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How Red Lips Got Away

Dear all,

How have you guys been? I am writing this letter to you from the basket of love in my heart(that sounds so cheesy but it’s true..)

I am so sorry I’ve been silent for a while but I’ve sure been thinking of you all…
And I’ve also been thinking of the perfect love letter to write to you today… you see, I have a whole lot of them and it’s kinda hard to chose… But I thought it’s only fair that I should start up from where I left off. Remember I told you about “red lips” here?
Well, today, I wanna tell you about how red lips got away.



And I will be very honest with this story and will not downplay my role in it all…

It started with a PM on BBM. I wrote that I had a crush on the ever good looking ama-mazing Tyler Perry and that was the beginning of the brouhaha…. Then there was a personal message sent and another sent and another sent…
Red lips was of the opinion that a “Christian woman of God shouldn’t be saying she has a crush on someone’s husband, Nawa oh.” He was like “what would you then do if you were with him? A Christian woman crushing on someone’s husband, it is well oh”…
He sent me a message with the above and I was like…



I thought he was joking but no, red lips was totally, totally serious. I was left wondering, who doesn’t get a joke about someone saying she’s crushing someone else? A celebrity even? It’s an obvious joke! My “true friends” know I tease and joke about fit guys and stuff like that and they don’t question my faith and act all self righteous with me.They believe in me, know what I stand for and won’t easily believe the worst of me… If he isn’t acting like a friend who knows me and is so quick to condemn me then who exactly is this guy?
I felt offended that he had questioned my faith, the basis of who I am and then, I said some mean things… Told him that my BBM was for friends who knew me and asked him to delete himself if he wasn’t one… and he did! hehe
And so red lips deleted me on BBM and unfriended me on facebook and pretty much every other online connection…
And what did I do? I raged at his insult at the basis of who I was-my faith, called my best friend who made me apologize to him for the mean things I said and then… I laughed, laughed and I am still laughing…. hah! Tyler Perry issue just make one so-called “I love you saying man run away.” Like…i_can__t_take_you_seriously_by_orcboss16-d5bgu48


I did apologize though, not because I wanted “him” but because that was what my relationship with Jesus required me to do… and red lips never replied after that.
The end….


Or not quite the end…
There’s more…


It’s been months since that incident but till this day, I still laugh when I remember it. In fact my best friend called me up on Tyler Perry’s birthday and we laughed about it again, she told me she gisted her sister in law, who laughed about it all over again..and you may be wondering, “Frances, why were/are you laughing?” Don’t you realize that you just lost a potential suitor?
Hah! Ok dears, story over, we’ve come to the serious part of this letter…


Remember when I talked about God being my first husband and my laying everything about emotions to him right from the start in this post? Yes. I had prayed about the whole thing from the beginning. From the moment red lips started commenting on all my pictures, from the moment he said “the truth is I love you and bla bla bla…”

I had prayed about it all. Infact, I remember my telling God specifically that I don’t have time to play around, he should take this away if it’s not meant to be. I also remember Pastor Nathaniel preaching on the will of God and my prayers again on the same “red lips” on that wednesday before red lips let Tyler Perry cause
Now I also realize that,wisdom is profitable to direct, a soft answer turns away wrath and I probably shouldn’t have set my hands in motion, typing things that were mean…


But here’s what I really want to talk about…

I know not what the future holds, maybe red lips is still the one(but I know for certain that he isn’t the one though) but for the purposes of this discussion, to explain what I want to say to you, maybe he is the one and maybe he isn’t, still, I ain’t bothered about it…



I can laugh and feel peace about it all like I do now, why? Because I gave it all to God and I know that God is in charge of my love story. It’s that simple.

So over to you loves… Are you still pining after the one that got away? Hah! Sweetie, you’ve gotta know that SOME of these “lost opportuinities” are God’s way of just saying he/she is not for you… Of course, if you did anything wrong then by all means try and make things right…

But have you prayed about it all? Have you given your love story over to God? If you have, then trust that God has got it all in control because He does.
And by all means, wipe those tears off your face! And laugh, laugh at the way the whole stuff came to be…and if you can’t laugh about yours, then by all means laugh about mine. I mean, who proclaims “like” and then after a fight, follows through after that fight to delete and unfriend someone you had showered with praises in the past because of Tyler Perry? (To be fair, I did ask him to delete me sha but he followed through with actions and never apologized even when I did) ha!




I sure see the humor in all that. Reminds me of one God-sent breakup some years back… (do remind me to tell you that story sometime later dears)
For now, you are permitted to laugh at my expense and trust that God’s gat your love story already planned. Trust the process and smile when there’s a seeming bend. It’s all part of the plan. Yes, have some FAITH. God’s got it all planned alright..Yes He does.


