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My Body Count For The Year 2016

Body Count

Means how many people you had sex with


My dear single ladies and gentlemen,
I always have a smile on my face anytime I write to you all… I don’t know, it just gladdens my heart to be on here on Saturdays.

You know Frances’ Love Letters started here with me scribbling love notes to Daddy at night – just thoughts from my heart to God regarding love that found their way to the blog.
Then I realized that I actually have a passion to see God kind of marriages and homes and that’s why I write letters here each Saturday.
I pray God waters the seeds that are being sown here in Jesus name, amen.

So early this year, I wrote about how my journey on not kissing before marriage has been so far here.
Around this time last year I was experiencing serious “being horny issues”. I mean it was crazy.
But thank God oh, we jump and passed.

Christmas time has always been a tempting and trying time for me in the area of living in purity.

Before I came into Christ, I was always certain to be carrying around one baggage relationship wise around this period. I would as usual be home from school and that seemed to be the time when satan could creep in with distractions in the form of boys. I didn’t think that they were distractions then, I thought they were cute boys.
Most of my falling into sin and temptations and even masturbation (a sexual addiction I struggled with for years) occurred during the holidays.

I was usually home and idle and one thing usually led to another and wham, another time of tears at falling into one thing or the other.

I stumbled onto a post of someone recounting how her year has been and she said her body count increased this year 2016 despite her repenting and going to back to God.
That used to be me.
Repenting but still smooching.
Repenting but still watching porn.
And even though I didn’t have an increasing body count, I repented but still went back to the then boyfriend more than once.

But oh, God delivered me from all of that.

So Frances’ body count for the year 2016?

And its such a testimony to be able to write that.

Not by power but by His grace.

I still remember clearly not just body counts but inability to stay in purity without porn and masturbation.
Oh, God delivered me.
The devil tried this year, even through dreams but God is faithful. Someday I will write about the journey to wholeness after sexual addictions.
Even after the deliverance, deliberate steps have to be taken towards being whole and perfection in walking in purity in totality.

Grace is enough.
God is faithful.

A lot of singles think that living in purity isn’t possible.
We still have a long way to go in spreading the good news about purity. Most youths still believe that you cannot be a virgin and that if you have started having sex, you cannot stop.
But oh my friends, look at me today, a living testimony of God’s faithfulness.

You don’t have to keep running around in a cycle; give yourself – body, soul and spirit to God.
Like I said in my book “Chastity for men”, you don’t have to be weighed down under sin anymore, Jesus has given us freedom (hallelujah!), you only need to learn how to walk in this freedom.


“This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.”
-Galatians 5:16


The Holy Spirit took me by the hand and taught me how to walk in purity, and He can do the same for you too.
But first you must believe that it can be done.
There is somewhere better than rising and falling..
There is a place better than regretting the rising body count that seems to never end..

If you struggle in this area, my book  Chastity For Men can help you and if you also need an accountability partner/someone to hold your hands through this, I can help as God gives me grace to do so.
I am at

Here’s congratulating those who through grace lived in purity this year.

And for our sisters and brothers who didn’t, don’t give up on you.
God hasn’t yet.
And I haven’t.

8 years I was wrapped in sexual sin and crying in toilets after falling again but God delivered me.
That’s how I know that He can deliver you too.
What He did for one, He can do for all.

But it begins with your  decision to let Him help you.
The kind of  decision I took in 2012, to be wholly sold out to God.
The Holy Spirit started working in me when I gave Him myself.
I pray you give Him yourself too.

Lord, here I am..
A sinner..
A mess..
Addicted to sexual sin..
My body count keeps rising..
Help me Lord.
I come back to you today..
I have nowhere else to go..
Help me Lord.
I wanna live in purity in you.
Help me Lord.


It’s the heart He looks at.
Let your heart be sincere before Him.

I pray you too soon can write a letter like this.. celebrating your life in purity in Daddy.

With no body count for the year.


Till our next love letter,

Still think that you cannot live in purity especially as a man?
Watch the video below..

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  • Reply
    December 24, 2016 at 12:05 pm

    Praise the Lord. This put such a smile on my face God is truly faithful and His grace is always sufficient in our weakness. Have a wonderful Christmas xx

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      December 24, 2016 at 1:08 pm

      Sure issss faithful.
      So faithful.
      And grace. . I have experienced that on another level in this journey.
      Thank you Jesus

      Merry Christmas too Dami.

      Ps: I am not sure if I was done with editing the post before your comment came through. wasn’t done with the end.
      Hope you come back to finish it 🙂

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    December 24, 2016 at 12:07 pm

    Glorayyyy!! And she overcame by the blood of the lamb and the word of testimony! Thank God for you!
    And if there’s anyone out there who is going through something similar to what Frances went through in the past, hold on, run back to daddy, accept his forgiveness and love. He is working on you! He’s not through with you yet!

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      Frances Okoro
      December 24, 2016 at 1:06 pm

      Thank God for being God.
      Soooo grateful that He is God.

      I wasn’t done with the post before I saw your comment even AmakaAnne.
      Was editing and adding the end part with call to others like you have done with your comment.
      hope you come back to finish reading :-0

      Compliments of the season

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    December 26, 2016 at 7:05 am

    no bodycount, no kissing, glory to God. But struggled with immoral/sexual thoughts. Was beating myself up in church today for that but the Lord pointed out the Samaritian woman to me. She was what the world today will refer to as a hoe. Had 5 husbands, yet living with a 6th man..morally condemned, loose, ashewo etc.. But Jesus chose to reveal himself to her! Bypassing the pharisees and saudecees ie the church leaders. He chose to have a conversation with this woman and reveal himself as Christ to her, offering her living water.
    The best part was what he said to her about the 5husbands ish. Yes, i know your story. No condemnation whatsoever. In other words, I know, but I’m still here. So comforting to know he is with us, even as we work out our struggles and weaknesses.

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      Princess Okechukwu
      January 17, 2017 at 12:34 am

      I love how you put it point blank: ‘No condemnation whatsoever’. If there is anything that I learnt and I’m still learning about our father is that, He loves us unto repentance. He convicts, not condemn.

      His strength is made perfect in our weakness. And we shall continue to walk in purity, showing forth the power of Christ in us. Amen

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      January 25, 2017 at 3:40 am

      Hi Linda,

      On sexual/immoral thoughts. That is on journey I am on too.
      Its the reason why I said maybe someday I will write on the journey towards wholeness after sexual addictions.
      The mind still has to be cleansed to be able to function in line with the outward acts.

      You are not alone. This walk we are on, we are in it together.
      Puirty of body, mind and heart, we will get there through the help of the Holy Spirit in Jesus name, amen

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    December 27, 2016 at 6:12 am

    God be praised. In my journey towards sexual purity my greatest friend and companion has been the Holy Spirit.

    Thanks for this reminder.

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      Frances Okoro
      December 31, 2016 at 3:48 pm

      He is our greatest helper indeed Gabby. I couldnt do it on my own.. flesh is powerless against this. Thank you Holy Spirit.


  • Reply
    December 29, 2016 at 6:48 am

    I love how naked this post is, Frances.
    God bless you for sharing your story so others can see that if you can do it, then they can too. Thank God for freedom. He is so faithful and able!
    P.S.Thanks for visiting my blog, dear. Really appreciate that.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      December 31, 2016 at 3:47 pm

      Thank God Precious.. all God. we will share as He gives us grace to do..

      And I love your blog!

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