Dear lovers of Frances’s love letters,
I hope this letter meets you well.
For me, as at the time of writing this letter, I am well and mighty grateful to God.
I’ve been singing a certain song in my heart too, let me share the words on here…
“I bless your name Lord, your plans for me are always, always good…”
Yes, God is awesome!
Like I wrote in our last love letter, He is worthy to be praised, not just for what He has planned for us maritally, but also for everyone that He doesn’t have for us maritally.
I’ve had people who tell me that I speak about God like He is sitting on the chair close to me or like I can see Him physically.
I remember a fellow corper asking me “Frances, you speak of God like this, does God speak to you back? Has He spoken to you today?”
I replied and told Him, “ofcourse, God always speaks.”
For me, He speaks to me in my inner man. Sometimes, I just have reoccurring words and instructions inside of me.
He speaks to me through His Word. Most of the Bible Studies on my blog are written through that method. I just suddenly have a particular passage ringing in me, I check it up and then it’s a floodgate of lessons, some relating to things I am going through per time, and some relating to things I may not even have gone through yet but somehow in the days to come, the Word comes in handy.
And then another way that I’ve realized that God speaks to us is through circumstances.
Now, there are times when I want to know God’s will concerning a certain matter, in this instance, concerning a potential spouse.
I pray and pray and then wait for that still small voice to speak to me but somehow, I hear nothing. Probably because I am all tensed up and afraid of the answer.
But I keep praying anyway.
And then suddenly, it seems like I have gotten an answer in my spirit. I am happy and feel like I have gotten a go-ahead about that certain someone.
But guess what I do?
I still don’t go ahead yet.
Because in the matters of the heart, our flesh all too often wants to hear what it wants to hear and sometimes miss God.
So no matter what I hear, I keep my heart praying and my eyes watching(inthe’s words)
And then it happens, more often than not, stuff just happen out of the blues.
Stuffs like what happened in red lips story.
Somehow, a quarrel springs up that should mean nothing but just makes me see into the character of the potential spouse.
Somehow he does something that just doesn’t align with what the word says concerning a marital spouse.
Somehow, his true actions and not his words show through.
Now, some may say that these things are coincedences but let me give you guys my experience about that.
Recently, this surreal experience happened to me but I was still in doubt as to whether I did the right thing or not.
I told my friend that I followed what the Word of God said concerning it but I still don’t know if I did the right thing.
She assured me that the Word of God is the greatest compass to follow and I was reassured.
But guess what?
It just seemed like God was reading our conversation and the very next day, something just happened that made me know that “Frances, you made the very right decision, no going back now”
I mean, it was surreal.
You know when something happens to you and you are like “was God reading my messages, was He reading my mind?”
But of course He is.
Psalm 139 says He knows us inside and outside, He knows what we are going to say even before we say it.
So what did He do in this instance?
He had given me His Word and I was still in doubt and then He spoke through the circumstances surrounding the situation.
He made the RED DANGER SIGN so clear, so much so that there was no more doubt in my heart.
Some of us are praying about the will of God concerning that potential spouse and we say God hasn’t spoken to us concerning him/her.
These days, I am learning to chill.
My bestie and Pastor Nathaniel Bassey told me something, they said God always speaks, just chill, is it not God?
If He doesn’t speak to your heart/through His word, He will speak through the circumstances, a certain check and red sign will suddenly become so glaring to you.
A red sign that contradicts with the Word of God in its entirety.
The reason why people make mistakes is that they refuse to heed to these red danger signs that God uses to speak to them.
He says he is godly but is lax with presenting your body as holy and pure to God(Ephesians 5:25) how then can he be God’s chosen for you?
He doesn’t make your relationship with God better, instead you are far away from God now in contrast with before you met him, how can he be the one for you?
She hasn’t improved you in any way since you met her, you have no peace about it all, how can she be God’s chosen for you?
Oh dears, we have to learn to read the red danger signals.
You might not hear an audible voice in answer to your prayers about that relationship but God always speaks.
He does speak.
When this recent stuff happened to me, I felt like shouting on the rooftop, “prayers work! God is guiding my footsteps! How did He know? Was He reading my chat with my friend? Oh my God, thank you for direction”
No need for me to rigmarole again, you know when the circumstance is an answer to prayer, you just know.
My letter to you today will simply end with, follow God’s voice.
Follow the Word.
No matter what you are seeing/hearing in your head, the Word is the greatest compass there is. The leading will align with the Word.
And if you are still in doubt, watch the circumstances.
God always speaks.
Somehow He will make the true actions of that potential spouse shine through.
Remember by their fruits we shall know them?
He will just make those fruits so visible to you so you know what’s up.
Either ways, God always speak concerning our marital choices especially if you have given that aspect of your life over to Him(I am so glad I did!)
I will end with words from my bestie, what she used to round up our discussion on this issue…
“That’s God’s way of speaking to you and directing you. He wouldn’t let you go into the wrong relationship without a sign or warning. Its good you’re listening cos God is already speaking.
I join you to celebrate my dear, we cannot miss it in marriage, we are God’s special ladies, too loaded to be frustrated in marriage.
Don’t worry, I just have this conviction in my Spirit that our marriages would be great. We shall settle with great men that truly fear and love the Lord. I’m so sure of this”
Uhm, if you are a man reading this, just replace the man with woman 🙂
And just as an aside can I say how awesome it is to have godly friends?
Like friends that just get you and get God too?
Friends that you know can talk about boys, be real but also know that even in that aspect God rules all?
Ok, let me not rave and rave about my friends.
I don’t have much, but the two besties I have, I cherish them like crazy.
Words like the above are part of the reason why I do.
They are just awesome, just awesome!
And of course I think I ended up sharing lessons in this letter aside from knowing God’s will about a potential spouse.
I am interested in hearing from you, what spoke to your heart as you read along?
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We’ll meet up again right here next week by God’s grace.