PS: There was no relationship between red lips&I, twas a “near relationship” lol and I do still have a crush on Tyler Perry big time and I hope my real hubby doesn’t take a shine to this… I hope he realizes that I joke and laugh about foine men all the time and it doesn’t mean a thing.

PPS: and yes, for red lips followers, I am still a christian lady even with my crush on TP.

PPPS: and no, I won’t marry TP if he asks, my dad won’t accept him, he’s way older than I am and can actually give birth to me.

PPPPS:Maybe, just maybe I could marry TP if he asks though, my best friend says she doesn’t care about his age, she would say yes in a heart bit, maybe I shouldn’t care too.

PPPPPS: Seems like I picked the wrong time to write on TP though, because there’s a rumor that TP’s girlfriend maybe pregnant for him, of course, if it’s true then I’ll be really sad, what with the Christian folks just dimming their light in Christ but I’ve also been reading Kenneth Hagin’s book on love and he says, Just like 1Corinthians 13 says we should, “I refuse to believe anything bad about anyone. I believe the best of everyone.”... The end.


PPPPPPS:I hope there’s no one like red lips here who’s scrunching up their faces at me? The crush thingy, it’s just a joke… Catch the joke and…



Do reply to my letter if you have anything you want to tell me, I am here…


Till I write to you next time,
With lots of love,

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  • Reply
    efe Harriet
    September 27, 2014 at 11:20 am

    Honestly,if he asks me right now , I wud run to the nearest registry with him….nice letter tho

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      Frances Okoro
      September 27, 2014 at 11:39 am

      Haha Efe, You will marry TP right now? At the risk of being a terrible girl ba? Atleast I didn’t say that I would marry anyone oh. Lol
      Thanks babes

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    September 27, 2014 at 12:29 pm

    LMAOOOOOOOO. What? This cannot possibly be true! LMAOOOO I cannot deal with some ‘Christian brothers’.

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    September 27, 2014 at 12:41 pm

    Beautiful! Especially the part about giving God d pen to write my love story.

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      Frances Okoro
      September 27, 2014 at 12:56 pm

      Thanks for stopping by Ruth…that’s what stood out for me in the whole thing too..God’s got the pen and he is writing as he deems fit, I am willing and open to God’s own drawings..there’s no need to feel rattled at the physical drawings,nah, not at all

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    Afigod kess-cakegirl
    September 27, 2014 at 5:54 pm

    hahahaha,red lips is crazy.who doesn’t have a crush on tyler perry?I HAVE A CRUSH ON TYLER PERRY.if he proposes to me pllssssssss *in funke’s voice* YES.tyler perry,george clooney,uti of BBA,jason stathon,leonardo dicarprio.the list is long……….but it doesn’t make me lose my faith or my relationship in GOD.#goodbye to red lips#

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      Frances Okoro
      September 27, 2014 at 6:28 pm

      Kess..loool at “in Funke’s voice”..
      Your list is even longer than mine.lolss…the chances of them proposing to you,lets just say, i’m waiting, I have faith, lol… and that’s the joke red lips didn’t get too I guess,these crushes ain’t real and won’t come to realization,tis just just something we can tease about..

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    September 27, 2014 at 11:34 pm

    Hahahaha this ur red lips sef too funny haba! How can he call Tyler another woman’s husband? Does he even know who he is? The last time I checked, he was still very much single.

    Frances I don’t know whether my crush on him is ‘higher’ than your own o! I follow him on Twitter, FB, CBS, I even find myself googling him just to veiw his smiles.

    Pls Mr. Red Lips, we all have that celebrity we crush on… Omg I still have a crush on 2Face… Chai!

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      September 28, 2014 at 8:17 am

      I really wished that someone would pick that up and you did Kate..Tyler isn’t married and a crush is not a serious something..
      And as for your crush on 2face? Now that’s a crush on a married man.looollss.
      Thanks for coming on here dear

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    September 28, 2014 at 8:52 pm

    some christian guys are so annoying;i find it easier to flow with the not-so-spiritual ones most times, and that’s bad. but it’s so hard to have a regular secular conversation with many christian guys…

    like u Frances, I’ve just recently lost a potential suitor 🙂 and i’m not bothered in the least. when trivialities like this cause a rift with a guy, (and I know I’m not in the wrong) I just imagine that there’s this huge sieve God is using to direct my emotions/choices etc. since I have handed the whole issue over to Him, anyone who falls out of the sieve was probably not best for me.

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      Feyi's Dairy
      October 4, 2014 at 2:00 pm

      Ego I looove your comment!

