This was originally written for Law School 2013/2014 set, the wigs magazine…
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Dear Sisi Maggie,
Sometimes, all I truly want to do when I hear you speak about relationships/marriages is reach out and shake you till your teeth rattles.
How can an elegant educated lady such as you say things likeâ¦
“Itâs because I am beautiful (outwardly), thatâs why they run after meâ¦
I canât marry a man who does not own a Bugatti; he must earn enough to take care of me⦔
You think thereâs nothing wrong with the above statements?
Ah! Sisi, ever heard of the saying âbeauty is vain, charm is deceitful but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praisedâ?
A woman is not truly beautiful till she is as beautiful inside as she is outside. Only then can she truly glow from the inside out.
Donât be deceived, those make ups on your face would only be as a ring in a pigâs nose if you arenât beautiful inside.
Your makeup may attract the guys but does it make him stay?
Emeka left you and married Ese, the girl you termed ugly and you bemoaned your fate to your pastor. Did you stop to check yourself? Did you ask yourself what she had that you didnât have?
Men arenât fools anymore, the makeup doesnât faze them.
Hereâs what does; Are you godly? Are you kind? Are your words filled with wisdom? Do you spur him on to achieve the best or do you bring him down with words? Do you splurge his earnings on fashion or do you encourage him to invest? Are you rude, bitchy, without an iota of emphathy or hospitable?
Are you a true helpmeet?
Ese didnât steal your man or even if she did, she didnât do that with makeup only, she did that with what she possessed inside.
Check yourself!
Are you as beautiful inside as the makeup posits?
What do you have in you?
You say he must have a Bugatti before you can get married to himâ¦
Is a Bugatti what you really need in the man youâll spend the rest of your life with? What happens when the âBugatti manâ but beats you black and blue every day?
Whatever happened to looking at a manâs passion for God, his vision in life, his being hardworking&excelling in character as criteria to look out for in a husband?
Why are you looking out for JUST the superficial?
That wonât keep your future marital home intact; itâs what he has inside him you have to live with for the rest of your life, not the Bugatti.
You prefer to live on ONLY what he brings to the table? Thatâs not a bad thing in itself but do you know that dependent women donât make waves anymore? Who would want to take every ten naira from a man anyway? Do you know how much power that gives him over you?
Women like Mrs Alakija and Biola Alabi liveth; women making waves in their careers with their own cash and with husbands.
Why would you want to feed on only your husbandâs cash? The world has evolved beyond that dear.
A real man loves the fact that his woman has a good brain on her shoulders.
I donât know where you got the above ideas from but sisi, real, godly husbands are not gotten with the criteria youâve set.
Hop in with a man with vision, not Bugatti and you will go places.
I can imagine the men applauding this article; the above does not apply to lazy men, feeding off their womenâs cash. You should know that itâs your responsibility to provide for the home. A real man encourages his lady to be the best in the professional world, does not siphon off her cash and is confident enough to let his woman have her own money because he is not a âlay aboutâ, he has his too!
Sisi Maggie, I only hope that this article meets you well and I pray you let the truths sink in. You need to revamp your thoughts about relationships.
Your solid marriage can only be built when the foundation is right.
With Love,
Frances.
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6 Comments
Inthe...
November 8, 2014 at 11:06 am“Hop in with a man with vision, not Bugatti and you will go places”
Gbam! ‘Nuff said
Frances Okoro
November 17, 2014 at 9:34 pmAbi oh inthe..hard to do but it’s the truth.
I’ve missed you sis, glad to have youu back.
Esther
November 10, 2014 at 9:00 am*Exhale* This is deep…real deep and a message only wise women and men can grasp.
Thanks for the reminder darling Frances.
Frances Okoro
November 17, 2014 at 9:13 pmThanks Esther. I hope the message sinks into all, including me.
Dr. N
November 24, 2014 at 8:21 pmSisi Maggie! Haff u hear?
Frances Okoro
November 25, 2014 at 12:11 amLol, Dr N, I do hope she has heard.