I just watched one of Tyler Perry’s movies-“For Coloured Girls” (I know, I know, old news, I am way out of date) but I still feel pained in my heart…
I feel pain in my heart for the woman with the abusiveÂ man she couldn’t leave and who finally murdered her kids by throwing them out of the window ofÂ a 5 storey building…
For the woman who had a terrible childhood of molestation from her granddad and who uses sex-one night stands with different men as a way to numb the pain..
For the 16year old with a bright future, but also with an unwanted pregnancy she got rid of with tools from the drunk lady in the ghetto for fearÂ of what the world would say, because of the shame of being young, unmarried and pregnant…
For the executive boss lady married to a man who sleeps with men and gave her a gift of HIV…
For the woman who was raped in her own home by a man she trusted…
For the women who let the ‘I am sorry(s) baby” rob them of what they know they should have done;#LEAVE…
For the woman who does not get the privilege of ” I am sorry baby” but gets the “shut up bitch, I said I am sorry”…
I feel pained in my spirit because some of the above isÂ some woman’s reality…
And as I watch, I get to the part where the women decide not to commit the suicide they have considered at some point in their lives but to get to the ends of their rainbow…
Where they decide that their love is too beautiful to have it thrown back on their face…
I lift my face, in true worship to God, in sincerity of mind and heart, for as many that found themselves again after the emotional trauma and I feel a stirring in my spirit to pray for them all, for not just the coloured girls but for as many women who are going through some trying times emotionally-in relationships/marriages out there..
“I pray the realization hits you soon that your love is too amazing to have it thrown back on your face.
I pray you love yourself enough to leave and let go if need be and wait for what you deserve.
I pray that God heals you, heals you enough to see the good in all you went through, that someday, you can use your experience to help one more woman like you.
I pray you find yourself again, in totality and in Christ.
I pray you find God, even through the tears,
I pray the joy that trumps all you’ve been through, finds its place in your heart… Amen”
And for everyone reading this, please take a minute to say a prayer for our fellow sisters, and if you are reading this and going through some stuff in one way or the other, please say the above prayer for yourself also.
I cannot say that I have an inkling of what you’ve being through/are going throughÂ but I can say without doubt that our God is still a comforter and isÂ always there for you.
With love, hugs and prayers,
ZimreybFebruary 22, 2014 at 5:21 am
imperfectlyperfect92February 23, 2014 at 2:14 pm
AMEN Zimreyb. let it be so indeed.
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E'February 22, 2014 at 6:24 pm
After the Arowolo story and judgement, I cried yesternight wella. You have reminded me of this movie again. How do we tell ladies pls run!!!! Even a hint or a threat, run far!!! Leave your slippers for the loser and run away!!! These stories are too sad kai. I almost did a prayer and warning post like this too last night.
I am seeing FCG again… Ah!!!
No more words…
But dear God. Please watch over the Arowolo kid… Amen
imperfectlyperfect92February 23, 2014 at 2:35 pm
E, ladies have to know that love doesn’t entail abuse-physical and emotional and at the first threat of either, we should pick race, real race without looking back..
yes, like we’ve seen in the Arowolo story, the man was convicted but the woman Is dead and gone…the dead can tell no stories…tis sad
imperfectlyperfect92February 23, 2014 at 2:50 pm
but what did I just write? the ladies already know that love shouldn’t entail abuse, so what do we really need? willpower to draw themselves out? I don’t know..tis back to my prayer for them all again, that they may find themselves in Christ and know their worth. God help us all
1 + The OneFebruary 24, 2014 at 11:38 am
May God help us not be victims of cruelty.
imperfectlyperfect92February 24, 2014 at 8:27 pm
AMIN OO..And may we also know when to run away at the first sign of cruelty…
DamilolaFebruary 24, 2014 at 12:09 pm
Amen… may God help women discover that their worth is in God and not in any Man
imperfectlyperfect92February 24, 2014 at 8:29 pm
that’s my earnest prayer too Damilola.
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yourstrulyblogposts.blogspot.comFebruary 24, 2014 at 7:57 pm
My poor heart bleeds profusely – It’s unbelievable what some women are going through. I just said a prayer
imperfectlyperfect92February 24, 2014 at 8:38 pm
and God will hear us for anyone going through this yours truly, I believe..
and my heart bleeds time and time again anytime I think about it…Women gotta make right choices, the stories we hear/see are terrible..
glowingscenesFebruary 24, 2014 at 10:02 pm
amen to your prayers ohh frances. Sometimes I don’t understand why a woman who has the choice to run won’t. Is it by force? ha…some ppl think I’m too blunt in this kind of things but biko, all I will tell you is Let God write your love story. It can’t be better than that.
