Can That Someone Be You?

Ah! What an amazing day!

My sweetie, Bisi...

My sweetie, Bisi…

Firstly, this is me saying congratulations to all my personal persons who just passed out of NYSC! I am very certain that for everyone connected to me, this is just the ‘start of the overflow of God’s blessings in your lives.

See this testimony from my mama mia Toju Oki?

Employed b4 POP! Thank you Jesus for a wonderful service year…Better things 2 come  ijn,amen!’

God has not even started with you all yet, just wait and see His glorious plans come to fruition in your life.

To our own FAB E, my mama mia Toju, my very own sweetie, Abisola, Ogbore Tega, Toju Ajuyah, Mazi Nwose Nome…only GREATER  thing are allowed in your life from here on out in Jesus Name, amen.


What I really feel on this day of love is gratitude-gratitude to God from the depths of my heart…the reason why? Of course I’ll share with you.

You see, on this exact day, Feb 14th about 3years ago, I was shattered, bruised, not only from my heart being broken by someone else, but from my heart being broken by me.

I didn’t love myself enough to believe that I was something good. I didn’t love myself enough to believe that I deserved better than a guy who was a pathological liar, smoked marijuana and gave me a pair of earrings worth 50naira as a valentine gift + also made me cry on the same day. I didn’t love myself enough to know that I was worth way better than I settled for. I broke my own heart even more than he did and I do not want to break your hearts also by not sharing that which I should today.

I wrote about letting the love flow through us to all around us on Feb 14th   and beyond on my last post and that’s terribly important but there’s something that’s even more important than the love which you give out to others….

The love which you give to yourself.

self love

Do you love you?

Do you love the one you see in the mirror?

Take away the weight you want to lose, take away the additional height you wish you had, take away the legs you wish were straighter, and take away the scars on your face from pimples…

Look closely, look at yourself really closely; do you love the one you see in the mirror?

You can scream to the ends of the earth and back that you love your boo today if you so desire but I assure you, even the type of boo you have right now is hinged on this question….


Nemo dat quod non habet(you can’t give what you don’t have).

You can’t love your ‘the one’ and the less privileged you desire to help if you don’t love you.

You just won’t have it in you to spread the love forth.

Do you know that you don’t have to stick with that guy who treats you like shit just because it’s Valentine’s Day and you don’t want to be alone?

Do you know that you don’t have to accept trash from her just because you need to appear to have a lover for February 14th?

u are a godd woman

Can someone love you enough to let you know that you deserve better?

Can someone love you enough to not let you settle for less?

Can someone love you enough to let God separate you from that terrible guy/girl and place your heart in the hands of the one who deserves one that has been intricately crafted in love by an awesome God?

Can someone love you enough to let you know that one who has his/her name tattooed on the palm of the God who created the heavens and the earth deserves better?

Can someone love you enough to let you know that the one whom the God that sits above the circle of the earth calls the apple of His eyes should let go of that substandard relationship you have right now and let God fill you with nothing short of perfection in Him?

Can someone love you enough to let you know that God has greater things in store for your marital life if you just let go?

Can someone love you enough to let you know that you shouldn’t stick with the one who has no iota of respect for you and relegates you to the deepest background there is just because it’s Valentine’s Day?

Can that someone be you?

Can you love yourself enough to know you deserve better?

You do deserve better and I pray you find the strength within you and through Christ to discover this like I did.

Let the one who loves you enough to let go of that no-good relationship be you.

Let the one who loves you enough to not settle for less in relationships  be you.

let that one be you

It seems so unreal when I think about it all now, was I really in such a stage in my life? It doesn’t seem like I was. That phase seems like it happened so long ago, to someone else other than me.

But that’s what God does when He steps in. He washes you and creates a barricade between who you once were and who you are right now/who you’ll become.I feel like the past never existed.

And God can do that with your life too.

Just let go, and let God.

Today, February 14th2014, three years away from the start of the rest of my life, I am grateful.

I am grateful to my beautiful father.

I love Him.

I love the God who made me me and I totally, absolutely, irrevocably love this tres awesome me.

That’s all that truly matters.


PS: Lots of thanks to everyone who commented with their answers on my first ‘small blog giveaway’. We do have a winner, but I surprise for una answers o. choi!

I was 8years old when I had my first love? Maka why na? I’ll have you know my momsi was still locking us up in the house by then (strong woman)and I tell you the truth, my heart knew not what crush was except you count the one I fell in crush with while peeping from our gate sha but I kid, I kid. The popular general consensus from the comments also seemed to be that I was 12years old….Haba! at that age, I was in a boarding school, one with just girls and in JS3. Still a very little girl so as as how na?

Anyways, I did finally have a first love at 14, and it wasn’t really a real thingy as we didn’t  see each other physically, (era of phones, if not I would have had it at 18/19 like Femmetotale said. btw,only God knows what happens with kids that get phones like me with no real knowledge about what they should do with it o, I digress, but we really need God help for our future kids o) and I lied about my age + plenty love story I can’t tell jare(I can see your long ears perking up but it was my first encounter with ‘love’ – the type my immature mind understood it to be God for God)…

And our winner is……………. 1+the one!!!

I tap into your grace to win giveaways o, because I know you won Miss Jbass’s giveaway on her blog and one of Atitola’s too if I am not mistaken.

I will hit you a mail so you can tell me how to get the ‘small stuff’ to you.

Thanks everyone. Greater blog giveaways soon yeah? Yes.

Happy Valentine’s Day my lovelies.

