My dear single ladies and gentlemen,
I have missed you all like something else.
Somehow, I have been missing out on posting Frances’ Love Letters and #OnlineBibleStudy for a while now.
Its not my fault per say.
Light issues and battery issues.. almost always rear their head up on those two days.
Forgive me 🙂
But I am here today and finally we get to talk about something that I should have written about last year but it didn’t quite feel like the right time. But today… lets dig in.
The Ephesians 5:25 man.
Who is this man?
A lot of ladies wonder about what the characteristics Â for chosing their man should be based on.
I first encountered the Ephesians 5:25 man last year when God gave me insight on Him when I was praying about a relationship.
Him or not Him?
And God led me to His word.
“For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of Godâs word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself.”
Ephesians 5:25-28 NLT
The first thing we must know is that Jesus is the prototype for this man.
What was Jesus’ ultimate reason for giving up His life for the church?
To make her holy and clean. So if a man doesn’t love you in such a way that you are presented holy and clean, then is that love according to what Jesus wants for you?
Is that the kind of love Jesus wants for you?
The love of Jesus purges us from all stuffs that hold us back from being pure in Him so when Jesus loves you, expect yourself to get better…expect your life to be cleansed from the dirt that clogs it.
“Washed by the cleansing of God’s word…”
Jesus’ love for us aligns with the Word of God. The Bible.
So to know how a man should be to you.. you must know what the Word of God says about relationships.
What does God’s word say about the character of a godly man/woman who He wants as a spouse for you?
Does this man’s character align with it?
Does your relationship with Him make you better as Jesus does?
Is He pulling off bad attributes off of you?
Is He making you more like Jesus or less like Him?
Do you get more godly wisdom from him?
Are you encouraged by him?
Jesus loved the Church and gave Himself up for her and even now is working on her to become a glorious church without spot and wrinkle or any other blemish marring her.
Jesus says no to blemishes.
Now this is my personal word for not kissing before marriage.. .
Its a high standard but what Jesus wants for me. .without spot or blemish.
Jesus says my man for you – the Ephesians 5:25 man would also desire to keep you pure like I do.
He would want to present you to me without blemish, holy and acceptable to me.
When you stand before Jesus with your boyfriend, does Jesus approve of him or does he find fault with how the guy presents you to Him?
The Ephesians 5:25 man would also love you by feeding and caring for you as Christ does the Church.
Christ feeds and cares for the Church.
Now what does Jesus feed the Church with?
The Bible says we are spirit but have a soul and body.
What do you feed the spirit with?
The Word of God.
Jesus feeds us with meals for the three parts of our bodies.
His word for our spirit…
His word to transform and renew our mind – soul.
Takes care of us physically too day by day…
How can a man feed you like Jesus does?
By taking care of all parts of you too. Body, soul and Spirit.
Can that man feed your Spirit with the word of God?
Does he wash you with the water of the Word?
Are you depressed and perpetually sad with this guy?
Do you think better and align your thoughts with the word of God when this man is there?
Is your spirit man sharpened or dull when this man is with you?
Do you increase spiritually or decrease after every time spent with him?
Do you have to repent after Â every meet up with this man because you always fall into sexual temptation?
Are you farther away from Jesus or closer because of this relationship?
Can you imagine Jesus as your husband defiling your body with sexual sin before marraige?
Then why do you think He would give you a man who does that to you?
I know he may say I am human and get tempted. .thats correct but Jesus man for you would say “I desire you right now but I also want to present you holy to Jesus. I can’t do this sin against God”.
This is a tall order but this is the Ephesians 5:25 man.
He is not perfect but you will see a measure of Jesus in him.
Jesus promises us His kind of man for us and He will groom and build him to be that kind of man.
As He is building you as a queen, He is also building your king.
So DON’T SETTLE.
Same with the men too.
Jesus won’t give you a woman that hasn’t been made/molded in a certain regard by Him.
To us ladies.
Read and study the Ephesians 5:25 man again.
Take the lessons and apply to yourself.
Do you think that you are also Â allowing yourself to be molded for an Ephesians 5:25 man?
Are you allowing yourself to be built too?
It goes both ways.
So for those confused, I hope the Word has been able to help us see what Jesus’ man for us is like.
You can start praying for your man too today.
Its not easy to be built to be this man.. only God can do it and the man has to be willing to be molded.
Pray for your future husband.
He needs it.
Next week we shall talk about submission for the ladies.
The 1 Peter 3 woman.
Till our next love letter on here,
For more on the attributes of a godly man..
The list for a future husband, you can pre-order the women at the well upcoming book.
Its a four part study that also contains a study from men in the Bible we can all use as a measure to write our list.
See more details on the book HERE