#Purposeful Living

I Feel Like Shutting Down My Blog

They say quotes always sound like clichés but that’s only till they actually hit you at the exact moment when you are going through what the quote talks about.

They also say writing gives you the chance to spill out things you may never talk about in a million years…

That writing makes you a voice for others who may not be able to tell anyone what they are going through…
That writing gives someone an opportunity to identify with what they are also going through but may never be able to talk about…So I will write what I feel right now and hope that someone identifies with it in one way or the other.

It has been terribly hard for me to transit from the old blog to this present one. I feel like I have lost all my subscribers… I feel like no one reads any of the stuff I write… I feel like it changes no one/touches no life…
I feel like it’s hard-too hard to build everything from scratch again and more often than not, I feel like shutting everything down…Just shut up, drop the pen, shut everything down and drift into nothingness…
Do you feel like I do too? Do you feel like shutting down that business, that idea that no one seems to give a hoot about… You feel like letting it all float away?… That’s ok… AS LONG AS WE ONLY FEEL IT AND DONT DO IT.
We cannot be ruled by feelings can we?
As much as I may feel like shutting down my blog… As much as we may want to burn it all down… WE CANT.
We can feel it but we should never do it.
Because as cliché as this may sound, “Nothing good ever comes easy” and “perseverance and patience does pay off”

It’ll be so easy to stop, to just throw in the towel and forget it all…but then we would never forget would we?

We would always wonder about what could have been some 2,3, 4years down the line or even what could have been tomorrow if only we had kept going…

So let’s all keep going, have some faith and a buckload of patience and perseverance. We will get there.


So here’s another feeling I am going to act on instead…
I am going to make a pact this monday with you…
Call it an E-pact or whatever you want…
For me, I am making a pact not to give up on my blog… By God’s grace I am going to keep spilling out the words in me whether they seem to be heard/read or not.
For you? You do not have to tell me what it is, just take my E-hand in yours, and say this in your own way…
I won’t shut down this blog(insert what it is for you)…
I am going to persevere and keep at it…
I am not going to give up…
I will plant the seeds…
One day it will grow…
One day it shall grow…
One day it shall surely grow.”


Happy New Week Dearies,

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And another E-pact to make? Let’s all read this some 5years from today yeah? Yes.



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  • Reply
    October 6, 2014 at 6:28 am

    Hehehe…you can be sure i’ll stalk you and hunt you down if you give in *evil grin*

    Don’t you dare stop Frances,i’m living vicariously through you&yours.

    P.s; i’ve got a quote of my own for you;
    “New gifts does take some getting used to. A mother can’t force everyone to love the new baby(who’s got much loved and popular older ones) in the way she does, but in time as he/she grows in wisdom, stature and character, people will come to love that child.
    ***Lizzie Ebunoluwa 2014***

    Hehehe…una don see quote now…long no be small…and it must become popular ooo Frances…lol..
    Cheers girl!

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      Frances Okoro
      October 6, 2014 at 11:21 am

      Got me grinning from ear to ear Lizzie.
      Thans babe!
      And I’ll frame up your quote soon, will be up on my dp in a moment…
      ~paraphrased from the quote-everything in its early stages will take a bit of getting used to, but it’ll only be for a while, as it grows in character and wisdom…. that’s where my own paraphrasing ends,another thought just took over…”and Jesus grew in wisdom and stature and favour in the sight of God and men”..
      Well, we all know what happened after that..

      thanks again Lizzie.

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    October 6, 2014 at 6:58 am

    Awwww dear to be honest I applaud your courage and your sincerety God has deposited sometin divine in you and you shouldn’t feel discourage… God’s word say;be anxious about nothing but pray about everytin. It only gets better when we realise that our works or talent does not spring from us but from He who sent us forth… Please read 1peter 5 vs 2

    God bless you dear its a new day and a better you..

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      Frances Okoro
      October 6, 2014 at 11:13 am

      God bless you dear Judith and that you for sharing that Bible passage and it re-iterated something that I know also…God’s talent in us spring from us and so also does the grace to use that talent for Him also springs from Him..so times when I get down only serves to make me rely more and more on the one-God, the only one through whom I can successfully take hold of that which He wants me to lay hold of(does this make sense).. just saying the discouragement/my feelings of despair only serves to uplift God/increase my reliance on Him which is just as it should be.

      Again, thank you. Have a great week ahead!

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    October 6, 2014 at 7:32 am

    I read every post u make o even though I don’t comment probably bcos of my device.

    LOL @ Lizzie’s quote

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    October 6, 2014 at 10:21 am

    Abeg o, don’t give up on your blog. I guess it happens to all of us bloggers.

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      Frances Okoro
      October 6, 2014 at 11:03 am

      Yeah, I guess it happens to even the best of us Tobi..comes with the terrain of making the dreams come alive…but we listen to what needs to be done and not feelings…

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    Ochuko A. Akpomudjere
    October 6, 2014 at 10:25 am

    Thank You o, for scaring me with your title. However I do agree with you, starting over can be hard, but if you’d only just persevere. It’d be worth it in the end. And yes I’m talking from personal experience.

