Love&Relationships

The Real Power Couples

I find myself writing about relationships and marriages mostly on Fridays and I wonder why. Maybe I should turn Fridays to Friday frank relationship talks just like Monday’s inspirational drive yeah? Yes.
And how are you all doing? Week was great too? Thank God.

 

So I saw Kanayo Dike’s picture on Instagram during the week. She captioned it #purpose meets purpose. I think the guy’s her Bobo. I am not sure though but that’s not what I want to talk about, something else struck me…

Okay before I say it, here’s a disclaimer to Popsi. I know you read my blog oh, don’t start thinking that with all my posts on relationships, the man have come oh, so you and momsi won’t discuss and she will want to have “that conversation” with me.lol. I just like learning a lot about marriage God’s way, that’s all.

So as I was saying, I got thinking when I saw Kanayo’s picture…
God gave Eve to Adam as a help meet and it stands to reason that for someone to be a help meet, there must be something on ground for one to be helped with.
I think marriage is a whole lot more complex than the love we sing about.
Yes, love plays a large role but it’s more than that. When we meet a man/woman, we should be asking them what their purpose in life is..You know that question in Think like a man movie? That’s not just for laughs, it’s for real.

 

Yes, love plays a large role but it's more than that. When we meet a man/woman, we should be asking them what their purpose in life is.. Click To Tweet

 

Where does he/her see themselves in 5,10 years from now?
What do they have passion for? What’s their purpose in life?
How can you fit into those plans?
Apart from the rearing kids, marriage is a journey for both parties to fulfill their destiny in God and the one you are with should be the right person to move that purpose along, they should be your help meet not just “love meet”.
What’s your purpose in life?
What’s his purpose in life?
Can both purposes align?
Can you help each other?
Do you fit into each other’s purposes in life?
Can purpose meet purpose?
What do you think?

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I am beginning to understand more and more the reasons why someone like me cannot marry anyhow.
The reason why great people like you and I with God’s hands on us cannot just jump into relationships just because we feel like jumping into relationships…
God has a purpose for our lives- a purpose that can be derailed if we marry “just anyone”.
Your purpose has to meet with a man/woman’s purpose who can help it culminate together in God’s purpose for both of you.
A man with a ministry in Christ cannot just marry a woman who can’t help him along in it. Same with the woman.
You cannot just settle, you have to settle at the right time, with the right person for God’s right reasons. If we derail, we miss it big time. Remember Samson?

 

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After my last post to men, (see it here) there was someone who bashed me real good… He said it’s not by spiritualizing mere relationships.
Well, I write with the aim that most of our mind sets will be changed but sadly, I can’t force anyone to align, I really wish and pray that God touches everyone’s heart but still, everyone is entitled to their opinion.
But for me, relationships are not “mere”. If I want to court, it must be with purpose in mind, I can only be with the one who God says yes to for me. That’s the only way I won’t miss it.
And if we can’t spiritualize relationships, what else can we spiritualize? I mean God created marriages which are the aim of relationships..doesn’t it make sense even in our brains (not spiritually now) to give the product to the manufacturer?
God created marriage, He has the manual for it… The reason why we have too much clashes is because we want to do things with our physical minds.
We may fall short sometimes but really and truly, the only kind of marriage/relationship that really works is through God… That’s the only way things will blossom, we have to go back to God’s manual for relationships.
The only way to be power couples in God is when our purpose meets purpose.

 

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The true power couples are not the ones living in cash and living large according to world standards, but they are those walking in God’s purpose for their lives, fulfilling the reason why they were placed on this earth by God.

 

May we not miss it.
May we not for the sake of “just because” enter into any relationship.
God has His hands set on us, we just can’t do/be with just anyone.
It has to be purpose meet purpose.
Anything outside of that spells trouble. Ie, Samson kind of trouble.
God help us all.

 

Picture Source- Kanayo Dike Oduah of http://doctorkanayo.com/

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And an example of this true power couples am talking about? Check out Heather Lindsey and her hubby’s ministry on the link below, powerful combo I tell you… http://www.heatherllindsey.com/?m=1

 

TGIF people, enjoy your weekend!
Love,
Frances.

 

 

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31 Comments

  • Reply
    Kanayo Dike-Oduah
    June 6, 2014 at 11:11 am

    Reblogged this on Kanayo Dike-Oduah and commented:
    When Purpose meets Purpose…

  • Reply
    Kanayo Dike-Oduah
    June 6, 2014 at 11:16 am

    Loved this! Thank you for the feature sis!

    #Purpose

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    Power needs fuel | Ruth-TP
    June 6, 2014 at 12:15 pm

    […] Also here’s the link to the original post 😉 http://imperfectlyperfect92.wordpress.com/2014/06/06/the-real-power-couples/ […]

  • Reply
    buqie
    June 6, 2014 at 1:24 pm

    Running off to reblog this. Right away.

    • Reply
      imperfectlyperfect92
      June 6, 2014 at 1:28 pm

      Buqie love! I’ve missed you oh..been stopping by your blog…there’s a way your blog opens up that shows old posts before the new…anyways how body?
      Thanks for stopping by and reblogging dear.

