Staying with ones old folks has its ups and down. In as much as its appears great and it gives the appearance of a happy family, at other times, it gives the impression of a youth who canât wait to get out of his/her parentâs reach.
The reality these days is that youths over stay in the comfort of their parentsâ home especially after NYSC, this in turn makes the youth to start to feel a sense of responsibility and independence late in life.
We all know parents to be over protective and would definitely want to have a say on how their youthful wards conduct his/her life, what he/she eats, what he/she wears, where he/she goes, who comes visiting and the list is endless.
The truth is that the youth barely have any breathing space. Ideally as it is in the western world, at the age of 17/18, a youth should have been on his own trying to develop and horn his skill in life.
As the saying goes, you can train a child but you cannot tame an adult.
The false impression most parent holds is that, it is at late teens of a youth that they should be taughgtlife skills. Well I would say that is a false belief because at this stage the youth is prime and ready to take on the world and it is expected that he/she had learnt enough in the formative years(0-16 years).
The essence of this piece is to advocate for idea of youth independence by giving some useful tips.
Firstly, Youths themselves must realize and start thinking towards independence early. Say by 14 years of age, since by the average of 16 years of age they would be through from secondary school and would have probably been in the university. A proper scheme should have evolved as to saving up for ultimate independence at 18.
With the rise of youth billionaires we must rightfully re-tool our youth to be able to take their place in the new order. Take that with a four year plan, the youth can tangibly engage in part-time business venture. Also at 14 the average youth is suppose to exhibit considerable maturity in his approach to life issues. This would be a good selling point on the need to be independent.
Lastly, the youth should involve their parent and older stake holders in the plan as they cannot do all by themselves.
The importance of independence cannot be over emphasized and a failure of the old folks to realize this is a failure to invest in the future.
An independent youth would be alert and realize his/her potential in the society; he is a go getter and doesnât depend on stipends.
He is conscious of his finance; he knows what he wants and wouldnât stop at anything to get it.
The future of the country lies in the hands of independent, progressive youth who can stand their ground and make effective decisions that affect lives realizing that it is their decision to make and it is no oneâs consequence if that decision doesnât work out.
Ayokunnumi Adeiya Aribidara, is a Lawyer and ” intraprenuer”, a non conformist, something in between A Lawyer by weekday and an Hustler by weekends.