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Brother S: Overcoming Sexual Immorality

Dear Lovers of Frances’s Love Letters,
I hope that you are strong in spirit, soul and body?
It seems like such a long time since we had a moment together but it was just last week we had the last post on the #ChastityForMen series.
Today’s article on the #ChastityForMen series is written by a brother I admire and respect and if you know him personally, you’ll agree with me that he is a man that God has worked on his heart.
But you won’t get to know him as he wrote this in anonymously, but still, we won’t be able to deny that God has helped him and still helps him to live in chastity.
Read his story for yourself below…

Overcoming sexual debauchery, be it with a reverse sex partner or with the help of self, either through stimulation or otherwise known as masturbation, as difficult as this may be, we can without doubt overcome this abominable fruit.
And this is my story, my growing up days was an admiration to many who then wished they were in my shoes but the reason was unknown to me until a friend of mine told me how much he had admired me and how he had always wished he was in my shoes.

To my utmost consternation and chagrin and with so much curiosity to know the reason, I asked why, and he said in his words ‘’despite the rush of the opposite sex towards you like the Azure river, you have maintained your stance not to have a girl friend.’’

So funny, right? And of course I smiled over it. It will be important to state that it was the trend then for young boys to have a girlfriend. This was not because i was so spiritual or because i was scared of indulging in it either, but most probably because of my high moral upbringing.

But unfortunately, the good admired old days about me was now almost in the past, with so much pressure on me to have a girlfriend. Of course, i got hooked with my first date ever at the age of 17years. We all know the popular story, From claps to dance and gradually i saw myself committing fornication with so much pleasure derived though, even when we know it was a sin, at this time i became conscious of the fact that it was against my faith having remembered the biblical injunction, that forbids fornication and for this singular reason, at each occasion after indulging in the forbidden fruit, i am condemned to guilt, taken aback from God with several steps.


This position continued with me until i became resolute to totally abstain. However this was to me then the hardest decision to make. More like a Carmel going through the eye of a needle. Not without struggle. Don’t get me twisted please, i am not proud of all of that i had indulged but the truth has to be told.
This is not an attempt either to discontinue the revelation.


Therefore, the story continues.


And it got to a point of my life when i told myself why i have to discontinue from every such acts, at this point i have encountered with the truth in a stricter sense. it should however be noted that the urge still sometimes come and occasionally I’d still fall into the sin of masturbation but eventually with strong desire in my mind to live above board, i was arrested by the Holy Spirit. May His name be praised, that is just what God can do in the life of anyone but first we must desire it first.

And if God can do it for me then He can also help you out of that despicable situation. At all times, He is always on ground to help our weaknesses but we have got to be willing first.
I am now a free man, free from every unnecessary guilt of the sin of fornication or masturbation and patiently waiting for the assigned time. Little wonder when the Bible says to everything under the sun, there is a time and season.
And finally, if God can help me, he can help you too…………………


Brother S.



I don’t know about you guys, but every time I read “I am chaste or I am now a free man from the sin of fornication/masturbation/lust”, my heart leaps for joy and I actually smile at it.
Oh, that we will have more and more men with these testimonies to share.
But like Brother S has told us, if God can do it for him, then God can do it for you too.
I spoke to a friend recently and he told me that “it isn’t like I and her have marathon sex, its once in a while”
I felt like a knife had been twisted inside me. I actually had tears in my eyes when I told him “you are not even supposed to do it at all. Do you even know what you are bringing upon yourself?”
I have felt this struggle with living in chastity that the men feel, so I know how hard it is.
I also know that God gave me victory over it and gave other men victory over lust like we have been reading on this series… So I know that God can do the same for you.
But it begins with you…
Are you ready to be free?
Are you willing to walk in victory over lust?
I pray that you are ready and I know that God will help you.



It is my prayer that a seed for living in purity in Christ will be sowed in the hearts of the men that read these posts.
And if you are already walking in victory over lust, I pray that this series will furthermore strengthen your resolve to live in chastity in Christ.
We are not alone and we should stop wrapping up these things under the rug.
Let’s draw strength from each other’s stories and victories.


We will be having the last post in this series next week on the blog.
It’s been an awesome time on this series.
Coming out publicly with my story and stories of other men did not only touch other lives but touched my life too. My public testimony nailed the final nail on the coffin of lust and I tell you, there’s no going back.

God bless us all and help us all to live in chastity through Christ Jesus.


You can read all posts in this #ChastityForMen series here and you can actually get in contact with other men who shared their stories if you need a hand to help you. (Their contacts are shared beneath the posts)


Till next week on the series,
Much love,
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Let this message spread to all.
Thank you.


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P.P.P: Happy Easter celebrations in advance everyone!
The remembrance of the day that’s all wrapped in the privilege we have in Christ.
Words cant explain it all adequately but have a great time letting God’s love wrap you securely.
He loves us!
Yes He does!

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  • Reply
    Dr. N
    April 4, 2015 at 4:21 pm

    Since he is anon I expected more detail about how he overcame. God bless him tho

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      April 4, 2015 at 10:26 pm

      Yes Dr N… as I read more and more of these stories, I realize that not everyone is free enough to share it all.
      Sex and all is still mostly wrapped in secret…even the victory over lust.
      I pray that more hearts will be open to know that it’s not something to be ashamed of, it’s a victory that that gives glory to God.

      God bless brother S…

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