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Getting Married Without A Groom (From Faith To Reality) Part 1

I started writing this book series last year when I went away to Calabar.

God had spoken to me about my marriage and asked me to IN FAITH begin to write this book. I stopped at the end of 2017.

Yesterday I knew that I was to IN FAITH begin again.

It is a memoir of sorts beginning at the beginning and ending at my marriage.

It would run every Saturday here on the blog till my wedding holds.

I hope that you are blessed and challenged by it in your own marital story.




Chapter 1

Hi everyone!
My name is Hephzibah. I am 25 years old and will be getting married soon.

I know like I know my name that I will be getting married in the next few months. I know the events that will take place at my wedding; I know the type of wedding gown I want and will be getting it before the year ends. I know the stream of income that will fund my wedding… the only snag is that I don’t have a groom. Yet.

I do have to start this story from the very beginning though and I am certain that before I get to the end, my groom would have arrived.

To quell any confusion, what I mean by “I don’t have a groom” is that I currently do not have a boyfriend – not even a boy with an interest in me. I. Am. Single.

Why do I think that I would be getting married soon? Simple. Because God told me so. I know in my knower that my single days are over; it’s just a matter of time.

But before I get ahead of myself, let’s start from the very beginning…


I grew up in the small town of Ughelli Delta State. My parents are simple people who love peace. But peace was a scarce commodity to come across in our own household; they always fought day in day out.

You may wonder why I am giving you this information but as you read my journey to the altar, you will find out that little things like my parents squabbles formed large issues that God had to solve in me.

When I was 9, my parents finally decided that they couldn’t live together anymore -actually my dad decided to move my mom out of his house. In the culture where they lived, when a man couldn’t live with his wife anymore, it wasn’t unusual for him to send her packing. Particularly in my extended family, they had a pattern of the men separating from their wives. They had not really had any Christian marriage – a marriage anchored on the rock of Christ so all they did was try to figure things out on their own. Sadly, this pattern was one that played out in my own life for years…

Your Turn:
1: Do you have patterns in your family regarding relationships and marriages?

2: Ask the Holy Spirit to help you identify these patterns and write them down

3: Write this down also:

“He has delivered us from the power of darkness and conveyed us into the kingdom of the Son of His love,”
-Colossians 1:13 NKJV

4: Go to God in prayer with the prayer points below: (this only applies if you are born again and belong to Christ Jesus)

A: Father thank you for saving me! Thank you for the gift of salvation

B: Father thank you for the blood that redeems, cleanses and washes me of my past sins!
Thank you for engrafting me into your kingdom by means of Christ’s death and resurrection!

C: Lord I come to you today with (mention the patterns that you noticed in your family DNA/lineage.
I belong to you now Lord and so therefore whatever is not found in you cannot be found in me.
Whatever is not of you cannot be of me.

Your word says that I have been delivered from the kingdom of darkness into the kingdom of your dear Son, Jesus.
Today I enforce my birthright as a child of God. I declare that the chains of patterns from my earthly family are broken. I plead the blood against every accusation of the enemy against me from the acts of my physical ancestors.
I raise up a new foundation of Christ Jesus for my life in Jesus name!!

(Be sensitive to the Spirit as He leads you to pray other prayers and even to fast and call other specific patterns by name).



Let the seeds for this man of mine and my marriage again be released.

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  • Reply
    April 15, 2018 at 7:57 pm

    Thank you SO much for this. God bless you.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      April 19, 2018 at 3:51 pm

      I need this too. Still on it currently…we thank God.

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