Goodmorning blog readers, panel of judges, accurate time keeper and of course my co-debaters.
My name is Frances Oghenerukevwe Okoro and I am here to support the motion that it is better to marry a Christian believer than just any other douche bag.
I apologize for using that harsh word my esteemed readers and listeners but I searched all over and found no better word to encapsulate the person of a cheat, liar, batterer (insert other ill virtues here) in one.
I must explain who a christian believer is before I go on.
Contrary to public opinion, every Christian isn’t really a believer. I would love to explain who a believer is in line with someone who loves God but then everyone will say that they love the Lord, so we will just use Jesus’s own definition of love for this.
If you love me, you will keep my commandments~John 14:15
So that girl who claims to love the Lord but still engages in pre-marital sex with her boyfriend, does she love the Lord?
That guy that loves the Lord when He gives Him a job but doesn’t esteem God above His friends, does he love the Lord?
A believer mind you, isn’t a perfect person, he may fall then and again but none of this is because he sins deliberately. He loves God and generally produces good fruits and not leaves. (for what good fruits are, please study Galatians 5:22-23)
Now, that we have a general idea of who a believer is, I will be giving out some points on why we should marry this type of Christian and not other Christians “for mouth”…
(1) You have the opportunity to have your very own personal pastor before your pastor in Church.
Remember how a man is supposed to be the priest of a home?
What does a priest do? A priest mediates on behalf of others, He stands in the gap for others behind him.
Now, your husband should be able to stand in the gap for you before God.
I look out for great examples of marriages a lot and there was a day my Pastor’s words struck me like a thunderbolt. He had a dream that wasn’t so good and immediately he woke up, he started praying on behalf of his wife and family.
Would that be possible if he wasn’t a man that knows and loves God?
You say it’s because he is a pastor? No, he wasn’t always a pastor, he is just a man who loves the Lord and that spilled over into his home.
Now, maybe all men may pray but we all know that not all of them have right standing with God.
Won’t it be great to have a man that you know God answers when he opens his mouth to be head over you?
You know that wherever you are, whatever happens, this man can kabash when need be.
(2) You both are one flesh in every sense of the word.
One flesh in the world of marriage according to God is supposed to be one flesh indeed.
In purpose in Christ, in unity in love and service… You are not one flesh when you are a believer and he isn’t a believer.
Something is fundamentally missing.
He/she can’t get you when you explain the things of God, He/she doesn’t even want to hear those words, He/she can’t understand you when you outline that you have a purpose and ministry in Christ, as far as he is concerned, it’s money first… are you then still one flesh?
Getting married to a believer just as you are will guarantee that you are one flesh indeed, yoked together perfectly in the sight of God.
(3) You get the benefit of having God as your father-in-law.
Now, you cannot marry a son/daughter of the devil and expect to have God as your father-in-law.
A father-in-law has the right to pop in for a visit once in a while or even stay for a long time and he of course has to bring his belongings with him.
Getting married to a believer who loves God at least guarantees you that the third cord holding your marriage together is God. And when God holds your marriage together… when He is your father-in-law, He gives you good gifts, all His attributes, He passes on to your union..love, unity, peace, faithfulness, kindness… and vice versa for satan as your father-in-law, he passes unto you his own attributes.
So choose wisely.
(4) People say cute couples are the sexiest.
You know, the shapely beautiful wife, the well built husband… I say, that’s all great but the sexiest couple to me is one who can worship God in unity together.
Like I said before, I look out for great couples and godly marriages all the time and something struck me in the conference I attended last week…
A very powerful man of God, Pastor Chingtok Ishiaku was invited to speak to us and during worship, I saw his wife kneeling down, worshiping God with all of her heart. And it struck me just how cute that was.
I mean, I don’t have to stand and worship God while my husband looks on and wonders about what I get from tearing up in tears in the presence of God.
I don’t have to start explaining it to Him because he feels it too.
We can be in church/in our family altar and sing out our heart to God. I love worship so you can imagine how big of a deal this is for me.
If you are like me then you get the sexiness of the whole deal that I am talking about.
Marrying a believer guarantees that you don’t have to look like a clown to your better half when the Spirit of God overshadows you during worship…
Why? Because he/she is right there slain in the spirit also, overwhelmed with just a glimpse of the heavenly realm that comes in when we worship.
And imagine the smiles that comes to God’s face when He looks down and sees this couple bonded in Him, kneeling down with hands lifted up together to Him in worship…
You agree with me that it’s just plain sexy right?
(5) The blessedness of not having to worry about his cheating on you.
I know things happen and men/women can fall and all what not, but that’s why you should know how to pray for your man/woman to be strong and overcome temptations.(Back to point 1)
That aside, I believe you know that not even your man/woman’s love for you can keep them from cheating on you?
The only thing that can hold someone from temptation has to be higher than you.
And that is God.
A man/woman who loves God is more concerned about safeguarding his relationship with God because he knows he is empty without God.
You may forgive him, he may forgive you of your infidelity and God will also forgive him but he doesn’t want to risk a breakdown in who he is in Christ.
Let me give you an example. My pastor Nathaniel Bassey is an anointed minister of God. His wife is very, very beautiful but do you think that will stop him when satan comes with temptation? What will stop him is that Spirit and love for God in Him.
His wife doesn’t have to bother her head about whether he is cheating on her when he travels out because she knows that this is a man that guards his relationship with God seriously.
When you marry an unbeliever with nothing but his love for you holding him, anything you see, you accept.
My esteemed readers and listeners, I would love to go on but I am afraid, my time is almost up.
I will be back again for round two of this debate but I do hope that I have been able to convince and not confuse you to please, make it a point of duty not to tie the knot with an unbeliever. More than these reasons above, a more important one is that, you can’t function in your purpose in Christ if you marry the wrong person.
For those of you who know that God has a lot in store for you, it won’t come to light if you marry wrongly.
See, it will take the grace of God for you to make a turn around if you marry wrongly. Why go through that stress when you can just marry the right person and go right ahead to fulfill God’s purpose for you both without undue rigmarolling?
For more on the purpose of a couple, please read this post.
Thank you for your time sirs and ma’s.
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I remain, Frances Okoro.