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      Frances Okoro
      October 6, 2014 at 11:00 am

      I’m sorry for scaring you with my title Ochuko..that wasn’t my intention at all but then again, maybe it was..hehe
      And I appreciate those words coming from a “seen it and conquered” veteran..

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    October 6, 2014 at 10:38 am

    Sincerely when I saw the title of this post I was taken aback….Sometimes,many times and most times when I’m pushing a vision and I don’t see much turn up I often feel like throwing in the towel.But posts like this keep me going ,we’ll keep pushing.. At the end it will surely end in praise.. …

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      Frances Okoro
      October 6, 2014 at 10:55 am

      Yes it will end in praise.it will Presh, it will…
      And your comment reminds me of a post I haven’t published on dealing with low response on the writing thingy… will publish when I’m able to..
      Thanks dear.

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    Frances Okoro
    October 6, 2014 at 11:07 am

    So this post is fishing out ghost readers eh? That’s niceeee.
    Thank you Catherine, and Lizzie’s quote makes sense oh, I’m just about to frame it up into a real quote sef.

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    October 6, 2014 at 11:51 am

    My heart skipped a beat when I saw this post caption. I am reading na… lol.
    I did that e-pact with you.

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      Frances Okoro
      October 6, 2014 at 1:20 pm

      Hehe Esther, I’m sorry your heart skipped a bit but a Lil extra increase in heart beat does no harm shey? Lol.
      Thanks dear.*hugs*

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    Mojaye Lillian
    October 6, 2014 at 1:13 pm

    The title got me really scared too… was about to call you to scream your head off… And I really can’t believe this is the first time I’m commenting on your blog… I should be ashamed of myself… I guess this post is truly fishing out ghost readers*lol*

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      Frances Okoro
      October 6, 2014 at 1:30 pm

      Ghost reader…!! you are their ring leader oh Lily..aside from my dad sha but you are forgiven anyway, you are one of those I just know is always there whether you comment or not…
      #now let your head swell.lol
      *much love babes…

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    October 6, 2014 at 2:39 pm

    You are touching lives frances, and don’t forget heaven rejoices when one soul is saved. Even if it is just one person your posts inspires each day, that one is a big one.

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      Frances Okoro
      October 6, 2014 at 3:06 pm

      Thank you Tunrayo…
      Going back to the basics helps-even if it’s one soul,one soul that’s inspired to live out more for God…thats all that matters.

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    Chinomnso Precious
    October 6, 2014 at 2:42 pm

    Frances, you are not alone. I felt this way when I moved from BlogSpot to word press. My readers and comments just dropped to zero. I still feel this way at times. But I encourage myself in the Lord, at least, every time I check my stats, there is one reader. And I remind myself of why I started blogging. Like you said, it’s okay to feel this way, but it is never okay to give in.

    God bless you for your transparency. And I know you won’t give in, because God will continue to strengthen you. Keep up the good work.

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      Frances Okoro
      October 6, 2014 at 3:03 pm

      Your comment made me smile Precious.. I always feel a Lil “somehow” when people encourage me.it comes with the role of always encouraging people and putting on my “game face thingy”… so when they encourage me, I just feel a bit “somehow” but this hasn’t been somehow today.
      It’s great to know that I am not alone… and you hit the nail on the head, remembering the reason why we started out is a great way to stay on track..when I remember that this isn’t all for applause, but this is really,really just to touch lives for God and stay faithful to what He has put in my hands…that helps me a whole lot.

      Again, I appreciate this-it’s great to know that yes we’ve got God and we are never alone and still we’ve got “you”.

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    October 6, 2014 at 3:22 pm

    The Tittle of the post made me run here. I was going to start shouting though you wouldn’t have been able to hear me. I was even ready to punch you and make you see why you cannot and shouldn’t give up, but you have already punched yourself, so we are cool.

    I have this exact same feeling every time I’m about to post something but I always remember something a friend once told me. She said: “look at it this way. Even if you don’t get 10 clicks to your blog, there is always going to be one click and its that one click that matters. That one person that blesses God for giving you the gift of writing. So everytime you feel like giving up, remember that one person”. So Frances, remember that one person every time you are posting.

    By the way, thank you for allowing yourself be a source of inspiration to me. Since I came acRoss your blog about a year ago, I have learnt about God in a new dimension and I have been encouraged more than you know. Plus, I believe I have also gained an awesome blogger friend.

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      Frances Okoro
      October 6, 2014 at 5:40 pm

      I certainly have gained a great friend in you Mayowa, we’ll meet soonest in a courtroom remember? Or maybe not in a courtroom sha, maybe in NBA conference..but we’ll meet soon in one law related thingy.#never say never.lol.
      #that one person..that one person..never lose sight of that one person.

      Ps:I’m sure glad I escaped that punch.

