#Purposeful Living Help Me To Walk In Purpose Series

Help Me: I Think I Am Too Messed Up To Walk In Purpose

Hi my name is Frances Okoro.
I used to be a porn addict and an expert at masturbation for at least 8 years or more.
I committed two abortions in the year 2011 and was that girl you see on your street with shifty eyes that couldn’t look up at you, sadness in her eyes and pain in her soul…
Till God found me.
Or more correctly, till I found God.

Today I am a writer, Christian blogger, author, public speaker, founder of an NGO… a lady who is awed at the mails she gets asking her for advice and encouragement… a lady who still doesn’t quite grasp how God took her from the girl trapped in guilt and shame to this girl shining forth the light of Christ everywhere she goes.



Grace found me.
And my simple message to you this morning as we wrap up the “Help me walk in purpose series” is that grace can find you too.


I was waiting for a bus at the front of my street when a man dropped a lady from his car yesterday…
I didn’t know who she was…
I said good morning twice and she didn’t reply me…
And I kept feeling tugged on to walk up to her and say “hi my name is Frances, I used to be a porn addict, I have slept with two men previously and I committed two abortions while at it…
I am now a lady sold out to Jesus and He has turned my life totally around for good… and He wants to do the same with your life too…”
Sadly, I didn’t tell her all these.
And all the while as I sat in the bus on my way to church, I thought about her.
Her face still flashed in front of my eyes this morning again… and I prayed for her, prayed for her salvation, that she will come to know Christ.
And I prayed for me too, that I will not be ashamed of the gospel of Christ but speak it with all boldness, using my life to show people that God has a plan for their lives, no matter how far gone they think they are from Jesus…
In fact, you are God’s raw material for people He uses to walk in His purpose… when He is all done with you, you will bring Him so much glory, even you will cry at the though of what He has done.
You will cry as you reflect on your life as I do most times.


God has been too good to me.
I think about my life and I know that nothing in me could have brought me to this place where I am now.
Only Jesus could have done so.
Only Him.
Only God.
Broken me.
Dirty me.
Messed up me.
Only God could have done this.


And I knew that I couldn’t let this series end without spreading this message of grace to you all.


One of the lies satan uses is to tell us that we are not clean enough or good enough to do anything meaningful for God on the earth.
But that’s a big lie!
God only needs you to surrender to Him and now start walking in Him… and then watch Him blow your mind as He transforms and renews you… and then uses you as a blessing to the world.
The walk won’t be all rosy but trust me, it’s a better life then the one the world offers you.
And then you can indeed start living forth the good things God ordained for you from the beginning of the world.


My plea to you this morning is simple.
Let grace find you.
Let God wash you off your mess.
Let Him give you a new life in Him.
Accept Jesus and put the lies of satan under your feet.
God will use you.
If He can use me with the blood of two babies on my hands, then He can use you even more.


Say this salvation prayer with me…
Heavenly Father, I come to you today with a sincere plea for your help.
My life has been a mess… I have been down and out more times than I care to remember…
Running away from your outstretched arms and into the world but no more Lord.
Please forgive me for my sins. Please wash me off of them. I accept you as my Lord and savior and desire to begin a new walk with you.
Thank you Lord, in Jesus name I have prayed, amen!


If you just said that prayer from your heart, then I say congratulations to you!
Start a walk with Christ daily in His word and join a Church that feeds your soul.
These things may seem like just the basics but they are all a part of you stepping into God’s plan for your life.
I’m an email away at okorofrances@gmail.com if you need to talk to someone.


God bless you and strengthen you in Him in Jesus name, amen!


And today marks the end of the “help me walk in purpose series”.
It’s been am amazing time for the last month here… I hope something has spurred you on to not settle for less than living and walking in God’s purpose for your life.

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And as an act of obedience, my book “10 steps to walking in purpose” will now be available for download as a FREE PDF to everyone who needs it.
Let’s just say that one of the things I struggled with was this instruction from God based on how will I fund this/that if I offer it for free, no one would buy the hard copies, etc, etc.
But all that doesn’t matter.
You can download your free PDF copy here on the book page.
And also still purchase/order the hard copy here on Konga and get the epub files from Amazon and Okadabooks.
The message isn’t about money.
It’s about raising men and women of purpose for God and I want to walk in that light with all my heart.
Some way, somehow, I pray this blog places a desire in you to live for God with all you are/have.
That’s my heart cry.

So till next time,
Stay walking in purpose,


PS: You can read all posts in this series HERE


PPS: If you are new to the blog, my full story can be read HERE and you can watch the video below or on my youtube channel where I shared my story and also a call to you that God can use you for His purposes, just like He used the 4 women in Jesus’ lineage with less that “clean lives”.


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  • Reply
    April 4, 2016 at 1:05 pm

    Love it!

    This series should be sent to as many people as possible! From the introduction, my heart was already blessed.
    Anyone who reads this will realize that grace is available for them too! No one is too dirty for God to use o!

    Today’s post on Itunu’s blog, Dapo has killed someone before he knew Christ! LOL. Though I do not know what Nimi would do, I am reminded of what Miss Clara said in War Room to the wife- ‘Do you deserve grace?’ When she wrote a long list of the wrongs her husband has done.

    Everyone deserves grace, that is what God died for!

    Thank you for sharing your story babe. You are a testimony!

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      April 5, 2016 at 7:00 pm

      God has made it so, that we the undeserving are deserving of what we need the most…#grace.
      Lord knows I am soooo grateful for this and desire everyone to taste and see that the Lord is good!

      Thanks B! I pray the series blesses other hearts like it did yours…

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    April 5, 2016 at 12:42 pm

    Nice one Frances, God is a mighty creator who creates a message out of our mess. He is the mighty warrior who is ready to fight for us even in the pit of sin. May you never be ashamed of the gospel but preach it to anyone who has a ear. God bless you.

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      Frances Okoro
      April 5, 2016 at 6:58 pm

      Amen and amen and amen to your prayers Gabby!
      Thank you!

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    April 5, 2016 at 9:09 pm

    Wonderful testimony.
    God did not come for ‘good’ people, neither did He die for good people. He came for messed up and broken people like us. The closer we draw closer to Jesus and in our walk with Him, we begin to see how much we need Him. We begin to see how terrible and unclean we were before He saved us.

    Like I was listening to Andrew Womack yesterday. Grace and Faith go together. Sometimes we can be like, ah don’t you know how ‘good or holy I am’
    “Then you just don’t know how Good and Holy God is.”
    We could never get to Him through our own way. And each and every day I’m just thankful for Jesus. People without Jesus I don’t know how they do it honestly and I’m just grateful for Grace cos indeed It found me and it found you. It found us all.

    And may God grant you the wisdom and strength to reach out to others with His word. Amen. xo!

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      April 8, 2016 at 11:03 am

      Holy? Def not me.
      Pure? Nope.
      His sacrifice gave me(us) the gift of purity…holiness..one our works could never have given us.

      God help us to spread this truth and have others experience this great gift.

      Thanks Itunu!

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    Sharon Ifeoma
    April 5, 2016 at 10:09 pm

    Amazing story……. but really everyone has a story and a tale to tell. Grace is enough for us all and this is the confidence we have in Christ.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      April 8, 2016 at 10:59 am

      But for grace Sharon…thank God for this wonderful gift!

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