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Grace Efezokhae: The Crazy Line Between Finding Love And Being Desperate


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Proverbs 27:7- “Honey seems tasteless to a person who is full, but even bitter food tastes sweet to the hungry” (NLT)
I remember vividly the first time I came across this verse in the Bible, God made me remember a scenario that occurred in my undergraduate days.  A room-mate of mine went home for a short break and it was a normal thing to bring back something for the girls. This sisi came back with plantain chips named “blessed mike”. We all laughed over the funny name of the chips which we later found out to be tasteless.


Weeks later, all three of us were awake at about 11pm and were so hungry. The quickest option was to eat the “blessed mike” chips.  Alas! The chips tasted so sweet and we were all surprised at how the change had tasted over the past few weeks. The point I’m trying to draw out here is that the chips tasted so sweet at that time not because of anything but for the fact that we were desperately hungry and needed to eat just anything about that time.
This same scenario applies in our daily lives. Ever seen a lady or a dude so desperate for love, it’s so obvious to everyone. All they talk and dream about is finding the Mr. or Miss. Right at all costs possible, by crook or by hook. The statement that says “desperate times call for desperate measures” is all a factor of fear. A lady in her late 30s is already being pressured to get married from family, friends and the society itself, and fact that all her friends are even married even heightens the pressure from her own self.  She is being told her biological clock is ticking and that she should just settle for any man that comes.


So the Miss 30 year old is being pressured to be a Mrs. XYZ before she gets to 40.
If she is well to do, she will fall victims to swindlers who will only promise marriage just to share in her wealth. Even a toad will look like a prince to her just because her soul is hungry to get married.


Marilyn Monroe once said, “A career is a wonderful thing, but you can’t snuggle up to it on a cold night”.


Be wise and maximize the seasons, do the right things at the right time. Don’t get so locked up on building a career or establishing a business that you neglect your personal life. There is something called WORK-LIFE BALANCE.
Desperate measures so called have made so many young ladies fall into wrong hands by becoming single moms, settling as side chicks or mistresses, married the wrong person and ending up becoming victims of domestic abuse and other ills.


To everyone in such situation, patience may be the last word you want to hear of but it truly pays and saves you from a lot of heartaches. Don’t listen to the world that tells you that “the patient dog eats the fattest bone when the impatient ones have eaten all the meat”.

Getting married is one thing, staying married is another. Remember that by marrying the right person for you, you are already halfway to the fulfillment of your destiny.
Take the pressure off yourself, relax, have fun, live happily and enjoy life.  Beautiful things such as true love happen when you least expect them. Reduce your shakara a little, not by lowering your standards but by having realistic expectations of the kind of person you will love to get married to.


Grace Efezokhae fondly called graciemama has a passion for writing and blogs on She looks forward to traveling round the world in her lifetime. You can reach her on



Just a few things:

For those in Warri who would love to join us to place smiles on some kids faces, the venue for the visit to the orphanage has been confirmed.

Venue- Heart of Delta orphanage,refinery road,just about 10poles after hotel excel.

Date-sunday 28th December


Call 08161160136 for more clarifications.

I will see you there 🙂


Also, our blog giveaway ends tomorrow oh.

Final call for entries to all ye procrastinators. Lol.

See the post here for the VERY SIMPLE RULES for entry to win a 2000naira worth Jumia gift card or a personalized ankara diary.




For everyone who needs the Kenneth Hagin’s book on love that I talked about in the last post, I will send it today.

If you missed it, see post here


Remember, kill the desperation for a spouse like Grace has told us today.

It pays not.


And please don’t tell me that you are about to cross over into the new year without being a real blog fam?


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  • Reply
    December 29, 2014 at 11:05 am

    Kudos Gracie.

  • Reply
    Frances Okoro
    December 31, 2014 at 11:45 am

    🙂 thanks Esther…

  • Reply
    January 1, 2015 at 1:37 am

    Thanks for the 2 features on your blog already. I feel so honoured. God bless you dear.
    Your blog is such an inspiration….you make me want to write so often and better.

  • Reply
    Frances Okoro
    January 1, 2015 at 7:14 am

    No, thank you Grace for sending in..for thinking my blog worthy of your post.
    Happy New Year Dear.

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