      • buqie
        June 9, 2014 at 2:20 pm

        Sweetie’m! I’ve missed you too o. Eeyah, that’s sorted now. Those posts were sticky but the setting has been changed.

        This naija network ehn, no be here o. Been trying to reblog since Friday, was eventually successful yesterday. Imagine!

        I’m all for purpose my dear, i just had to reblog.

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    Ugochi Jolomi
    June 6, 2014 at 4:32 pm

    Great post Frances! I have always told singles that you cannot marry someone going in a different direction from you. It won’t last.
    I know we will get to know when you meet “the man”, or won’t we?

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      imperfectlyperfect92
      June 6, 2014 at 5:52 pm

      Aunty Jolomi!!!
      Thanks for the wisdom nugget..
      And as for knowing when I meet the man, hmm, you will sure know, all my online mama’s…

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    tenderonii
    June 6, 2014 at 8:48 pm

    Wow,…enjoyed this…..I can be your significant other Frances…..we both can be Power Couples…..lol Thanks for the inspiration/jist,..ur d best

    • Reply
      imperfectlyperfect92
      June 7, 2014 at 7:03 am

      Bebe Hannah! Naija say we can’t be significant other oh, and God nor gree, and I love you too much to allow you to be jailed oh..so let’s settle for power friendships yeah? Or power couples in friendships? Or do I even make sense sef? Frances! Anyways, babes, together, we are pow wow! Lol
      Thanks babes, you are the best

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    Maggielola
    June 7, 2014 at 5:13 am

    Friday love letters?? Yes please! 🙂

    Purpose meets purpose…hmm. I believe this is where feelings of attraction have to come secondary because when this purpose ship sinks, it will take more than just being sexually attracted to each other to re-align the purpose. Love isn’t enough. Thanks for the eye-opener, Lawyer Frances. Btw I should start calling you that now, hehe

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      imperfectlyperfect92
      June 7, 2014 at 7:07 am

      Thank you Maggie! I love the name..”Friday Love letters”.. hmm, will see if I can do that. Would be niice!
      And I love the way you put it..purpose can’t jump ship oh, it’s gotta stay, otherwise, even the love will not be enough.

      And oh, lawyer Frances? That’s just telling me to get up now and go and read!lol
      Thanks girl!

  • Reply
    exceptionalstar
    June 7, 2014 at 11:35 am

    How we fall short, when we make things mere and feel we can handle them on our own. God want to be involved in the littlest things in our lives.

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    Chioma
    June 8, 2014 at 1:59 am

    This write up blessed me.

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    Tomiwa
    June 8, 2014 at 8:26 am

    Bless you Frances

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    Bambie
    June 8, 2014 at 9:29 am

    I like UR post but…. Remeber that man and woman relationship are not spiritual… They are physical , analytical, emotional, and deals with a lot of maturity. Don’t be deceived. You are still young and sound it when you are older and realize that u need a lot of tact and the grace of god to keep a relationship. You will then be more practical. Try out a relationship and know is so hard to keep two people who are from different background together. It’s not spiritual it’s tact.

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      imperfectlyperfect92
      June 8, 2014 at 9:38 am

      Thank you Bambie, I appreciate your comment.
      The fact that I dwelled on the spiritual aspect of relationships and God’s will for marriage doesn’t mean that I am relegating the place of tact, maturity et al like you listed in your comment.
      Yes I am young, and yes being older brings more growth but I pray to grow more in wisdom as I learn and not merely in age. We have 40year Olds who don’t know so much, my prayer is as I grow, I will also grow in wisdom-age truly has nothing on it.
      And as for there is no spirituality to it at all, we are all entitled to our opinions and I beg to differ a little..apart from my tact,maturity and all, I believe MY OWN marital story will be orchestrated by God, yes I have my own part to play, but still it will be a three cord fold, God, the man and me..so yes, it’s a whole deal spiritual.
      But like I said, my dwelling on the spiritual aspect in just this post doesn’t mean that I am not cognizant of the other aspects of relationships.
      God help us all.
      Thanks again

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    buqie
    June 8, 2014 at 8:44 pm

    Reblogged this on Bukky's Blog and commented:
    When purpose meets purpose…

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    seunodukoya
    June 9, 2014 at 5:31 am

    To each his own.

    I think that one of the biggest issues facing this generation is how we take nothing but money-making seriously.

    I want to ask; if we cannot spiritualize relationships, what then; is there to spirituaize? EVERYTHING going on in our lives at every point in time has a lot to do with the people we have around us – so how can we take spiritual things for granted?

    Thank you for sharing this. Thank you.

