 20, 2014 at 10:30 am

    You will write
    Trust me

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    kelechi nnadi
    June 20, 2014 at 5:16 pm

    Good work

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    June 20, 2014 at 5:24 pm

    Tnks alot for this Miss Frances. I pray 4 d grace 2 love n respect my first husband whom i know will always be there 4 me till i get 2 be with Him in His Home(Heaven).And please august is too far oh.lolz

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      June 21, 2014 at 10:13 am

      Amen and amen Ene..and is August really far? We’ll see about that.lols

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    June 20, 2014 at 8:52 pm

    I love your sincerity.
    I love the way you love God.

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      June 21, 2014 at 10:13 am

      Awwww, exceptional star…and I love the way God leads me to amazing people like you too.*smiles*

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    June 21, 2014 at 2:53 am

    Helloo 🙂
    Thanks for the inspirational msg as usual. I try to bear some of these things in mind and remember not to push God away but sometimes its so easy to get carried away nd forget to tell God how I really feel. May God help us.

    *now booking space for the giveaway tickets*
    No forget me o! :d

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      June 21, 2014 at 10:17 am

      Hello hello hello Yewi!
      Amen oh,may God help us cuz seriously, the peace and calm we can get by building our relationship with God shouldn’t be missed..we will try..we will try.
      And yay! I won’t forget you, you take precedence over everyone else that comes now.lols.
      And uhm, hope you did the survey? Thank you dear.
      Happy weekend

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    June 21, 2014 at 11:40 am

    Thanks dear for this refreshment as always…. I would have loved to participate in the event but, I don’t reside in Lagos… Any alternative?

    Pls what’s Akikitan?

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      June 21, 2014 at 1:38 pm

      Akikitan was a program organised by Pastor Mildred of David’s christian centre,its a yearly program,”when women worship” but this year’s own was tagged “akikitan” meaning when words fail.. and Pastor M blogs at
      Pls check it out,if you read her blog,you would have been
      Aww dear Kate,i even thought of you as I wrote this post, you are not in Lagos? Ohhh, what can we do na? Kai!

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        June 28, 2014 at 7:53 am

        Ok thanks… I was beginning to wonder. Yes dear I’m in PHC

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    June 22, 2014 at 12:35 pm

    Reblogged this on Jsjms's Blog.

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    June 25, 2014 at 11:09 am

    I like to think that when we feel lonely and vulnerable, we need a safe place. What safer place could there be than the one you described? Thanks for sharing.

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    June 30, 2014 at 12:20 pm

    Please!! I’d like to be a part of it o (I don’t mind the free ticket sef); but please update us on how to get tickets just in case. Be good!

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      June 30, 2014 at 12:50 pm

      Ok will be at Lekki, I will holla you via email when details are certain.thanks.
      And oh,pls do fill the survey..have a great day..*smiles*

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    July 4, 2014 at 12:24 pm

    Lovely piece as always Frances. I bet CONVOS would be sensational!
    Chai, my Father my Father……help me to stay intimate with you. Always.

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    July 4, 2014 at 1:42 pm

    i am so blessed by this. this statement really struck me: ” I did more of telling Him not to awaken love in me before it’s time and telling Him to stop whatever is coming on if it’s not time”. beautiful way to pray! so many things i know now that i wish i knew 6 years ago! anyway great post. i like deep voices too. haha

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      July 6, 2014 at 12:59 pm

      Nice to know I have a partner for “deep voice” thingy.lols.
      And seriously, there are some things I know now that I wish I knew 6years ago, something’s I wish I had read..but we trust that we are where God wants us to be right now so no lele..good news is,our kids and young friends won’t be ignorant like we were…
      Thanks for stopping by Fola

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    July 6, 2014 at 7:11 pm

    …but I spoke to God about the way I am feeling-actually I did more of telling Him not to awaken love in me before it’s time and telling Him to stop whatever is coming on if it’s not time…..
    Me I’m stealing this prayer ooo 🙂

    I love how telling God how we feel helps calm/reassure/encourage us.
    Thank you for this 🙂

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      July 6, 2014 at 7:43 pm

      “Steal the prayer all the way” Timiebi. Hehe.
      And you are sooo right, I love how having a conversation with God about anything at all just brings reassurance and takes the worries,pain,tears…away.
      Tis one of the sweetest thing ever, total and absolute comfort(er)!

