My recent article on Bella Naija (click I Am Not Looking For A Boyfriend! I Only Want To Talk About Business )
got me thinking about virtue and character.
And one would ask how writing on a site will get one thinking about character and virtue.
My recent article on BN reminded of some of my earlier articles on BN like the “My Cooking Skills Do Not define Me” and “Imperfectly Perfect“
Those articles had so much backlash directed at me in the comment section – so much backlash that certainly would have made me cry if I wasn’t so strong.
And the most recent article had a little bit of those kind of harsh comments too.
It had strangers calling me “smur smur girl that just rushes to put fancy words down”
And “a girl who has fancy ideas of princes in shining armor”
All these from people who do not know me but somehow came to wrong conclusions about me just from a single article(an article which they had misconstrued)
I remember a certain mother bashing me on the “Imperfectly Perfect” article because I had called my eyes “half past eyes”
I remember how hard it was to reply her with a sensible comment too then.
And sincerely, my first retort wasn’t something pretty, but I had to think before I wrote anything back in response and I am glad I did so.
And that’s the same thing I did with the comments on the “I am not looking for a boyfriend…” article.
It got me thinking and tweeting some stuff and then I realized that this is actually better shared under our “Christian writers/bloggers category” on the blog.
It arose from my article on BN but the lessons I got was on more than writing on BN.
Here’s the deal…
If you write for God, you will ALWAYS get backlash from people about what you are writing about.
On this blog, we somehow have got awesome blog readers/followers who always leave such heart warming compliments(thank you all), but I remember sometime last year when I just started writing on lessons God was teaching me on relationships.
I had comments making jabs at my age and being young and naive for believing that God actually writes love stories(I still haven’t gotten around to writing the article about age and wisdom…)
And I realized then as I do now too, that no matter what, I can’t reply such persons in the same tone they used to speak to me.
Because the minute I do that, the next thing you will hear is “and you say that you are a Christian”
There somehow is a higher level of good character/virtue expected from a Christian.
Now, I have never always had the polite replies thing on fleek.
I remember some years back, my strong point was my mouth/hands.
I could use it and use it WELL in giving a good backlash.
I mean, you dare not speak to me anyhow and not get a well couched insult in reply.
But that was then, this is now.
It’s actually almost surprising that I am now someone who thinks before they write back a reply to someone.
How was this change wrought in me?
Well, somehow, in the 1 + year of writing/blogging for God on this blog, that change has been wrought in me.
And I still don’t understand how it happened.
How is it possible that God molded some of my flaws in the process of my using my gift for Him?
Well, it happened and it can happen for you too.
Christian writers(or even if you aren’t a Christian writer, you can learn from this too), can be molded in character through using their gifts for God.
All of a sudden, you can’t type some sort of harsh replies to comments on your blog.
You stop, think, put yourself in their shoes before you reply people.
You use wisdom when you type out responses.
You let your words to always be wrapped with kindness and have a word in season for everyone.
You become selfless and not selfish.
These can only happen if you let God build you as you use your gift of writing for Him.
Isn’t it awesome that God is this awesome?
He will build your life even as you serve Him with your gift.
He doesn’t just require that you serve Him for nothing, He washes you through your flaws and molds you even in that service.
In Mobolaji’s words, “He beautifies you”.
One day you wake up and you don’t say anything harsh to anyone anymore, you just can’t find it in you to do that.
How did that happen?
He built that in you even as you wrote/blogged for Him in your own little space of the internet.
It’s amazing that God can do great stuffs in our lives even in that little place that He placed us in.
He will cause you to flourish and overwhelm you with His hands even as He molds you in that little space of your blog.
So if you are wondering whether you are making any difference with your Christian blog, wonder no more.
God is making a difference in your life even now.
He is building character, relationship skills, communication skills, respect for others…in you even as you write/blog for Him.
I have seen it happen in my own life.
And I did nothing intentional to achieve it.
I just woke up one day and found out that I had no desire to backlash those who left harsh comments on my articles.
Me, the champion talkative, the talkative… I had no desire to be harsh to anyone over the internet.
How did that happen?
God made it happen.
Even as I blogged/wrote for Him.
And He will build character in you too even as you blog/write for Him.
Don’t ever think that you are achieving nothing with that writing talent He has given to you.
If for nothing, He is molding and beautifying you and soon, very soon, you will find your little flaws all fading away even as you use your gift of writing for God.
God bless us all as we continue to write for Him and place Him first in our lives.