I am on my way to NLS Lagos from Delta and I tell y’all,this journey is the best ever!
Well I can’t wait to share this with you all so yes,I am writing this post on the road!
We’ve had like five different heated topics already,from getting married when ready,to sorting in the University,to ladies getting pregnant because of ASUU strike,to ladies that enjoy beatings from their husbands(apparently they do) and now to the topic I want to talk about…I had this crazily-heated argument with my “Bus mates”(yea,they are the best ever!)…
Most said something must be terribly wrong with a woman who is 30-35years old&above and unmarried.
And that she should go for deliverance,Witches from her village must be after her life.
They also said that if she is that old,she should settle for whoever comes her way.
I seriously do not get this.
Let’s take for example,a woman that looks for the right qualities in men(godliness,vision,hardworking et all) and not the superficial things,(eg,he must drive a latest model car,must be 6ft 4in tall,et all)…
And a man with real qualities that she wants hasn’t come,should she just settle for anyone?
That is,whether the man dey beat her o,or she doesn’t love him o,or he looks at her as trash o,she should just accept whoever comes her way?
I also find the idea about witches pursuing a woman who is unmarried at 30+years old insulting to a person to say the least.
Does the fact that she is unmarried at such age translate to mean that she is less of a human being?
I do know that Esther,Kumuyi’s 2nd wife he married after his wife died was 66years old and had never been married.
So was she less of a human being before then?
I am not saying that getting married early isn’t a good thing,but we do know that some ladies these days get married when they are above 30years old.
Some get married at 25 and others at 30years plus.
So should we crucify the others that got married at 30years plus?
I really don’t get this.
Is marriage a crucial method of prooving whether a person is important or not?
Should all the single ladies/men above 30years old disappear from the surface of the earth then since they are not married?
Has God made a pronouncement I haven’t heard of that they aren’t worthy to live?
How come its women themselves,”Educated” women at that,that make these pronouncements on fellow females?
How does marriage become an automatic measure for a lady’s worth.
So as the man never come make she commit suicide?
Please help me out here because I nor know again o.
And no this is not a “feminist thing”,I just have a problem with understanding how women who are 30+years old and not married translate into them being less human beings than their married counterparts.
What do you think?
Are unmarried women nothing?
Should they be wiped out from the surface of the earth because they are not married?
Are they incomplete human beings because they got married at 35?
Do you agree that they should settle for just anyone because they are single and getting older?
So witch dey worry them because them never marry?
The questions plenty.
Biko nu people,help me out here.
Drop your comments and thoughts.
Have a great week ahead and watch out for my Monday’s Inspirational Drive tomorrow.
Pls,drop your comments and help me solve this matter o.
Let me go back to my “Bus mates” matters.
Be like another matter dey brew.