My heart almost stopped when I got the message from the proposed chief launcher of my book yesterday…
He said he won’t be able to attend the book launch and for a few minutes, I was confused.
Like what would happen now?
Who do I ask to fill in?
I experienced discouragement on another level last night and a bit of fear.
As I sat down to collect myself and my thoughts and speak to you, I realized, hey Lord, here’s one of the reasons why I actually need a husband!
I’m serious Lord.
As I walk on this path of purpose, I get to understand more and more your real purpose for marriage even before I step into the wonderful institution.
As I walked home with a heavy heart yesterday, I thought “it sure would be nice to be able to call “him” and tell him what just happened, draw strength from him and plan a plan B together…”
And then Ecclesiastes 4:9 kept ringing in my heart…
“Two people are better off than one for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble…”
Lord, I am not trying to hasten you up but I’m just saying that I am understanding better your reason for giving the gift of a husband/wife.
I have always known – at least from last year when you taught me – that the first reason why you bring a man and woman together is to fulfil your purposes and reap lives for you even with their union…
But now, I am even gaining deeper insight into the reason why I can’t marry a man who doesn’t advance your purposes along with me.
How would he understand the path you’ve sent me on?
How would he understand when I say that you have laid something on my heart to do?
And even worse, how would he encourage me in disappointing situations like the one that happened yesterday?
When I need someone to hold my hands and help me draw strength through prayers, how would a man who doesn’t understand purpose do that for me?
When I call him with fear threatening to overwhelm me while I go out with what you want me to do, how would a man who doesn’t understand purpose help me find my faith in you again?
When I just need an additional encouragement in the Lord, how would the man who I am supposed to be one flesh with who doesn’t understand purpose do that for me?
I see now Lord.
More and more I see why I can only marry your chosen son for me.
One with whom we can lift your name on high together.
One with whom we can run the race on fulfilling purpose together… nothing less would do Lord.
I see that more than ever before now.
So Daddy, I know that you have graciously added love and sex and kids in the mix as benefits of marriage and that’s wonderful (I imagine I would know just how wonderful these benefits are when I get there).
But I am getting to understand that I don’t need a husband primarily for those additional benefits.
I need a husband because “two are better than one and they have a greater reward for their labour”.
I need a husband because “two can better help each other succeed on the path God has called them on”.
I need a husband because “when one person falls and is discouraged, the other can better reach out and help”.
I am so thankful for the helpers of destiny you have placed in my path, but nights like last night, I yearn for one who I can call who just gets it because we are one flesh.
One whose my success is his success and his success is my success.
One who my purpose is wrapped up in his own purpose and we cannot help but run the path together because that’s the way it’s meant to be.
Again I am not hastening you up Lord because I believe that you make all things beautiful in Your time not mine.
But I am just saying that I understand one of the most important reasons why you’ll give me a husband.
I’m just saying that I am thankful that you are teaching me this now so I don’t get drawn away with the lovey-dovey that me and him will do when he comes and forget the truth that you first of all brought us together to advance your kingdom here on earth.
I’m just saying that I love how you’ve drawn my entire life into living for you and your purposes – and yes, even my future marriage, you’ve drawn it all into your original plan that it was meant for from the beginning of time.
I know you already know this but let me say it anyway.
I don’t get agitated over marriage but I channel my thoughts about it into praying for your man for me.
I haven’t seen him yet but I pray for him when my heart gets tugged on to do so… and I would love to do that today.
Lord, I pray for your chosen son for me… teach him these things about marriage even as you do same for me right now.
Give him grace to be an encourager with your Word springing forth in him.
Give him clarity on your vision and purpose for his life and our joint vision and purpose in our union also.
Help him to indeed be my head and lead me in the way that you want both of us to go when we come together.
And for now, I am thankful for the helpers of destiny you’ve given to him even before I come his way.
Thank you Lord Jesus. Thank you.
So Daddy, I’m just sprinkling a bit of my heart to you as I always do.
Till my next love letter to you,
Hopefully, my letter to Daddy above looks like someone else’s letter/heart call who’s been getting these lessons from God.
I think it’s beautiful the way God teaches us His way of doing things.
If you are sold out to Him in all ways including maritally, He just drops these sprinkle of lessons in your heart, even before you get married… its amazing really.
And if you haven’t read anything about purposeful marriages before, you can read the posts below…
And oh, the book – “10 Steps To Walking In Purpose” – my current walk in purpose that spurred this lesson will be unveiled on thursday, October 22nd, next week at a book launch/seminar.
Helpers of destiny, please pray along with me for grace and for everything to go smoothly.
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Have an ama-mazing weekend ahead.
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