    • Reply
      imperfectlyperfect92
      June 13, 2014 at 8:25 pm

      Seun, I really agree with your point of view-so far as it has to do with cash, bring it on, we are onto learning about it but for the more important aspects of life, I agree that we can get soo lax about it sometimes.
      As for spiritualizing marriage, ah, my view is all over this post and my blog. I won’t leave out my own side of the deal, but God is in it all the way from the start.
      Thanks for stopping by…

  • Reply
    mateyscott
    June 10, 2014 at 2:21 pm

    Frances my daughter, bring that man home o. That man that will help you to shine as God wants. That man that will lead you in the path that God wants. That man that will not only compliment you but you will compliment him in all spheres. Frances my daughter, oya be fast. We your readers are waiting for that post introducing the man o. But, don’t rush my darling. When the time is right, no one will need to tell you before God make you people jam yourself.

    Lol! I have clearly missed reading your posts. Stay blessed hon and help me publicise my blog o. Thanks boo and thank you so much for your mail.

    http://mateyscott.blogspot.co.uk/?m=1

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      imperfectlyperfect92
      June 13, 2014 at 8:29 pm

      Publicist your blog I will, you’ve dropped the link already..oya everyone go and visit mayowa’s blog ooo*smiles*
      Dearie, hope the email wasn’t too late, and hope you had a blast?

      This post eh, has made many people eager to see “the one”, and made me get a lot of prayers including yours. Thank you oh, thank you.
      #At the right time…

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    lynda
    September 12, 2015 at 12:15 pm

    You’re very right. I kinda think God led me to this blog as I am discerning marriage right now. I’ve been reading your old articles, a couple at a time. Really good to see someone so young who’s got the heart for God, damning what the world thinks or says. And bringing out the time to respond to comments. Be thou blessed and do not stop! I just woke up from an immoral dream- I know that’s not me, but then I kinda backslided yesterday into worldly music/movies with sex scenes and boom, the devil used it to mess with my mind in a dream!! hmmn (or so I think)! The devil will do everything to discourage God’s children cos it kills him that we have blessed destinies and power in the word over him. But praise God, we do!

    I like where you said that if Gods hands on you, you cannot afford to marry anyhow or bow to societal pressure. I think many get discouraged by the ‘worldly’ men/women who do all the clubbing, fornicating and are still ‘blessed’ to get married to ‘good’ spouses (good looking, rich or comfortable, good jobs etc). I mean, its so easy to get discouraged when things like that happen. But I’ve come to notice that the walk isn’t always smooth for true christians as God sometimes places little crosses on our shoulders which we have to bear in faith, obedience and trust.

    So when we like, disobey, like Samson did, it could affect our destinies and spoil God’s plan. ThankGod Jesus held on to the end. And its good to know that even when Samson cried out to God in the end, God didn’t turn away. He was still used at the moment of his death. destiny fulfilled!

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      September 13, 2015 at 11:46 pm

      Hey Lynda… awww, thank you for your kind words…

      Something struck me as i read your comment though:
      ” I think many get discouraged by the ‘worldly’ men/women who do all the clubbing, fornicating and are still ‘blessed’ to get married to ‘good’ spouses (good looking, rich or comfortable, good jobs etc)…”

      This is so true but I believe that if we would fix our eyes on how God measures marriage/relationships, we’ll have less heartache about this.
      God doesn’t measure who’s good enough for us by his looks and cash, but by whether he is God’s chosen man for us, who’d love us as Christ loves the Church and also help bring to fore God’s purposes for both our lives and marriage… and that, that aim is worth waiting for.

      God help us all as we wait and discern in accordance with His mind and ways, not the world’s…in Jesus name, amen.

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    AJ BLACK
    February 7, 2016 at 7:45 pm

    Hey,

    I just read this post. I imagine it’s very old-but then, I just got here, so it’s brand new to me. The post hit the tops of so many nails.

    I love that you looked at the marriage institution from ‘foundations’-since God designed it, He ought to know how to run it; how to maintain it. I feel very strongly that you can trace almost all societal problems to the failure of the family-the failure of marriage. The reason, it appears to me, is that God built the family as the foundation of society. If the family works, you can start iterating from there on to other social units for as large and as far as you want to go.

    I think our marriages fail because we ‘under-spiritualize’ them. For what is spiritualizing if not following God’s counsel and template. I cannot accept the thesis that the spiritual is not practical. I think that amounts to saying that a mechanic has better advice on running a car than the manufacturer has because the mechanic uses simpler language.

    I loved this post and I think you are doing a great job, because I believe a lot of young women set themselves up for a lot of tears by the decisions they take on relationships and marriage.

    Peace and love.

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      February 17, 2016 at 10:41 pm

      Thank you Aj Black… this post is old but it contains one Lesson God taught me that He keeps building on… I believe like you have said that the institution of the family Is so important, if it falls, all else falls… the only way to ensure that the home keeps standing is to make sure that we run it in line with the maker’s – God’s plan for it… this is one truth that everyone needs to realize.

      Thanks for your kind words, good to meet you here, God bless you…

  • Reply
    Vicky
    August 17, 2016 at 10:49 am

    How is it that I did not comment?! And I absolutely remember reading this post…well it’s all good.

    Well said. If you both are on different lanes, may not really work

    • Reply
      Frances Okoro
      August 17, 2016 at 10:46 pm

      Loool Vicky… sha you are back to commenting two years after…

      Amos 3:3 “can two walk together except they be agreed?”

      That says it all really…

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