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    July 7, 2014 at 7:33 pm

    Reblogged this on qUiRkYtImS and commented:
    Hey y’all, today’s post is a reblog from one of my fave blogs and a beautiful soul; Frances(big huuugggg)
    I read this post yesterday and knew I had to share it with you all.
    I hope it blesses and encourages you as it did me.
    Keep smiling 🙂

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    Peace Itimi
    July 30, 2014 at 6:58 pm

    A relationship with God is the most important thing… only God can know us and love us as much… he made us, so its right to say he only knows how to love us completely enough to fill any void.
    Truly… singles should spend more time building a relationship with God, n developing themselves whilst trusting Him to help us pick the right One.

    Thanks 4 reminding me to make God my 1st boo.

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      September 4, 2014 at 12:36 am

      Thanks for stopping by Itimi…
      And deal is, God is already our first boo, we just have to accept the outstretched arms, that’s all… it actually blows me away anytime I think of it.

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    August 16, 2014 at 11:28 pm

    great! I love this
    …You are human to think about love and it
    doesn’t mean that you are not born again…
    Why don’t we all just turn those feelings
    back to God, bridge the gap in our
    relationship with Him and feel Him as our
    first husband indeed.
    Stop feeling “somehow”,…

    But wait o ladies, if God is your first Husband, who is HE to the guys? *smiles*

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      August 26, 2014 at 6:57 am

      Hehe. I am on the research for who God is to the guys too but off my head, when God told Israel He was their husband whom they had left,He was referring to all of them not just the ladies I think..but still I will piece it together and maybe even write on
      Thanks for stopping by Hardethaewoh

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    August 27, 2014 at 10:18 am

    I do speak to God even though most folks thought I was crazy
    They think only demons speak to people
    That somehow God doesn’t do stuff like that (even though biblical references abound)
    I guess it is just favour that I got saved in college else I might have been denied of godly counsel from the Holy Spirit just because I expect God to operate in a certain way.
    Great post.

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      September 4, 2014 at 12:39 am

      You are very right Tessa, most of us expect God to work in a certain way when God can speak to us in a variety of ways, He will use anyone to pass the message across and He speaks, oh yes, He speaks!
      Thanks for stopping by, first comment yeah? Welcome aboard!

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    August 31, 2014 at 12:27 pm

    …. falln in love with u nd ur blog (mayb cus i respect female lawyer cus of my snr sis) .. but on dis post..its a much needed relationship lol. wen i speak nd i tell ppl u can talk to him about anyyyyyy thing asin i beliv in dis so much i tlk to him about arsenal matches even tho i feel he is not interested in that part of the gist lol … when i have problems with dimples (le boo) i find him the best person to talk to. when i feel so down in the spirit cus of one thing i hv done ( even knwing he has forgiven) nd i cant tell no one, i tell him cus am rest assured that he wont judge me, he loves too foolishly (if am allowed to use dat word) ..his my best frnd. my greatest wish is that i grow in him …love ur blog

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      September 4, 2014 at 12:42 am

      Funny, but God is even interested in EVERY part of the gist, even in that arsenal match gist, he wants us to pull up a chair and let’s relate! It’s sometimes too difficult to wrap my mind around. Man and God, how na? But that’s how much His love and care for us go and it’s simply amazing!
      Thanks for stopping by Ebube, you are here to stay I hope? And keep loving us Lawyers oh, you will always be right to do so.

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