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Getting Married Without A Groom – Part 2

I started writing this book series last year when I went away to Calabar.

God had spoken to me about my marriage and asked me to IN FAITH begin to write this book. I stopped at the end of 2017.

Yesterday I knew that I was to IN FAITH begin again.

It is a memoir of sorts beginning at the beginning and ending at my marriage.

It would run every Saturday here on the blog till my wedding holds.

I hope that you are blessed and challenged by it in your own marital story.

If you missed the first part click here


Chapter 2
I started to figure out the thing called relationship with the opposite sex on my own when I was 14 and in S.S.2.
To be sincere, I also tried to figure it out in a lesbian relationship.

I stumbled into a lesbian relationship when I was in S.S 2 but before then I had tried to have phone chat boyfriends – boyfriends I met by calling their phone numbers listed in “Vanguard Love Zone”.

You see, I had an emptiness on the inside of me – an emptiness so wide, I had no idea how to deal with it.
I tried to fill the emptiness with my brother’s pornographic magazines but it didn’t work.
I graduated into masturbation and tried to fill it by relieving myself each night but it didn’t work.
I tried to fill it by having phone sex with my online boyfriends but it didn’t work.
I tried to fill it with the lesbian relationship but it didn’t work.

I didn’t know it at the time but I was a walking time bomb, ready to explode at any time.

I graduated from secondary school and dumped the lesbian relationship -it wasn’t really my thing, circumstances beyond my little naive girl control had led me into it.

But then the high of wanting to be loved never left so after my long time phone boyfriend in Lagos broke up with me, I found another phone boyfriend in Port-Harcourt. Only this time, he wasn’t just going to be a phone boyfriend, he was coming to visit!

Your Turn:
1: Have you ever felt empty within?

2: Do you currently feel empty no matter what things you do to try and fill up?

3: Perhaps you need to reassess your life and acknowledge the fact that no man/woman can fill up that God-sized hole in you….

4: Pray this prayer:
Lord, its me (your name). I know you see all things; you have seen how I have tried to shift you aside and use other people and things to fill myself up. I admit that it’s not working.
I am sorry Lord; please forgive me. Come into my life, come and fill me up. And teach me how to be satisfied in you..




My book “Prayers for your future husband” is available for would-be brides!

You can download the sneak peek copy Download

The end goal of the book “PRAYERS FOR YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND” is:

That all our women will arise to pour out prayers and not just wishes on the lives of the ones they desire to marry.

That we would no longer build our homes on the air but on the altar of prayer.

That we would no longer gripe and complain about husbands and men in the world but change things and nurture their lives in our prayer altars.. That again women would go back to raising up altars of intercession upon the lives of the men they marry.



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