#Purposeful Living

On Envy: Why You Need The Holy Spirit’s filter When You Are On Social Media

CONFESSION: I have been hit so seriously by the silly spirit of envy in recent times… so much so that I literally hear the Spirit call my name over and over again as I scroll through posts on Instagram or Facebook.

And envy comes so subtly in the words of…

See just what she’s doing…

How far she has gone…

And hope you have heard that I added a bit of weight recently?

So also I hear, see her body, and see where you still dey?

Or why don’t I get as much comments on my blog? Maybe I am doing something wrong?


And if you happen to be sitting close to me when I am online and you hear me saying ‘God forbid”

with all seriousness, I probably just heard a thought in my mind saying, ‘see the number of her likes

on her posts…” and I am just rebuking such silly thoughts.

I am so thankful that my Spirit rejects such thoughts before they even take root in my mind.


And then back to the Holy Spirit… I am telling you guys the truth, I literally hear that still small voice we are all so familiar with, calling my name and reminding me that I am on my personal lane with Him and Him alone.

It happens almost every time I am on instagram.

Immediately I start scrolling down on posts, He starts with the warnings:

Frances, you are on your own lane with God, your own lane,

Frances stay on your lane – your own lane – your lane – on what I have specifically called you to do in this day and season.

So imagine scrolling through instagram posts while hearing that continually… That’s what I have been going through for the past week.

And that’s how God has been helping me to shut the door against envy for the past week.


But I do wonder about everyone else though…

We live in a world that is so visual, it is a serious problem to find your space in that picture that hits you everywhere you turn.

It basically takes someone who is fixed in God not to be drawn into the rat race that is called the spirit of envy when you scroll through other people’s lives.

We must have a filter that sieves out those silly thoughts that we get from scrolling through other people’s lives otherwise we would be in a serious problem that we can’t bail ourselves from.

The problem of competing with others….

The problem of depression…

The problem of losing sight of the path that God has placed us in while we run another’s track.

Because everything envy is garnered to do is to make you lose sight of God’s work in your life while you focus on another’s path that is basically irrelevant to yours.


Everything envy is garnered to do is to make you lose sight of God’s work in your life while you focus on another’s path Click To Tweet

And this problem builds up subtly from the tiny thoughts of envy that you do nothing to stop and allow to have leeway in your heart till the thoughts are no longer tiny, they scream at you with all their might and you allow them beat you to death.


So the solution for this is pretty simple.

Let the Holy Spirit be your filter even as you use social media every day.

Let the Holy Spirit be your filter even as you use social media every day. Click To Tweet

Envy is not of God.

Love and unity in the recognition that we are one body in God is what is of God.

So let the Spirit help you cast down stupid thoughts that do not align with the thoughts and words of God.


“We are human, but we don’t wage war as humans do.

We use God’s mighty weapons, not worldly weapons, to knock down the strongholds of human reasoning and to destroy false arguments. We destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people from knowing God. We capture their rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ.”

-2Corinthians 10:3-5


This is a war you know?

And the biggest battle you are facing is one in your mind and if you don’t yet know that, then you will basically let satan win you over and over again and that shouldn’t be.

We have weapons listed in Ephesians 6 and the one that’s so effective for this battle against envy is the word of God.

What the Spirit will bring to your remembrance when you are hit by thoughts of envy is the word of God.

So oh lady and guy, we need to store up!


All in all, do not allow yourself to get sucked up into this subtle game of envy satan is playing on social media.

All in all, do not allow yourself to get sucked up into this subtle game of envy satan is playing on social media. Click To Tweet

Social media is awesome but if you don’t allow the Spirit to be your filter, you will fall off of your path and start walking on the path of another and even if you run on another’s path, you are still getting nowhere because it’s such a waste of time.


The Holy Spirit has been helping me in this battle against envy.

I hope you listen to His voice and let Him help you too.


Have a week wrapped in Christ Jesus and remember, today is a good day to become progressively like Jesus Christ.






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  • Reply
    Highly Favored
    July 11, 2016 at 1:45 pm

    Social media is a very deceptive tool the enemy uses to distract especially believers. At the end of the day, social media ultimately is a distraction, time wasting, emotionally disturbing and “social” retardant.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      July 11, 2016 at 9:31 pm

      It sure is a tool being used by satan but also being used by God… the deal is how believers can know how to stay in line and not be wrapped and swallowed up by the enemy in this area..
      We need a balance or else, even prayer lives go down the drain all predicate don social media.