Let love shine in you, to you and through you to all around you on this day February 14th and beyond.


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    1 + The One
    February 14, 2014 at 8:17 am

    Oh my goodnessss! I wonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn!!!!!!
    I just entered randomly thinking JAMB question! Haha! *singing* It’s my year of favour,, destiny-changing favour!! Tra la la la al!
    As in, I really won?!!! Yayyyyyyy Thank you Jesus! I am so grateful!
    Awww, IP92, thank you sooo much!! mwah! mwah!! xxxxx
    And I love this post by the way! Love IT! You need to love and approve of yourself! praise God for the testimony xxxx

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      February 14, 2014 at 11:13 pm

      hehe,1+, I need to tap into your grace o, truly!..i think I have tapped into it sha o, I just won tickets for two to go see any movie of my choice from tripican…talk about giving and receiving! you carry plentyyyy favour already.. will mail you

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        February 15, 2014 at 12:12 am

        OOH great, I see now…u really are tapping ooh,..ur own testimony like mine has come dear, just wait till you hear it…..I gbadun you, dis ur stule of grace giving and grace tapping…..its great…..send me ur pin to

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    February 14, 2014 at 9:32 am

    Happy Valentine’s day. HMMMMM I won too in my mind ooh. CCongrats 1 + The One. Great Testimony and great post. Love you. Thank God for everything.

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      February 14, 2014 at 11:22 pm

      I always say thank God for God Hannah, thank God for all, words cant express….
      you go win next time nor worry, coming soon..btw, have you seen my deal for the cupcakes you won on PM’s blog? oya o, go read my comment, I dey hope you had a great day?

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        February 14, 2014 at 11:31 pm

        I dey rush go read am nw,…..I did OOh, I got one great testimony sef….U will wanna hear it. I really won lots of things today ooh, I’m indeed a Heavenly man….watchout for the testimony….Love you dear

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        February 14, 2014 at 11:35 pm

        I actually replied you Immeditely I saw it sef,..u rush go read am,..U go see my own answer as regards that deal, worry I go give u some, we go conduct our own giveaway, between just me and you….its my turn to show u dat pepper u showed me on ur own giveaway….*tongue out*lol

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        February 14, 2014 at 11:59 pm

        I have started kabashing for you to win my next giveaway, pls na.. nor show me pepper, cupcakes sound too good to miss.*battling eyelashes, pls..

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      February 14, 2014 at 11:57 pm

      and that’s how I will just start tapping from the favour on everyone connected to me, distance is no barrier, he who findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtains favour from God ba? I have remixed it, he who findeth awesome blogger friends findeth a good thing and obtains favour from God.. pls share the testimony? btw shey you’ve seen the one I won today too on my reply to 1+ comment?

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        February 15, 2014 at 12:07 am

        Yes ooh, he who findeth…..frances infact that grace is released to you right nw,..I’m too full of it, so I dash you enough as you require. The higher life in God,..I experienced in an extraordinary way today, u can’t even imagine. As for your win, I haven’t seen it ooh. Did you share it on your blog? where can I find it dear….plus i think its high time we shifted to mails or pings ooh.
        see you dere babe, we don grow rish abi,..hehehe

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      February 15, 2014 at 12:55 am

      Amen and amen! i have one thing in mind as i share this, testimony oncoming soon, i believe.
      we don grow pass sef..will send you a mail, no phone for now…
      and the matter eh, you know my giveaway was a ticket to see a movie, ok na, today I won tickets for two to see any movie of my choice. talk about double for all. I am thinking of giving one of the tickets to a blogger I’ve never met so we go see the movie together..

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        February 15, 2014 at 1:55 am

        OOH dat wud be perfect,..wish I was on Nigeria, but if I come home in June, we would def be in a cinema together chewing popcorn. As for the double, yes we experience double blessings daily. Blessed be God

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      February 15, 2014 at 2:22 am

      definitely definitely by God’s grace..

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    February 14, 2014 at 5:23 pm

    Great piece!
    Self love is the first true love and the most important!

    Happy Vals day b

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      February 14, 2014 at 11:30 pm

      thank you Just Porsh. the things having the knowledge of self love can bring are limitless..
      hope you had an amazing day of love?
      thanks much for stopping by

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    February 14, 2014 at 5:30 pm

    great post!

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    February 14, 2014 at 7:18 pm

    wow…the girl’s story was really sad about the way her bf treated her and how she didn’t know better. Thank God for God in her life o. thank God that she has come to love herself and to let ppl know that it’s in Christ you can begin to find your real identity of who you really are and how to begin to love yourself

    It’s a really touching story…

    As for the giveaway congrats 1 plus the one!!

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      February 14, 2014 at 11:40 pm

      @glowing scenes, you are totally right, its a Touching story + lots of other people’s reality..
      thank God for our heavenly Father, the one who has the power to turn everything anew..

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    February 15, 2014 at 9:44 am

    What more can I say?….You couldn’t have said it any better…I LOVE ME!!


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      February 15, 2014 at 5:10 pm

      of course you have no option but to love your awesome self Uje, you are all of amazing and more.
      thanks for stopping by dear

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    March 2, 2014 at 4:57 am

    great post Ms.Frances!

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    March 5, 2014 at 9:28 pm

    Lovely post……loving me is important to loving someone else. Thanks.

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      March 5, 2014 at 10:59 pm

      ah Tope, you are right, loving you is even more important as you cant love another without loving yourself, atleast not really and truly.. thanks for stopping by dear.

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