      • Reply
        Frances Okoro
        October 4, 2014 at 4:29 pm

        Truly Feyi, you got it right, Ego’s comment cinched it for me too.rang so true on many levels…
        As for red lips chilling,i dont know, maybe what’s a joke to one isn’t the same to the next person.i don’t know…

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    Frances Okoro
    September 29, 2014 at 12:19 pm

    Ego, Thank you for sharing your belief about this- there’s a huge seive God just uses to filter out what isn’t right for us..thats so true..

    And I feel you on the difficulties on trying to hold a normal convo with a “Christian guy”..i always like to say that I can marry a pastor as long as he can serve God totally but still remain “human”… they are still out there though, flowing with the “unchristians” still doesn’t cut it too, there’s still something fundamentally missing, ie, Christ in their life…

    Thank you for stopping by and dropping a comment, I apprecaite

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    September 29, 2014 at 9:30 pm

    haha..funny man. What is yours will come jare. without all the serenren that goes with it. I doubt you’ll miss him sef. So if bigger situations came up, please tell me how he’s going to handle it. Not a fan of TP anyways but there’s a way he could have placed the question before you. It’s called ‘Maturity’ but I doubt he displayed any of that. After saying he likes you in your pic and all of that and then he turns to delete you everywhere? Hmmn, No more words…,by their fruits…lol

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      Frances Okoro
      September 29, 2014 at 10:14 pm

      True Itunu…
      #by their fruits we shall know them, not by their words, nor gifts nor profession of “love” from here till the their fruits…

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    Dr. N
    October 1, 2014 at 11:53 am

    Dear Red lips, u missed O! Sorry *stickstongueoutandrunsaway*

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    October 2, 2014 at 3:27 pm

    Watch and pray comes to my mind. Most pray without watching.
    You did watch and pray girlfriend. So, hehehehe…

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      October 2, 2014 at 6:07 pm

      And you got the answer to this Esther, just laugh and let it all play out as it should.hehehe

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    Feyi's Dairy
    October 4, 2014 at 1:58 pm

    looooooooool Frances, red lips is a funny guy, some people need to just chill because its never that serious jor!
    And Yes TP’s gf is pregnant, I saw an article about it on BN.

    P.S: I loooove all your PPSes

  • Reply
    October 4, 2014 at 2:34 pm

    I think red lips was just jealous and stated his case in a wrong way, we don’t really know the magnitude of the things you said to him, so I can’t really take sides here but all the same I will just advise you take things a bit easy, cos you never know…

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      October 4, 2014 at 4:17 pm

      Thank you Lola for your advise, I truly appreciate the words of wisdom…the “you may never know” part of the advice is the reason why I apologized afterwards like I said in the post.

      And the whole essence of this post isn’t for anyone to take sides though,its all embedded at the end of the post…”my love story is been written by the one i gave the pen to-God, so near-misses like this where I know I didn’t do nothing wrong doesn’t faze me”- that’s the msg I was trying to pass across.

      Thanks for stopping by

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    Mojaye Lillian
    October 6, 2014 at 8:04 pm

    Tyler Perry’s gf is what?!!!Noooooooo*crying*

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      Frances Okoro
      October 7, 2014 at 3:53 am

      Yes she is Lily. I’m terribly sad too but not cuz of my crush on him oh, cuz of the implications on Christianity..we should be light,showing the world the right way not joining up..still sha,I do hope all ends well

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    Highly Favored
    October 27, 2014 at 7:42 pm

    Don’t mind me I’m just catching up on some of your posts. so you’ll see sporadic comments from me “after the fact”. I can’t believe you have a crush on Tyler Perry!!! ewwww. I guess it’s the Madea role that he plays or something. But I think he’s a nice person with a genuine good heart. But love/attraction/crush? Nope, not from me lol………….

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      Frances Okoro
      October 27, 2014 at 9:33 pm

      Loooools at ewww.
      You are just like Itunu on this crush on Tyler Perry’s thing..his girlfriend being pregnant can cure me of it now

      Thanks for your comments highly favoured, me loves them!

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    November 21, 2014 at 9:16 am

    Hahaha. my friend is a huge fan of Tyler. she had him as her wallpaper for a long time…Doesnt mean she’ll marry him though.

    i love how you put God above everything and he’ll surely give you the best o
    I’ve been reading your blog posts all morning, its even led me to write a future blog post, so i have to leave now o, have exams so gotta read *evidence*

    lol@ps,pps,ppps lol
    inspiring post

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      November 21, 2014 at 8:50 pm

      Vicky… vicky… I should have a giveaway just for you.
      How God brings these readers my way is just amazing. I glad at the circle of persons that surround this blog…

      Amen and amen, God indeed sees our hearts, He doesn’t disregard anyone of our desires and when He brings what He has in mind for us to pass, we will indeed know that He is our Daddy indeed and He gives us the best.

      Oya biko go and read. Sucess..good sucess is yours already 🙂

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