      I cant even do it on my own, so I have learnt to obey when the Spirit nudges a warning. Still not there yet but I #press.
      we all should too

      Thanks Highly Favoured!

      • Reply
        Ify Halim
        July 19, 2016 at 9:36 pm

        Trust the devil to turn something meant for good to something evil. Tsk tsk.

        I’m a media enthusiast, and over of the years, God has helped me see how powerful a tool it is in changing lives. Especially online.

        Don’t lose hope @Highly Favored.

  • Reply
    Cynthia Chinazor
    July 12, 2016 at 12:52 pm

    Few months ago, I was walking down the streets to go to my tailor’s and suddenly a flashy car swerved and blocked my way. I was surprised and was wondering why the driver is driving that reckless. The occupant wound down the car window and called my name. I peered into the car just the very moment she removed her sun shades and it happened to be one of my secondary school mates. She is married with two kids, drives a posh car lives in a choice estate and there was I sweating it out as I trekked down. I quickly chastised myself for thinking that way and quickly reminded myself that those “good things of life”, i will still later enjoy.
    One trick I have employed on social media such as Instagram is this…I don’t follow most of those my friends and acquaintances that do a good job of flaunting their seemingly perfect life daily for the world to see. For the sake of my sanity and to save myself from envy and all its associated acts, I only follow accounts that edify me or challenge me to be better and very few friends.
    Yes, the writing part and comparing yourself with the number of likes and followers the other blogger or writer has, I can relate. The struggle is real. We just have to do well to cast down all those negative thoughts.
    If we all understand that our life courses have been charted differently and remind ourselves often too, it will help us be content with the current season of our lives and also, quit the comparison and envy game but instead sincerely rejoice with people who have what we are still asking God for. Thank you for this piece, Frances. God bless you!

    • Reply
      July 12, 2016 at 12:56 pm

      “For the sake of sanity” Lol!

      I actually abandoned Facebook.

      • Reply
        Frances Okoro
        July 15, 2016 at 11:42 pm

        Lol, good decision…
        I don’t have release to do that yet, I think God wants to fix my heart concerning these issues and abandoning them isn’t what will fix my heart, the issue will still be there anyway.

        But loool Amaka!

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      July 15, 2016 at 11:47 pm

      And thank you for your comment Cynthia, so much to imbibe and learn from.

      Our paths are all different, different courses…i for one know that that is one lesson God wants to drill into my head. Like you are on a track with me only as your instructor, and spectator, live for me and me alone.
      I am learning Lord or atleast trying to learn and follow.

      Thanks again dear Cynthia

  • Reply
    July 12, 2016 at 12:53 pm

    Lol. That used to be me whenever I see friends’wedding pictures on Facebook. I grew out of it. Thanks to God.

    But then again when I joined Instagram and saw too many pictures – people showing off one thing or the other. I go like: “.____” That was how I ran to go or is it try to buy the lipstick that I could never wear. Phew.

    Each time I remember the scenario, I keep laughing at my self. The struggle is real.

    Frances, I like how you put it. The filter from the Holy Spirit is the sure way to go. Thank you!

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      July 15, 2016 at 11:44 pm

      Lol, I read that lipsick post.., Lord deliver us from the stuff of this age ohh.
      We wanna roll your way, living for an audience of one, Lord help us.

      And amen to growing out of this all… as we grow and conform ourselves to the image of Christ Jesus..amen!

  • Reply
    July 13, 2016 at 2:54 am

    [Or why don’t I get as much comments on my blog? Maybe I am doing something wrong?]

    Let me leave a comment for the sake of leaving a comment 🙂

    No, you’re not doing anything wrong. You are reaching the people you are supposed to reach. It doesn’t matter if they don’t leave comments.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      July 15, 2016 at 11:41 pm

      Lol Swoosh, I see what you did there…
      Would I rather people leave a comment for the sake of leaving a comment?

      Was studying David today and it hit me again that he was in the bush with sheep and of course receiving no applause or commendation for keeping the sheep..but God was seeing and monitoring it all and when the time came forth, it was both his heart an faithfulness even while tending sheep that were just qualities that struck me.

      The commendation isn’t from people, I should do what I don as unto the Lord. He sees and His comments and rewards are all that matters.
      People’s own are good encouragement too but if my heart cannot be okay alone with God’s own applause then I need fixing.
      So Lord fix me and let my heart be one that follows you and you alone…

  • Reply
    July 13, 2016 at 11:14 am

    I can relate…
    The writing aspect…
    And the Social-Media aspect…

    Friends going for ‘summer’ every year. Friends graduating.

