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Let’s Talk About How The Wedding Day Will Be…

Dear single ladies…

First of all, I cannot express how great it feels to be able to write that “dear single ladies”…

How long has it been since my last letter to you?

I am just glad to be back.

But here’s the deal, the post I had in mind to publish today was nowhere to be found.

I could have sworn that I either saved it in my documents or in wordpress drafts but I couldn’t find it!

Which other writer does that happen to?

Or did I write it in a vision or something?

Anyways, I am still looking for it, please tell the post to holla if you see it…


Today’s love letter will just be in the form of a banter – in a lighter mood.

I am currently seated at the reception of what happens to be the first wedding I am attending since 2013!

Those who know me know that I am a wedding crasher.

I used to be one of those who, once I use ear hear “wedding”, I am there!

My classmates wedding oh, you will find me there even if I heard about it one day to the D-day. But somehow, my enthusiasm disappeared.. and I still haven’t found it, I only came to this wedding because it will be the first one I will be attending in Ekiti State as a corper in a new state.

That reason and free Pounded yam of course…lol.

Me at the engagement when the pounded yam just

Me at the engagement when the pounded yam just

The granny who’s son is getting married lives in my street and immediately she saw me at the engagement, she just said have you eaten? You will eat Pounded yam shey?

What will I do na? I nodded.

And they gave me yam in the morning before in the house oh and now I am at the reception full of food again.

Please pray for me, otherwise my belle go burst.


It’s a yoruba wedding and everyone’s gorgeously dressed. You know yorubas can parry!

I couldn’t help but notice that the registry, engagement, reception and all was done in one day though. And there’s no frills whatsoever.

Just my kind of wedding.

To be honest, I have never given any “FULL BLOWN” thought to how my wedding day will be.

You know those people that don’t even think about the wedding gown or whatever? I am one of them.

But from the days of my jumping from one wedding to another, I have picked out something’s that I don’t want in my wedding. I actually wrote one post on it from vexation but Ehen, I can’t find that post too.

I remember saying that I absolutely do not want all these white hand gloves groom and bride wear..are we still in the olden days?

Then all those very fake entrances into the wedding reception where the groom will carry one leg up and the bride will follow. You know those steps that look like cultural dance…yes, I saw it in one wedding then…

Abeg, I can catwalk normally jare.

And then all the parents dragging you here and there, mba, mba and mba.


I told Mobolaji that I won’t stress myself on my day sef. Why do I have sisters and a mother?

They will do all the work.

I will simply go to rest and leave it all in their hands. Just make sure that I have one large cake to myself at the end of it all, for sweet mouth sake.

And of course, that I and my chosen mister are joined without any incident on that day and I am good.

But hey, that’s just me.

I know a friend that has the wedding day all planned – cake, dress, wedding colours…she is into all the dream of my wedding day…

And maybe you are like that too…

Don’t let my boring self dull you, I will like to even pick up some tips from you.

Have you got the wedding day on lock down?

You are one of those who have been dreaming about it since you were a girl

Do tell please!

Not everyday serious wisdom and insight on here, some days, let’s talk like girlsss.

I’m waiting to read from you in the comments ection below 🙂


I have got to run, coke and rice dey wait for me to chop them.

I hope I don’t have tummy experiences like Gracie after this.

Oh well… its my first experience of yoruba wedding in Ekiti State.. I am allowed ba?



Till our next love letter,

Pray for me to find the missing post oh.





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  • Reply
    July 18, 2015 at 3:07 pm

    Chai! Na me you yab so….*sobs*.
    Now I’ve found a partner in this same thought. I don’t have any idea of how my wedding will be; color theme, dress, cake n all that. Pips look at me like which kind girl be this. I will really like something intimate like all these oyibo wedding.
    The only thing i fantasise about is my honeymoon with hubby in a cozy place and new country. That’s all. As for the wedding day, I pray we have lots of money to get a great wedding planner. I don’t like headache abeg.
    Another thing i fantasise about is me n hubby having small fights and making up like lil kids do with plenty kissing and under the sheet thing.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      July 18, 2015 at 11:00 pm

      Okay…how did I forget the under the sheets and romance things sef? I guess my body is just soooo wired on glorifying God with chastity..Baba God Himself will have to do a rest when the time draws near..hehe.

      And na true oh Gracie..sightseeing in a new country, not alone oh or with one guy wey nor even be am..with HIM. Ok. Let me stop there.

      And I am with you about stress..lai lai.pleaseeee, small wedding will do, but momsy will not gree. Her first daughter? The whole Ughelli go hear am.

      And the tummy experience thing eh, let me not go into it. Today was ermmmm.. hmm

  • Reply
    July 18, 2015 at 8:19 pm

    You aren’t alone with that thought.
    I don’t have my wedding planned either.
    Recently tho, a few colours am loving have crossed my mind as ‘wedding colours’.

    I really don’t like weddings…I mean I get bored fast at a wedding ceremony. I find a lot of the activities time wasting.

    I guess the only thing I know I want is a brief ceremony both church and reception.
    It’s post wedding I look forward to.*wink*

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      July 18, 2015 at 11:36 pm

      Loollls at “I really don’t like weddings”..i think that’s where I am gravitating to..except of course it’s a wedding where I know lots of people…

      I don’t know what happened to me oh, I used to rave about “post wedding” all the night till the questions about wedding night burst my bubble.
      Most couples just take panadol and sleep, cc, Naijahusband’s post too
      Which is why I wee not stress myself, mom and everyone else will work. 🙂

      Thanks for commenting, first time here I see..

      And oh, as for colours, I don’t even know for myself…atleast you’ve got that on lockdown…abi?

  • Reply
    July 19, 2015 at 1:20 pm

    I’m just like you Frances, a small wedding and some of my favorite music will do just fine.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      July 19, 2015 at 4:34 pm

      Abi oh frills and plenty brouhaha..

  • Reply
    July 19, 2015 at 11:15 pm

    I have not planned my wedding. Let the husband come first, but I don’t mind big or small as long as I am not paying. I will attend my wedding as long as hubby and I are happy.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      July 20, 2015 at 9:15 am

      See me chuckling as I read your comment..haha!
      As long as you aren’t paying…Shebi na?? any family member that wants a big wedding should pay for it..

      And as for the husband coming first..girllll this your humour.
      I sha get you totally!

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