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Life Lately: 2016 So Far (Vlog) + The Women At The Well Upcoming Meet

Please forgive me people…
I didn’t quite publicize our upcoming single ladies meet like I usually do.
I would like to lay the blame on lots of things but I think I just wasn’t that proactive because somehow, I maybe lost the drive to share and invite others…
So imagine my surprise when I read a post from one of our very first ladies who joined us.
I smiled all through as I read the post… and I just saw what I have been doing through God’s eyes.
Never underestimate “the place” where God has placed you… the assignments He has given you right now, no matter how small it may seem, God is being glorified and lives are being touched.
I will let you read her words below and if you can still make it, the invite is open to you to join us for an amazing time with fellows sisters today at National theatre, Iganmu Lagos by 12pm.

But before you read this post that had me grinning widely, I finally fulfilled my promise to film a video on how 2016 has been so far.

If you can’t watch it, the only info I will release on how the last three months has been so far is that I am still at 77kg… been a bit lax with getting back on the fitness track… but then you should watch the video so you see just how my eyes roll in exasperation at my inability to just get on track.
I actually said “Lord help me” in the video with my warri tongue of course.

So you can watch the video below of me and my cute hair and cute grins below or on my youtube channel.

And read Distinguished’s heart warming post on TWTW after the video… and if you don’t know what TWTW is, the explanation’s HERE.

Reblogged from Distinguishedlives blog
When I wrote about Defining Relationships here, I dedicated the piece to my friends from TWTW (The Women at The Well). Till date, I’m still amazed by the joint power of the internet and social media and their ability to connect and turn absolute strangers to good pals! On or before 14 November, 2015, the group TWTW didn’t exist. Looking back now, I’m grateful to God that I read and honored a simple blog invite to an adventurous hang out at Nike Arts Gallery Lekki. Let’s go a lil down memory lane…

That Saturday morning (7 November, 2015) was like every other, I was doing my usual weekend chores when I received an email notification from, one of the blogs I’m subscribed to. Prior to that morning, I hadn’t read most updates from blogs I follow cos I was seriously pressed for time. That period, I was undergoing a training during that took up most of my work and leisure hours, (needed to study to come out tops, and by God’s grace I did. Came out top of the class). That’s by the way though, lol. Back to my story, something about the update made it irresistible to leave it for later, so I paused my chores and read it. Frances was doing a 12-month adventure challenge and the November 12 Trip challenge was for any interested single lady in Lagos to meet up with her at Nike-Art Gallery for a fun hang out. Saying I was excited at the invite is putting it mildly. I’ve always looked forward to meeting her (Frances) and I was in dire need of some Godly Christian hangout, so I saw the invite as an opportunity to use a stone and kill two birds so I quickly sent my reply to indicate my interest.

I would love to say the rest is history at this point, but there are two major things I’ll like to draw out before I end my story…
(1) You know Mazi Ekwensu aka the devil, is very tricky and has foresight – he knows things | events| relationships, that will benefit you so he will seek out ways to distract, discourage and prevent you from having that important connect that will change your life for good. So after I indicated interest for the hangout, Mazi Ekwensu gave me so me many reasons why I couldn’t and shouldn’t attend the event:

You need the weekend’s rest; you know how much you need this rest!
You’re new to Lagos, Lekki is far from Surulere, If it were on the Mainland, ehen, you can consider going.
(This one touched me special) You don’t have money to go. Just stay home and read about the gist on her blog. Btw, there will always be another meet.
Honestly, at that time, I had lil or no money… by the morning of the meet, I had less than 1k home and abroad and to make matters worse, I started purging that morning! So the decision to go or not to go was a serious battle, lol. Thank God the Holy Spirit in me won, I went! And the rest is history…. well, not yet.


The girls with madam Nike

The girls with madam Nike

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Ruthie and I

The meeting was for 2pm, when I got there around past 2pm, twas just Frances and Amakamedia that had arrived. Adahna joined us next and like that like that, we ended up as 9 ladies – Frances, AmakaMedia, Adahna, Temitope, Anita, IfyHalim, Ruthie, Queenie and Distinguished (moi). Apart from Frances, Ada and Queen who attended law school together, the rest of us were just meeting each other for the first time but you wouldn’t believe it by looking at us or seeing the pictures we took. Our conversations just flowed, like we were age-long friends hanging out and catching up on old times; there was no form of forming as is prone with ladies.
The magnetizing force was a common desire to please God, drink and know more of Him and inspire others to do same. By the end of the event, we all went home happy and refreshed, looking forward to another meet. That is the history of TWTW, Distinguished’s version (you can read about the meet on Frances blog here).
This story wouldn’t end today if I go into all the great benefits I’ve gained from meeting this wonderful ladies.To mention just two – my Spiritual life and personal relationship with God has had an upward turn since the meet; two, they inspired and challenged me to start this blog.


After the November 12 meet, we created a whatsapp group where we have online bible study every Friday by 8pm; prayers on Saturday mornings; midnight prayers on Sunday nights as well as daily inspirational discussions whenever there’s a word to share. Videos, songs, links to help you grow on all fronts are shared on the group, the good news is the group is a growing one! It has since grown from 9 ladies to more ladies who desire to drink from the well. New ladies are absorbed into the group after each meet.

Talking about the meet, Frances, didn’t envisage the meet will become a regular occurrence, but just like most things with God, it’s one step at a time. Today, just between November last year and April this year, the TWTW meet now holds once every quarter! We had the first meet for the year on January 30th (you can read all about it here). And we will have the one for this quarter tomorrow, 9th April, 2016!!!!

I really hope you are as excited as I am! Here’s an open invitation to all single ladies in Lagos who desire to have a good time out with godly friends and have discussions that will set them up for what God has destined them for.

Join us tomorrow at “National theater” by 12 noon prompt (National theatre is at Iganmu (or constaine for easy location), just after Covenant Christian Centre).

Here’s a lil excerpt of the invite from Frances:

“We’ll be sightseeing the place (come let your hair down and just do a little tourism), and then more importantly be digging into the Word and prayers. All aimed at us leaving more refreshed with water from “The Well”.

As is usual with The women at the well (TWTW) meetings, we expect the Word to meet us at the point of our need and for the fellowship and love to bind us to strong cords in Christ.




I pray you will honor my invite (sorry for the short notice)… i look forward to seeing you at the TWTW meet tomorrow.

Much Love,


PS: The tomorrow is today you know?
I did send an email to blog subscribers but if you didn’t get it and you just happened to be seeing this invite for the first time, biko, don’t hesitate to join us.
Don’t let Mazi Ekwensu deceive you like he almost did to Dee oh, come and be refreshed with “water from the well”.
See ya!


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  • Reply
    April 9, 2016 at 10:42 am

    Wow! God be praised, I’m excited for how surrendered you are to God using you to bless lives. The truth is we never know how much lives God is reaching out to through sometimes not so obvious assignment.

    . Well guys are not invited so I pass.

    ****** Do you happen to pass through Berger on Thursday?

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      April 10, 2016 at 12:38 pm

      lol at guys arent invited..maybe soon D’dream..
      And I have so found that to be true, we kind of under rate our assignments in God sometimes..Lord help us to see like He sees in Jesus name, amen.

      And no, I dont pass through plans for that for now anyway. Will holla if anything turns up and I have to be that way..

  • Reply
    April 11, 2016 at 2:44 am

    Hmmmmmmmmm. . . (can I just “hmmm” over this post?) Yes, please.


    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      April 13, 2016 at 1:23 pm

      Hehe Amaka, you can hmmmmmm. I’m smiling all the way 🙂

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