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Drop The Baggage…

Dear Single ladies and gentlemen,
This is my first love letter to you for the year 2015 and I am excited.
I am excited to see just how much insight and revelation God gives to us on godly relationships.
I am excited to see just how much we are all inspired to take the back seat and let God write our love story.
It is my prayer that in this 2015, God will teach us, guide us and lead us away from incidents on matters of the heart that aren’t good for us.


Do I seem well put together to you on this aspect of living my love life God’s way?
Well, the very essence of this blog debunks any claim that I have got it all together perfectly.
I am imperfectly perfect remember? God only decided to shower His mercies on me and reveal to me some of His purposes as regards what He wants maritally for me.
And He can do the same for you if you let Him.


I had no clue as to what God wanted for me as regards relationship at a time.
As a matter of fact, the year 2010, 2011 and 2012 saw me crossing over into the year with one heart break or the other from a relationship that was never meant to be.
I used to always have a baggage relationship wise…. Baggage that I should have never carried as the relationships were terribly wrong for me.

In December 2012, I decided to have my very last pity party.
You know, the pity party of “Lord, why me? Why do I always have to be heart broken at the end of the year?”


I was in an “almost relationship” with a wrong guy again who didn’t care for me in any way.
I swallowed lies and thought I(not God) should give Him a chance even when I said I wanted God’s best.
He wasn’t a man sold out to God.
The fruits he displayed weren’t of the Spirit, but I felt I could change him.
Needless to say, I ended up being burnt and in January 2013, I decided to lose myself in God and never have unnecessary relationship drama in my life anymore.
Was it a smooth ride afterwards?
Did I still make mistakes?
It seemed like “almost relationships with wrong people trailed me”.
But I am thankful for the gift of rejection and almost relationships… God never let them be a reality because He has a plan for my marriage; one that would shine forth the light.
He doesn’t want me to settle for less than I deserve even more than I myself do not want to settle for less, so He pulls me away from relationships that aren’t for me.

It’s always painful at the time, but I am always thankful at the end of it all.

And God can do the same for you too you know?
It takes a lot to walk away from toxic relationships that have none of God’s backing in our lives but the rewards are amazing.
Aren’t you tired of the tears?
Aren’t you tired of going your own way relationship wise?
Won’t it be wise to let God take the reins this 2015?
A good place to start is to pray this prayer… “Lord, let your will be done in my marriage, pull me away from relationships that aren’t your will for me”
That prayer works wonders…
Relationships can break left, right and centre after this but it’s great to come to a point where we DEEPLY trust God and not our own minds.
He might lead you to step away and break things up… Or He might lead you to stay…
Either ways, 2015 is a great year to follow God’s leading maritally.
If you need a clean slate from wrong relationships, this is a great time to do that.
Trust God and let Him be the wind beneath your wings.
Drop whatsoever baggage you are carrying relationship wise and let God take control.
It is my prayer that we will not miss it maritally.
God will bring us together with His very best for us and not our best for ourselves in Jesus Name, amen.

I pray for a drama free relationship year for us all and a year full with trusting God DEEPLY with our marital story.

I will write to you again next week Saturday but for now, subscribe in the box below and don’t miss any of my subsequent letters.
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Drop the emotional drama and baggage this year and live freely in God’s Love.

Without any drama whatsoever...#thankful!

Without any drama whatsoever…#thankful!

Much Love,

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  • Reply
    January 3, 2015 at 6:21 pm

    This is a great year to lay aside every weight that weighs us done.. Baggage has a way of making us destroy even our God given relationship..

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    Frances Okoro
    January 4, 2015 at 7:02 am

    Yes is a great year to start afresh in God in our relationships and let Him take control…

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    January 4, 2015 at 12:39 pm

    Amen and amen. You took the words right outta my heart. Been down that road (and all the byroads). Grateful for the lessons. Happy God’s finally taken the wheel from me.

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    Frances Okoro
    January 4, 2015 at 7:09 pm

    The wheel’s always best held in God’s hands…no matter what our hearts may feel.
    As for lessons? I am also thankful for how God turns it all for good…
    Thank you for the blog roll here today Jite 🙂

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    January 5, 2015 at 7:20 am

    purpose driven relationships

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      Frances Okoro
      January 7, 2015 at 5:09 am

      Yes ksk2486, purpose driven relationships for us all…nothing short of that will do…

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    January 6, 2015 at 11:50 am

    I always tell singles that if they listen to that still small voice in their gut, they would know early enough whether or not to venture into relationships or not. Many times the “Red Flags” are ignored.

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      Frances Okoro
      January 7, 2015 at 5:12 am

      Thank you for reminding us of this Aunty ugochi.
      Our raging emotions sometimes get louder than God’s voice in us but by God’s grace, we will always hear and obey the still small voice in us and not the voice of our emotions.
      We’d be saved lots of heart aches this way.

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    January 6, 2015 at 12:09 pm

    I receive the anointing to have a drama free relationship in Jesus Name. Amen.

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    January 6, 2015 at 3:15 pm

    This post is so insightful. I enjoyed reading every part of it.
    It takes the grace of God to break free from wrong and drama free relationships because a lot of times people would rather face the drama than deal with the thought of being alone, but thank God for His word that we are never alone.
    Happy new year Frances.

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      Frances Okoro
      January 7, 2015 at 5:25 am

      Ah, tell me about the much needed grace to leave unnecessary drama behing favouredwoman.
      That grace is needed, really really needed.
      It takes a lot to leave behind lovey dovey feelings that aren’t from God but we are always the better for it…

      I am working on and praying for (me)us to allow grace to not let us muddle in the waters at all instead entering it first(another post)
      But grace is always available, God sees us, helps us and like you said, we are not alone(that fear shouldn’t be there sef, being alone is a wonderful thing when done in God)(another post again)

      Thanks for being here and commenting ma’am.
      Happy blessed divine New Year to you and all yours too. 🙂

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    January 8, 2015 at 7:49 pm

    You know something dropped in my Spirit one time about how life would be so much easier for Christians if we chose to follow God’s will concerning our love life once and for all. Even the whole ‘dating’ thing wouldn’t be necessary for us because if God wasn’t saying anything about you being with a particular somebody, then there was no point wasting time with that person and there would be no heartbreaks, no emotional turmoils and all of that. But because our flesh sometimes craves for things, craves for love or better said, lust and sees how the world operates,(aka people having boyfi and all that shi, we want to take that plunge and then we come out with a whole lot of baggage which God didn’t even intend in the first place. We may learn a lesson or two though. It’s important that we do cos some don’t and go ahead to make mistakes again. It takes the grace of God to heal and realize you’re so much more than what anybody makes you feel.

    Forgive my epistle but just take it as a summary of me supporting what you’ve said here. 🙂

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      Frances Okoro
      January 9, 2015 at 8:27 pm

      No Itunu, I love epistles… makes me learn from you all too.
      Yes, mistakes may turn around for our good…as long as we don’t repeat them again.
      And more and more, I believe God’s Spirit in me will tell me when the guy is for me so no rigmarolling anyhow anyhow again.
      Life’s too short to go out of God’s will jare.
      God grant us grace to obey and follow His leading even in this area of our lives in Jesus name, amen.

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    January 8, 2015 at 7:58 pm

    “Lord, let your will be done in my marriage, pull me away from relationships that aren’t your will for me”
    I say a big amen and I claim a drama free relationship year for you, me and all the wonderful people linked to us:)

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