How Red Lips Got Away

Dear all,

How have you guys been? I am writing this letter to you from the basket of love in my heart(that sounds so cheesy but it’s true..)

I am so sorry I’ve been silent for a while but I’ve sure been thinking of you all…
And I’ve also been thinking of the perfect love letter to write to you today… you see, I have a whole lot of them and it’s kinda hard to chose… But I thought it’s only fair that I should start up from where I left off. Remember I told you about “red lips” here?
Well, today, I wanna tell you about how red lips got away.

 

And I will be very honest with this story and will not downplay my role in it all…

It started with a PM on BBM. I wrote that I had a crush on the ever good looking ama-mazing Tyler Perry and that was the beginning of the brouhaha…. Then there was a personal message sent and another sent and another sent…
Red lips was of the opinion that a “Christian woman of God shouldn’t be saying she has a crush on someone’s husband, Nawa oh.” He was like “what would you then do if you were with him? A Christian woman crushing on someone’s husband, it is well oh”…
He sent me a message with the above and I was like…

 

I thought he was joking but no, red lips was totally, totally serious. I was left wondering, who doesn’t get a joke about someone saying she’s crushing someone else? A celebrity even? It’s an obvious joke! My “true friends” know I tease and joke about fit guys and stuff like that and they don’t question my faith and act all self righteous with me.They believe in me, know what I stand for and won’t easily believe the worst of me… If he isn’t acting like a friend who knows me and is so quick to condemn me then who exactly is this guy?
I felt offended that he had questioned my faith, the basis of who I am and then, I said some mean things… Told him that my BBM was for friends who knew me and asked him to delete himself if he wasn’t one… and he did! hehe
And so red lips deleted me on BBM and unfriended me on facebook and pretty much every other online connection…
And what did I do? I raged at his insult at the basis of who I was-my faith, called my best friend who made me apologize to him for the mean things I said and then… I laughed, laughed and I am still laughing…. hah! Tyler Perry issue just make one so-called “I love you saying man run away.” Like…

 

I did apologize though, not because I wanted “him” but because that was what my relationship with Jesus required me to do… and red lips never replied after that.
The end….

 

Or not quite the end…
There’s more…

 

It’s been months since that incident but till this day, I still laugh when I remember it. In fact my best friend called me up on Tyler Perry’s birthday and we laughed about it again, she told me she gisted her sister in law, who laughed about it all over again..and you may be wondering, “Frances, why were/are you laughing?” Don’t you realize that you just lost a potential suitor?
Hah! Ok dears, story over, we’ve come to the serious part of this letter…

 

Remember when I talked about God being my first husband and my laying everything about emotions to him right from the start in this post? Yes. I had prayed about the whole thing from the beginning. From the moment red lips started commenting on all my pictures, from the moment he said “the truth is I love you and bla bla bla…”

I had prayed about it all. Infact, I remember my telling God specifically that I don’t have time to play around, he should take this away if it’s not meant to be. I also remember Pastor Nathaniel preaching on the will of God and my prayers again on the same “red lips” on that wednesday before red lips let Tyler Perry cause brouhaha.lol
Now I also realize that,wisdom is profitable to direct, a soft answer turns away wrath and I probably shouldn’t have set my hands in motion, typing things that were mean…

 

But here’s what I really want to talk about…

I know not what the future holds, maybe red lips is still the one(but I know for certain that he isn’t the one though) but for the purposes of this discussion, to explain what I want to say to you, maybe he is the one and maybe he isn’t, still, I ain’t bothered about it…

 

I can laugh and feel peace about it all like I do now, why? Because I gave it all to God and I know that God is in charge of my love story. It’s that simple.

 
So over to you loves… Are you still pining after the one that got away? Hah! Sweetie, you’ve gotta know that SOME of these “lost opportuinities” are God’s way of just saying he/she is not for you… Of course, if you did anything wrong then by all means try and make things right…

 
But have you prayed about it all? Have you given your love story over to God? If you have, then trust that God has got it all in control because He does.
And by all means, wipe those tears off your face! And laugh, laugh at the way the whole stuff came to be…and if you can’t laugh about yours, then by all means laugh about mine. I mean, who proclaims “like” and then after a fight, follows through after that fight to delete and unfriend someone you had showered with praises in the past because of Tyler Perry? (To be fair, I did ask him to delete me sha but he followed through with actions and never apologized even when I did) ha!

 

 

I sure see the humor in all that. Reminds me of one God-sent breakup some years back… (do remind me to tell you that story sometime later dears)
For now, you are permitted to laugh at my expense and trust that God’s gat your love story already planned. Trust the process and smile when there’s a seeming bend. It’s all part of the plan. Yes, have some FAITH. God’s got it all planned alright..Yes He does.

 

PS: There was no relationship between red lips&I, twas a “near relationship” lol and I do still have a crush on Tyler Perry big time and I hope my real hubby doesn’t take a shine to this… I hope he realizes that I joke and laugh about foine men all the time and it doesn’t mean a thing.

 
PPS: and yes, for red lips followers, I am still a christian lady even with my crush on TP.

 
PPPS: and no, I won’t marry TP if he asks, my dad won’t accept him, he’s way older than I am and can actually give birth to me.

 
PPPPS:Maybe, just maybe I could marry TP if he asks though, my best friend says she doesn’t care about his age, she would say yes in a heart bit, maybe I shouldn’t care too.

 
PPPPPS: Seems like I picked the wrong time to write on TP though, because there’s a rumor that TP’s girlfriend maybe pregnant for him, of course, if it’s true then I’ll be really sad, what with the Christian folks just dimming their light in Christ but I’ve also been reading Kenneth Hagin’s book on love and he says, Just like 1Corinthians 13 says we should, “I refuse to believe anything bad about anyone. I believe the best of everyone.”... The end.

 

PPPPPPS:I hope there’s no one like red lips here who’s scrunching up their faces at me? The crush thingy, it’s just a joke… Catch the joke and…

 

Do reply to my letter if you have anything you want to tell me, I am here…

 

Till I write to you next time,
With lots of love,
Frances.