And as for those who end up unfortunate, I pray God heals their wounded broken spirit. Amen.
Me sef when I watched the film eh, I just got depressed. I told myself I won’t watch it again. It’s very sad.
CeeFebruary 24, 2014 at 11:29 pm
Amen oo. God please give us ladies your Spirit of Wisdom and Discernment. May we know battles worth fighting for and those we are better off running from (especially wrt love and relationships) . Was about to mention the Arowolo story. There are many other stories too. Know a lady whose husband threw her down the stairs. The sad thing is most stay cos of their children but those same kids are the reason to run cos if anything happens and the woman dies the kids get the worst hit ever.
imperfectlyperfect92February 25, 2014 at 12:58 pm
Am telling you Cee. Some stay cuz of the kids but when they die and the kids are left alone, who takes care of them then?
The reasons for staying are inconsequential in the face of what could and can happen if one stay in an abusive relationship/marriage.
And I say a big AMEN to your prayer, may God give us the grace to know the ones we should run away from, the ones we should flee from without looking back..
Thanks for stopping by,I appreciate you much.
divingdeeperingodFebruary 25, 2014 at 11:06 am
AMEN!!! Above all is finding our identity in him so we can get past whatever hurt we find in this broken world.
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imperfectlyperfect92February 25, 2014 at 1:01 pm
@divingdeeper, the place of finding our identity in Christ in moving past abuse in relationships/marriages cannot be overemphasized. Its one if not the most important in eradicating this terrible situations in relationships. Abuse in marriages wasn’t God”s plan at all..
Thank you for coming on here,welcome to the blogosphere,will definitely check out your blog..
imperfectlyperfect92February 25, 2014 at 12:55 pm
@Glowing scenes, sometimes, most times, I wonder why they stay too? Why oh why will one chose sadness and beatings, emotional trauma over happiness and the one God can bring to you.I don’t know why, but I pray God helps them all find theirself in Him.amen.
Irekpita's CoverFebruary 25, 2014 at 11:50 pm
These stories dear Lord. Why do women suffer so. Isn’t it a hard thing being a woman alone?
Sweet Jesus save us. I am tired of hearing women die as a result of abuse.
imperfectlyperfect92February 26, 2014 at 8:41 pm
Irekpita, I am tired of hearing about such too. Couldn’t help but pray for them all plus we can talk/help all we can too..its gotta stop
eniola prenticeFebruary 27, 2014 at 6:34 pm
Emotional scars and wounds are a lot more difficult than physical pain. It really takes God to heal some wounds because everyone has different emotional strength. Great post.
imperfectlyperfect92February 27, 2014 at 6:53 pm
Thank you Eniola, that’s the truth, it takes God to heal again..
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UjeMarch 1, 2014 at 8:27 am
Its so so sad some of the things ladies go through, I got to listen to a lady recently recounting the ordeal of how her hubby beats her on an almost daily basis, and after each torture he starts laughing at her, and mocking her knowing fully well she (being whom she is) can’t possibly retaliate…that broke a bit of my heart, so painful and I pray God helps her and so many others out of such unhealthy relationships. 🙁
imperfectlyperfect92March 1, 2014 at 11:09 am
Uje, so the man isn’t only a wife beater, he is a sadist, happy at the fact that as he puts her down, he rips not just the physical part of her but also the emotional part and her self-esteem..
ah, Lord help these women, pls do, tis too sad…
StupendousGraceMarch 1, 2014 at 9:09 pm
Amen to all the prayers!
imperfectlyperfect92March 1, 2014 at 9:35 pm
AMEN Eloho, thanks for stopping by
OlawandeAApril 4, 2014 at 7:14 pm
Hi Frances. I read your article on bellanaija and loved it. You are a gifted writer and I decided to check out your blog. It is very inspiring. I also write as well. I was wondering if it is possible to feature some of my articles on your blog. Thanks
imperfectlyperfect92April 5, 2014 at 6:19 pm
thanks a lot Olawande. I sent you a mail…