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    October 6, 2014 at 5:15 pm

    Ecclesiastes 11:6 — “In the morning sow your seed, and at evening withhold not your hand, for you do not know which will prosper, this or that, or whether both alike will be good.”

    Don’t let the numbers confuse you. One changed person is better than a horde of followers where no impact is made. I actually wanted to contact you for something related to my blog. But right now, you need my e-hugs more than my desire to recruit you, lol. Your impact is felt all the way here in the US, milady! 🙂

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      Frances Okoro
      October 6, 2014 at 5:42 pm

      Maggie…making me go all mushy…all your comments have just been…
      *e-hugs right back.

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    October 6, 2014 at 9:47 pm

    We have been reading boo!!!
    We shall start commenting too just so you know we are still here

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      October 7, 2014 at 3:47 am

      Ah even Tannie too haff come out.
      Thank you

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    October 7, 2014 at 10:08 am

    Passion fuels our vision. Let’s keep it going Frances!

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      Frances Okoro
      October 8, 2014 at 5:24 am

      Thank you very much aunty Ugochi..Will be sure to always remember “Passion fuels our vision”.

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    October 7, 2014 at 6:11 pm

    Pls dnt stop continue d gud work, we love u

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    October 7, 2014 at 9:37 pm

    Oh, I know the feeling Frances! There have been MANY times I’ve wanted to quit my blog because I felt nobody cared about what I was discussing or was being positively impacted by it. It can be so disheartening at times and what I do is allow myself to feel the funk for a little while and then I consciously remind myself WHY I started it/believed it was a good idea. As long as my intent remains godly, then I know I am meant to continue sharing the message placed in my heart because it can help others. Knowing that “Rome wasn’t built in a day” also reminds me that I need to use this time as an opportunity to build my endurance and faith.

    Thank you for being honest about this and thank you for being one of the readers of my blog – that is part of the encouragement I use as fuel to keep going 🙂

    God Bless you and your blog girl – keep writing!!

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      Frances Okoro
      October 8, 2014 at 5:19 am

      And I also can’t thank you enough for being honest with me too Ada… a big part of the comments here have made me feel like we truly are not alone.
      God is with us + there are always wonderful people out there like you from whom we can also find encouragement in their own stories.
      Thank you!

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    Myss Lafunky
    October 14, 2014 at 7:26 pm

    Hi Frances, please do not give up on your blog. To blog requires self-determination, persistence and hardworking. I have had time that I have been discouraged but like mateyscott said, there is at least one reader that is reading it. Do not despise the days of little beginnings, in order to be great, we have to start from somewhere.

    This is my first time on your blog, I just want to use this medium to encourage you and to remind you that, you are definitely touching lives, and God will be very proud of you. I feel we should have bloggers meeting lol.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      October 15, 2014 at 3:53 pm

      Hi hi Myss lafunky..first time on my blog filled with words of wisdom no less.thank you very much, I appreciate the encouragement.
      + welcome dear! Hope to see more of you around here.

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    October 24, 2014 at 4:13 pm

    If you had truly shut down, just expect to see gracie on the streets of lagos with placards #Bringbackfrancesblog…lol!
    I’ve felt that way too sometimes. When the traffic is not encouraging after taking your time to write nice posts. or maybe when you see others who started blogging way after you with amazing traffic and u are just way behind. comparison is not good at all.
    keep doing what you do dear, You inspire me a lot.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      October 24, 2014 at 7:35 pm

      Looools at #bringbackfrances’sblog.
      And I so agree with you Gracie, comparism isn’t good at all. Each of us should run the race that has been set before us and not eye another.
      Patience is still a great virtue.

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      Frances Okoro
      October 24, 2014 at 7:35 pm

      Looools at #bringbackfrances’sblog.
      And I so agree with you Gracie, comparism isn’t good at all. Each of us should run the race that has been set before us and not eye another.
      Patience is still a great virtue.

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    Theresa Doghor
    October 27, 2014 at 1:58 pm

    I use it as a.n article to renew my mind and change my mind.

    http://www.udookonjo.com Check out this blog and please share on your social networks for your friends to see. It does add value.

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    Theresa Doghor
    October 27, 2014 at 2:02 pm

    Don’t shut your blog down
    Keep at it
    You are changing people’s mind.

    http://www.udookonjo.com Check out this blog and please share on your social networks for your friends to see. It does add value.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      October 27, 2014 at 7:25 pm

      Thank you Tessa…
      I’ve been on Udo Okonjo’s blog before, I will be sure to be more frequent now. Thanks a lot for sharing.

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    October 31, 2014 at 9:46 am

    Awww, thank God you didn’t shut it down…wouldn’t have come across this post and wouldn’t have received this encouragement i got from reading this post. Don’t be discouraged, you’ll get there so long as God lives

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      October 31, 2014 at 4:33 pm

      Thank you Vicky..I’m not shutting down what God has placed in my hands to do.no we will not do that. 🙂

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