    But does it matter?
    Does it matter that they finished school before me?
    Does it matter that they are doing their own while I do mine…

    All that really matters is representing God and staying on my lane.

    Running to share…

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      July 15, 2016 at 11:37 pm

      It really, really doesn’t matter..
      It doesn’t.
      I also have to remember that too…
      Thanks B

  • Reply
    July 13, 2016 at 4:11 pm

    Lol! Like I said to myself in one of my posts, comparison is a lose lose situation, whether you are the person better off (then it fills you pride) or you are the person less off (fills you with envy and jealousy). It takes a conscious effort to nip jealousy and envy, be happy for others successes, learn from them and just stay in your own lane – trying to be the best of you. Someone will always be richer, be more on fleek and be smarter than us.


    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      July 15, 2016 at 11:33 pm

      Exactly, its takes a conscious effort, if we let envy fester, it turns into even worse, deadly and fights and competition…nah. Too much negativity stemming from one source.

      And welcome KacheeTee, I have been on your blog, not sure If i commented, and have been seeing you or rather your comments on the blogosphere. 😀

  • Reply
    Grace Esedeke
    July 18, 2016 at 5:16 pm

    I can relate.
    I have been here more times than I can remember.
    That feeling I get when I update a blog post and comeback after a week and find “no comment”.. that feeling I get when I check my mailchimp newsletter analytics and see only about 5% opens out of a thousand plus subscribers..
    I have been there.
    and often times I hear the Holy Spirit drawing my attention to something else.
    Something to be thankful for.

    One of those days , while reading over the comments on one of the blogs I read, I began to feel that envy, and some feelings of unworthiness, maybe-I’m-not-actually-called-to-write, the maybe-I’m-just-wasting-my-time feeling. while I found it easy and more convenient to indulge in those feelings, I challenged myself to take a look at my Google analytics report.

    I saw that my blog is read by not only Nigerians, but by people from more than 20 nations of the world. this was a huge encouragement.

    we bloggers are missionaries from our computer screens. we reach the world with the message of God’s love from the comfort of our homes and behind our computers.

    so it doesn’t matter whether we get comments on our post or not. God is using our stories to draw more people to Himself from every nation of the world.

    Our message is spreading far and wide.. and touching more lives from more locations than we could ever think of.

    this is a huge encouragement. . one that reminds us that we are doing great.. one that let’s us know that we are not wasting our time.

    This is one way the Holy Spirit helped me beat that discouraging thoughts and envying other bloggers.

    Weldone Sis. You are doing a great job here as always.
    Sending much love, hugs and positive energy your way.
    have a beautiful Monday

    • Reply
      Ify Halim
      July 19, 2016 at 9:45 pm

      Thank you for your honesty, Grace. And I loved what you said about us being missionaries from our computer screen. Permission to use that line later? 🙂

      God knows I’ve been there too, right before He helps me snap out of it minutes/days/weeks later (depending on how open my “ears” are lol). We live in a world where success is defined by numbers and the illusion of progress, so it’s not surprising when we feel like/people tell us we’re failing when the opposite is the case. As Frances wisely said, we’re all on our own lanes in life. Very unwise to be comparing what’s going on with an orange when you’ve been made to be an apple.

      Thank you for this post, Frances!

      • Reply
        Frances Okoro
        July 28, 2016 at 5:40 pm

        That apple and orange illustration Ify…ah so apt. And so true. Two different lanes and people. .different paths and dealings..whats the measurement for comparison then…

        Amen to rememberng this always ….

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      July 28, 2016 at 5:44 pm

      I pray the Spirit reminds me of your comment every time i need it Grace…yes because i will…

      Thanks so much
      Thank you

  • Reply
    Berry Dakara
    July 20, 2016 at 4:50 am

    Great post Frances. I loved every bit of it, but especially the comments section 🙂

    I struggle with the comments bit too – sometimes I catch myself not even reading someone’s blog post but going straight to see how many comments they have. But guess what? All it does is make you feel bad and tire you out.

    We are all called to run our individual races, that’s the truth. We might be running similar races but we are responsible for OUR own race. The less time we spend looking at someone else’s life, the more time we have to focus on ourselves.

    Berry Dakara Blog

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      July 28, 2016 at 5:37 pm

      The end of your comment Berry hit me

      So sometimes we look at another’s grass while we leave ours unattended…
      Thats certainly one thing envy causes…

      The race isn’t someone else’s. Its mine and oh Lord help me to FOCUS on my grass..it needs tending tooo

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