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25, Single And Deriliously Happy

So technically, I am not 25 yet. I will be 25 in September but I am also not quite 24 right? And 25 just sounds better even though I am wondering how I am 25 so soon! I still remember when I was 16!

I was going to base today’s letter on something else but I just got up from my prayer time (I am writing this at 01:51am. (Yes Black I see you  snickering at me, I don’t have insomnia 🙂


I was in the bathroom just now when this post came to me…


It has come to my notice that my favorite place to be is not at a date with any man…

Neither is it to go on one of my adventure trips climbing mountains and visiting waterfalls ...

My favorite place to be is on the floor before God, worshiping my heart out, praising Him or just being silent or just pouring my heart out to Him in tears. Where I am the most comfortable and satisfied is at my dates with Jesus.

Jesus makes me so happy… scrap that… He makes me so joyful, its unreal.

I mean, see what just one 30 minutes or 1 hour with Him can do to me.

And it is not that I do not desire to have a man/get married, as a matter of fact, that is something I have chats with God on maybe almost everyday. Recently my heart has become so inexplicably tender towards marriage/motherhood and I don’t know why so I talk to God about it.

My desire for an earthly marriage/home is still intact but then also my place with God is even much more intact.

What do I mean?

It is hard to put this into words.

What I am trying to say is that I have found Him in whom my heart rests and delights in.

My desire for a physical husband can never trump my desire for Jesus my husband – my redeemer (Isaiah 54:5).


I walk into His presence dry, tired and weary and I walk out energized and revved up.

I run into my hiding place sad and almost depressed and once I am in His arms He fills me up and has me laughing in the Holy Ghost.

Jesus satisfies me.

He fills my empty places.

So yes, I look with longing at some wedding pictures on social media but when I am with Him and in the presence all the longing for everything else fades away but Him.

Indeed like He told the woman at the well, He can give water that can never make one thirst ever again… water that will keep springing unto eternal life.


How did I get here Lord?

How did you get me to this place where my soul sings to you?

I don’t know but whatever you did, it worked and I love it!

Thank you for loving me!

Thank you for filling me up to overflowing.

Thank you or being the One who refreshes me.

Thank you for teaching me that with you I have all that I need and whatever you add to me is not done because it is a substitute for you but because you are a good good father who simply loves to give good gifts.


I just want to say that Daddy, I love the way you love me, and I love the way you have opened the way for me to love you right back, so much so that i don’t have any empty places peeking out of me, begging to be filled.

Pour out more of yourself on me Lord, I can take it. I want it. I want you.

And when we are all done, just give me you over and over again. My flesh may cry that you are not enough but we both know the truth. You are enough for me. You fill up every part of me. You heal the scars from years ago. You wipe the tears of today. You calm the fears of tomorrow.


When I am 30 or 80.

With him who you have ordained for me to do the earthly race with, still, may your place never be toppled in my heart.

You complete me Jesus.

Thank you!

Thank you!

Thank you Lord!


My heart beats for singles trying to please God while their hearts go on a state of frenzy every time they see wedding pictures on social media.

My heart beats for those who have all but called God unfaithful and abandoned Him because of the lack of a husband. Perhaps God wants to give you something even more than a husband in this season. Perhaps He wants to give you Himself. You can walk with Him in the fullness of joy and peace even while single. Yes you can.

Next week, I will do a YouTube video and try to share on how I have grown into this person who truly is deliriously joyful in God. You guys know my story.

This girl is a 360 degrees turn from the girl who didn’t want to leave a relationship even though it was bad for her.

I will try to share on how I got here where I stand with God.

If you have any specific questions you want me to address, feel free to comment with them below or mail me at


I love you all,


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  • Reply
    Princess Okechukwu
    April 8, 2017 at 7:18 pm

    I need to say that I love how you express your love for God. It is contagious.

    It is indeed a privilege to be able to experience God, to the point where His presence trumps whatever ‘lack’ we feel we have.

    Love you, chica! Stay burning for Him?

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      April 9, 2017 at 2:59 am

      In Him we live..move and have our being. No one else can take His place. He has all but spoilt us for anything else but Him.

      Love and miss you Princess

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    Adenine D. Akintola
    April 10, 2017 at 12:02 pm

    speechless…. Awesome!!

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      Frances Okoro
      April 10, 2017 at 12:48 pm

      Thank God!
      Hope the speechlessness is a good one Adenike 🙂

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        Adenike D. Akintola
        April 10, 2017 at 1:03 pm

        of course…. it’s a waawwuuuu speechlessness. More grace and unction ??

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    April 10, 2017 at 2:59 pm

    And we love you too!!!

    Oh Jesus, thank youuuuuu.

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    April 11, 2017 at 9:03 pm

    Woow…this is soo profound and came at the right time. I bless God that He has granted you grace to proclaim His Word, but really I wonder how our Father loves us relentlessly and keeps drawing us to Himself. Truly, only Him can satisfy, His Love is sooo pure and can’t be quantified. He’s all that I need. God bless you dear, keep loving God but, I bet you, you’re not the only one in this oooo *loool* our Father is my Father and I’m stuck with Him like crazily in love with Him and that makes us sisters. Much Love.
    Coincidentally, what playing on my background is *All I need is You by Jesus Culture* Help us to keep realizing that all we need is You, Lord and teach us to love You as we Ought (Amen)

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      Frances Okoro
      April 16, 2017 at 10:11 pm

      Amen and amen Pelumi!!! amen!!!
      And yesssss we are sisters.. how cool is that.. with a bond that is no other but Jesus’ blood! Keep loving up on Daddy.


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    April 22, 2017 at 2:01 pm

    I just wanted to “like” this post if there was a button to hit. Thank You Lord for loving Frances the way you love her.

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    April 26, 2017 at 6:51 pm

    We love you too Frances. God bless you . Maybe I haven’t told you this before but you inspire me a lot.

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      Frances Okoro
      April 28, 2017 at 12:26 pm

      aww. dear Bisola! Thank you dear…all God oh

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    May 12, 2017 at 1:36 pm

    It’s funny because I have read this post, but somehow, I found myself here again.

    I was asked by a handle on IG to share why I love and follow Jesus; and I found myself teary-eyed as I wrote the short article.

    It reminds me of a song by Tasha Cobbs- “I don’t mean to be emotional, but sometimes I cry, when I think of all the pain that I caused you inside. But you still love me…”

    My satisfaction grows each day in Jesus and somethings it hits me so much that it feels like my heart will burst. Jesus is life. Jesus is love. Jesus is eternity; and I’m so thankful to share Him with you and all my other siblings in Jesus.

    I am 20 something (lol), single, deliriously happy and satisfied in Jesus.

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      Frances Okoro
      June 5, 2017 at 9:19 pm

      Lol.. fellow 20 something B… its just such a deep (dont have the words) feeling when we do stop to think – really think of all Jesus has done for us. Sometimes I don’t do this enough and so get trapped in “desires and desires” when the truth is He has won it all for me. The life we live right now is the proof that this is sooo tryue. He won it all for us.
      Love you sis!

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