My Body Count For The Year 2016

Body Count

Means how many people you had sex with
-Urbandictionary.com

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My dear single ladies and gentlemen,
I always have a smile on my face anytime I write to you all… I don’t know, it just gladdens my heart to be on here on Saturdays.

You know Frances’ Love Letters started here with me scribbling love notes to Daddy at night – just thoughts from my heart to God regarding love that found their way to the blog.
Then I realized that I actually have a passion to see God kind of marriages and homes and that’s why I write letters here each Saturday.
I pray God waters the seeds that are being sown here in Jesus name, amen.

So early this year, I wrote about how my journey on not kissing before marriage has been so far here.
Around this time last year I was experiencing serious “being horny issues”. I mean it was crazy.
But thank God oh, we jump and passed.

Christmas time has always been a tempting and trying time for me in the area of living in purity.

Before I came into Christ, I was always certain to be carrying around one baggage relationship wise around this period. I would as usual be home from school and that seemed to be the time when satan could creep in with distractions in the form of boys. I didn’t think that they were distractions then, I thought they were cute boys.
Most of my falling into sin and temptations and even masturbation (a sexual addiction I struggled with for years) occurred during the holidays.

I was usually home and idle and one thing usually led to another and wham, another time of tears at falling into one thing or the other.

I stumbled onto a post of someone recounting how her year has been and she said her body count increased this year 2016 despite her repenting and going to back to God.
That used to be me.
Repenting but still smooching.
Repenting but still watching porn.
And even though I didn’t have an increasing body count, I repented but still went back to the then boyfriend more than once.

But oh, God delivered me from all of that.

So Frances’ body count for the year 2016?
NIL.

And its such a testimony to be able to write that.
NIL.
NIL.
NIL.

Not by power but by His grace.

I still remember clearly not just body counts but inability to stay in purity without porn and masturbation.
Oh, God delivered me.
The devil tried this year, even through dreams but God is faithful. Someday I will write about the journey to wholeness after sexual addictions.
Even after the deliverance, deliberate steps have to be taken towards being whole and perfection in walking in purity in totality.

Grace is enough.
God is faithful.

A lot of singles think that living in purity isn’t possible.
We still have a long way to go in spreading the good news about purity. Most youths still believe that you cannot be a virgin and that if you have started having sex, you cannot stop.
But oh my friends, look at me today, a living testimony of God’s faithfulness.

You don’t have to keep running around in a cycle; give yourself – body, soul and spirit to God.
Like I said in my book “Chastity for men”, you don’t have to be weighed down under sin anymore, Jesus has given us freedom (hallelujah!), you only need to learn how to walk in this freedom.

 

“This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.”
-Galatians 5:16

 

The Holy Spirit took me by the hand and taught me how to walk in purity, and He can do the same for you too.
But first you must believe that it can be done.
There is somewhere better than rising and falling..
There is a place better than regretting the rising body count that seems to never end..
IT IS IN JESUS CHRIST.

If you struggle in this area, my book  Chastity For Men can help you and if you also need an accountability partner/someone to hold your hands through this, I can help as God gives me grace to do so.
I am at okorofrances@gmail.com

Here’s congratulating those who through grace lived in purity this year.

And for our sisters and brothers who didn’t, don’t give up on you.
God hasn’t yet.
And I haven’t.

8 years I was wrapped in sexual sin and crying in toilets after falling again but God delivered me.
That’s how I know that He can deliver you too.
What He did for one, He can do for all.

But it begins with your  decision to let Him help you.
The kind of  decision I took in 2012, to be wholly sold out to God.
The Holy Spirit started working in me when I gave Him myself.
I pray you give Him yourself too.

Lord, here I am..
Frail..
A sinner..
A mess..
Addicted to sexual sin..
My body count keeps rising..
Help me Lord.
I come back to you today..
I have nowhere else to go..
Help me Lord.
I wanna live in purity in you.
Help me Lord.

 

It’s the heart He looks at.
Let your heart be sincere before Him.

I pray you too soon can write a letter like this.. celebrating your life in purity in Daddy.

With no body count for the year.

 

Till our next love letter,
Love,
Frances.

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Watch the video below..

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